Post # 1
If I have a reception start at 5 or 6, I plan on having it start on time. People will prob seat half hour early. Would it be ok to skip coctail hour/ hor dourves? I dont see any point if we are just going to start and begin dinner.
Post # 2
What time is the ceremony?
Post # 3
It depends what time your ceremony begins. Even if you plan on having the reception begin on time (most people do), delays pop up. Also, depending on how many guests you have, it may take a while for everyone to be served.
If your ceremony is from 3-4, then reception starts at 5, what do you plan for your guests to do for that time? Similiarly, if your ceremony is from 4-5, with seating finished around 5:45, it will take a while for everyone to be served. That means your guests would go a while without food.
It really depends on your timeline. It can be done, but does depend on the schedule.
Post # 4
I don’t know that I’ve ever been to a wedding where people were seated a half an hour before the reception/dinner service started. Will there be water/wine on the tables or an open bar while people are waiting?
Unless you have several servers per table it will take a little while for all the tables to be served, longer if you are having a buffet, so there could be considerable time without any food or drink.
Could you compromise with some appetizers on the tables?
Post # 5
Is your ceremony and reception at the same place? If they’re at the same place and there is a large gap, you may want a cocktail hour but I don’t think hor’ dourves are necessary. I’ve honestly never been to a wedding where there were hor’ dourves.
You could say I am doing a cocktail hour but I’m not doing hor’ dourves. My ceremony is at 4:00, will last a half hour and guests will go from the ceremony to the reception (same venue), find their seats and I am hosting a couple kegs of beer, wine, pop and water throughout the night so people can grab a drink or two before hand. The bridal party will enter at 5:00 and the salad course will be served at 5:30.
Post # 6
A very good friend of our skipped hor’ douves. We had about 45 mins before we sat down. There wasn’t really a timeline. They got married. My Fiance helped move a speaker. We grabbed a drink and watched from a far as they took some pictures. The grounds they got married on where awesome. So a big group of us looked around.
Until planning my own wedding. I didn’t even notice they didn’t have food during cocktail hour. In Pittsburgh we all do cookie tables which are out from cocktail hour until they are all gone. So if you are not looking for it you don’t even notice a fruit tray or meatballs missing with our drink.
Post # 7
I think it depends if you are doing your photos before or after the ceremony—We are also starting our ceremony at 5 PM but have decided to not see each other before the wedding, so we’ll have to take a chunk of time after the ceremony to do pictures. We decided because of this to have appetizers & eat a little bit later, around 6:30 or 7. Up to you, but I think if you’re planning on taking lots of pictures or having a large lag time & can afford it, people will appreciate something to graze on!
Post # 8
We are not having the reception and ceremony at the same place. I guess what im trying to figure out is to have guests arrive half hour before bridal party is announced? Or say have everyone show up at 5…bridal party enter by 5:45… dinner at 6? We will have open bar but im trying to see if I could skip out on appetizers