(Closed) Trying to figure out how to get OVER this :( – Long

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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1204 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard

go ahead and give yourself permission to feel jealous for a little while.  but don’t give him a hard time about it and keep reminding yourself over and over again that technically he didn’t do anything wrong.

then just give yourself some time. it might take a while to get over it, but I think you eventually will. just be patient and don’t expect it to happen right away. 

Post # 18
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1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Your dating anniversary is whenever you want it to be Smile.

I’ve been with Fiance for 8 years.  After the second year, we stopped celebrating it all together.  When we have a wedding anniversary, we’ll celebrate that with something low key. 

Post # 19
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Fi and I has our first date, 14th January but it wasn’t until the 17th February that we realised we wanted more, in that time I was still dating and having sex with someone else which was never serious. As soon as we decided we wanted to be serious I called it off with the other guy. He was probably dating other people too, but I never ask and I don’t tell him because it doesn’t matter. We celebrate our anniversary on the 17th Feb

Post # 20
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I can see how this is upsetting but like a lot of bees said, you guys were not exclusive yet. I met my bf in march and I was still talking to my ex but as soon as we made it official I stopped. I knew who I wanted to be with. And I don’t think that it was wrong of me. Just because you meet someone doesn’t mean all those other relationships are going to magically disappear ASAP. What counts is what he did after you became exclusive. And as far as anniversaries go, I think you should just celebrate the day you became officially engaged until your wedding date and then just celebrate that. It’s really the only one that matters. 

Me and my bf celebrate our anniversary on April 20th too which bothered me at first but soon we’ll be engaged and I know it won’t be the the biggest pot smoking day of the year. Lol

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just time.  It will happen.  You’re allowed to be upset and you sound super level headed over understanding that he didn’t do anything wrong. 

I don’t think you’re punishing him.  You were honest with him and told him you understood that you were being a little nutso and he respected that.  

I’d let the anniversary thing go.  Start celebrating your engagment day and your future wedding date.  You have those things to look forward to now.  

Stop looking back…you’re not going that way.

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