Post # 46
OP, you said sarcastically that your SO must not have ever heard of trapping. Based on what you have said, it sounds like he is trapping you.
Please be careful and take a long hard look at the health of this relationship. Including what you said about doing everything together. It’s hard to read into because I can’t even recall the last time I went grocery shopping without my Fiance, but is it possible he is controlling and won’t let you go out without him? Do you do everything with him because your best friends, or because he tags along and won’t let you be alone?
I just want to make sure that’s not the case. Anyway, please don’t have a child with this man. And please reconsider the health of your relationship. His making light of your previous marriage is NOT okay.
Post # 47
It is one thing if neither of you want marriage, but both are committed and want kids. But you want marriage, so don’t have kids with him!!! Having kids is hard! And it is hard even when both people are committed to being there. He needs to be able to talk about the future with you if he wants babies. They aren’t just cute little things… they life altering, life long committments that deserve the best of both people.
Post # 48
It sounds like you have traded an abuser for an a$$hole. Don’t have children with an a$$hole.
Post # 49
doberman: No – she traded one abuser for another. This guy is clearly emotionally abusive.
OP, do not have a child with this man and please do your best to get out of the relationship.
Post # 50
You said you wanted to be married. So why are you tying yourself down by having a kid with someone who doesn’t want what you want? (Marriage)? This will only complicate things further. I’d say move on and find a man that will happily give you what you want. 🙂