Post # 1
Lots of wedding stuff today ladies, so please bear with me. Some of you may or may not have read a recent post about my oldest brother (the prodigal son) coming back into my life. So I was trying to find a way for all of my brothers (1-2-3-4) and my dad to give me away. The consenus was that it would look like I had body guards and since I’m safely tucked away behind my laptop, I could pout while I technically agreed with the group.
So, I let my dad know that it’s just us and he said no. Um, excuse me? What is this “no” you speak of? I am not understanding this “no” word. (I tend to get a little theatrical when I start get upset.) He said he’ll be too old and he’s not sure he’ll be able to walk by then. (Can you tell where I get the dramatic flair from?)
He’s only 73. I’m 30 and his only daughter. I told him he has to. It’s in the rule book. It’s in black and white, I have proof. He told me no again and to pick a brother.
I’m not a regular daddy’s girl by anymeans. My dad and I have had a really rough relationship growing up (partially because I am a girl) and it’s only in the last several years we’ve gotten close. I’m sounding like a brat because it’s a big deal to me and I want him to know that our relationship is finally at that place that I’m excited to have my dad walk me down the aisle.
So what do I do? Not really ready to give in yet.
Post # 3
I would talk to him in a calm, honest way and explain to him what it means to you to have him walk you down the aisle. As hard as it might be, try not to sound too stubborn about it!
Right now he seems to be making excuses, so perhaps if this talk doesn’t work, leave it alone for a bit. Then when it gets closer to the day, you can revisit the situation and ask him again. Assuming he is in good health at this point, he won’t be able to use the “I can’t walk” excuse at that point.
Post # 4
@dance: Good idea. I’m just afraid he’ll think he’s gotten his way. It’s worth a shot though. It’s just almost amusing to me, because if there is dad drama, it’s usually because the bride doesn’t know if she even wants her dad there and here I’m begging mine! haha
We’re almost date twins! My original date was the 23rd until I realized that my family reunion has been scheduled for that date! So we moved it to Thursday because (1) SOOOOO much cheaper, then (2) my FH and I will have a day to ourselves before the weekend madness begins.
Post # 5
I could be waaay off but do you think that it’s because he is afraid he will get emotional if it’s just him walking you down the isle? I know that was an issue with my friend’s father. I think the advice that @dance gave about having a calm conversation and telling him how much it means to you is a good idea. That might change his mind.