Trying to Fall in Love with my Ringposted 2 years ago in Rings
- 2 years ago
tbenjamin4884 : thank you so much for sharing your journey- it makes me feel a little relieved I’m not the only one experiencing this weird feeling. A lot of people mistaken our changes as being unappreciative or materialistic. But I see it more or less as going after something you want. It’s not like this is fashion jewelry that we sondomly use – this is permanent stuff here!
I have to say that rounds have grown on me and I like them as much as a cushion or an emerald shape. What I don’t like about rounds is that they don’t look as big as other shapes and they’re the most expensive shape. However I was told that they sparkle the most. Like everything else there is the good and the not so good side to things. Moving forward,I’m able to trade up my diamond whenever I want but it has to be double the price which puts me in the 1.5-1.7 carat range. With that said I already informed my jeweler about this noting that I want to keep the same specifications as my current one since it does look good to the eye and sparkle a lot. Currently trying to save up for that as we speak so this will also allow me to have more time to ponder about all of this. I see it as he paid for half and I pay for the other half so both of us are in this. We both have some patient SO!
Another thing with ring envy is that a lot of women that I see in south Florida have massive rocks – both in the fancy parts of town and in the not so nice parts. I think everyone is trying to be part of a standard with a lot of them faking it till they make it. I have been trying to keep my blinders on and focus on what looks good on my hand/finger rather than following the 3 plus carat standard in my area.
Im glad that you love your ring now and you can share your journey with me. It’s a breath of fresh air knowing that you did not stop until you got what you wanted. That’s some determination.
- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
isabee : You will find what you want I am confident of that. I know what you mean about rounds being the most expensive. I went from a 1.53 carat to a 1.02 and came out of pocket $200 goes to show you though if quality inst there you can find the size you want LOL. I will say I am very lucky in a sense that I found my jeweler because I don’t have to double up, if lets say he got a smoking deal on some 2 carat stone he can pass his savings on to his customers. The most I have ever come out of pocket for a diamond was $700 and way long ago $2000 on a setting I had to have (it was one of his signature pieces). I could never do a chain store again just because of the whole double up deal I just cant afford that. And I get diamond coverage for life its just included when you purchase from him. It just works better with my budget to do a mom and pop shop vs chain stores because I be Po LOL. So save your pennies and upgrade to your liking, but try and enjoy the beauty you have, because it really is a beautiful diamond. <3
- 1 year ago
Finally – an update! I am fortunate enough to have a supportive Fiance and I got a new center stone. I went up a carat and even up in clarity but down in color. Overall, I love this diamond. It’s eye clean and it covers my finger better than the previous one. 🙂
- 1 year ago
- Wedding: August 2018
isabee : one thing I haven’t worked out yet is, why you got another diamond the first time you switched to the solitaire…why couldn’t you have had it reset? You said it was a very high quality diamond and then you later picked out a solitaire setting with a 1ct diamond of the same quality he picked out. What did your original white gold engagement ring look like and was the stone smaller than 1ct? The reason I ask is because some individuals, when they rush into upgrading their engagement ring soon after the proposal, have a difficult time being satisfied with the way their upgraded rings look because once you’ve gotten a larger stone your mind wonders what it would look like to have a larger stone and then one larger than that one etc…plus losing the sentimentality of the ring or stone your fiancé proposed with so soon after the proposal can cause individuals to feel dissatisfied with anything they choose. Just some things to think about. I hope you eventually find your forever ring (within both of your monetary means), upgrading at anniversaries seems to be a popular choice you can consider 🙂
ETA: very happy you got the center stone you wanted, I hope this one makes you get all the feels!
- 1 year ago
newbeegirl : It’s been quite the journey and I totally agree with what you have said. It is amazing how physiological we get visually use to a certain size and then just get numbed to it. It’s scary how powerful our perception can be. But yet I went from a .70to a 1 and then finally 2ct. But what I didn’t want to note was my dirty laundry. Which in short became an open case with a certain major jewelry chain and how they sold my Fiance a diamond that didn’t meet what the certificate stated. But yeah, it’s been a whirlwind and we are both glad that this is finally a closed chapter of our lives. Now we can move on to wedding planning 😬
- 1 year ago
I only read the first and last pages of this thread- but I am happy that you spoke up and got a ring that makes you happy. Also when it comes to diamonds I truly believe that there is no point in paying for what you can’t see (in other words why pay for IF clarity when you can have a VS2 that is eye clean, why pay for D color when most people don’t see a tint until they hit J color, etc.) Cut quality is what is most important.
As someone who has been married for many years and wasn’t thrilled w/ her engagement ring from the get go, I have only just sent my ring off to have it re-made. I hated the workmanship (or lack there of) of my setting, it was set up too high, globby prongs, etc. I waited over 10 years to do something about it because it seemed rude to do it before the wedding and then after the wedding life got in the way. So I think you are super smart to take the bull by the horns now and get a ring that you are thrilled to wear!
Congrats and wear it in good health!
- 1 year ago
here4thegems : Thank you for sharing your story. I think you also bring out a good point of the importance of communication in a relationship I always thought it was a bit odd when people said it was rude to ever bring up not liking the ring to their SO. No matter what the time frame, I belive that if it is brought up in a polite and logical manner than it’s a civil thing to do. If you can be honest and have a conversation with your special person – then what else can’t you talk about downt the road?
Anywho, I am glad that you are getting your diamond re-set and I hope that your ring wishes come true after being soo patient! 🙂