Post # 1
Because I am on a super tight budget, the FH and I have decided to do a cake reception or some sort of dessert/candy buffet. I am not sure on the specifics yet. I am trying to decide if I’d rather have it at night after everyone has had dinner or do it during the day between lunch and dinner. Which would you prefer at a wedding? Also to note, it will be dry. I saw far too much drunkenness out of my parents at my sisters wedding and I would rather not relive that unpleasantness.
Post # 3
If I were a guest I’d want to go between lunch and dinner, maybe around 3:30 or 4:00. After dinner would be too late for me.
Post # 4
i would choose day. you’d have to check the sunset time for august where you are if you want to have it at night because you would want pictures before it gets dark, but then that might be dinner time. plus, no alcohol = day for me.
Post # 5
I would say your best bet is the 2:30 to 4:00 window.
Post # 6
We’re doing a dessert and hors d’oeuvres – and we’re doing it in the afternoon (1pm ceremony – reception immediately following)
We had the same debate and thought afternoon was best for us because we’re having a fall wedding and it was between a 1pm ceremony or a 7pm ceremony and if we did the 7pm option there would be very little time for pictures (we don’t want to see each other until the ceremony). I think with an afternoon reception there’s less expectation of alcohol too. We’re still having alcohol but doing beer and wine only.
Post # 7
@jessjess:I love this idea! I have planned this type of wedding before and we have found that 2pm works well as long as reception starts at 3:30. Ask your photographer how long pictures will take and factor in travel time to reception site. If you start much later then four, in a couple of hours people will start wanting “real” food and if you start earlier than 1:30-2pm people might have to skip lunch in order to get to your wedding. Most of the time dessert only receptions don’t last as long so you can get an early jump on your honeymoon. Always a good thing in my opinion!
If you start at seven you have people getting ready and traveling during the dinner hour and even though you specify it is dessert only you always end up with someone who doesn’t read the invitation. The benefit of a late evening is that candles are lovely and cheap so you can save on decorations! If you go the evening route my vote would be a 7:30 ceremony.
Can you have ceremony and reception in same place? That would really streamline things. Then your photographer could take pictures during ceremony, only do a few after, take pictures during cake cuting, toasts etc. then you can finish up pictures while guest are mingling or after they leave. I have seen that done and it seemed to work well.
I applaud you for going dry. I to have experienced unpleasantness from drunkness at weddings. Some will give you a hard time but stay strong this is YOUR wedding.
If you need some dessert ideas let me know. Anything I can do to help.
Post # 8
My brother had this type of reception at 7PM which worked out well for them. They wanted a dance with it, and an afternoon reception didn’t really go with that idea. I think it definitely depends if you want a dance or not. I think 7PM for the ceremony and 8PM for the reception is good if you’re just doing sweets.