Trying to involve my girlfriends daughter(7) in the proposal and wedding.

posted 9 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
6603 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

publius :  I think its cute when people get an inexpensive ring or necklace for the kid and propose to be their new dad at the same time. Or promise to, I suppose, so she cant turn you down. You’d want to be certain of a yes from both though!

as to the wedding, let her be flower girl or ring bearer and wear a pretty dress. Include her in your speech. Easy. 

Post # 3
7002 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think including her in the proposal is great. Maybe have something for her, like a special necklace and essentially propose to them both? 

As for the wedding, 7 is sort of an awkward age. It’s almost too old to be a flowergirl but too young to be a bridesmaid. I guess I would feel her out and see if she’s rather be a jr. bridesmaid or a flowergirl? 

Post # 4
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

publius :  This is super cute and it’s awesome you’re thinking about your girlfriend’s daughter. I was 8 and a Junior Bride’s Maid at my dad and stepmom’s wedding. I’ve never been “proposed to” by a future stepdad but I think that would be really sweet.

If you think she can keep a secret, I would talk to her first about how she would feel about making her family bigger. Explain to her that she’s part of the family and that you’re making a promise to her too. Maybe get her something like a bracelet or necklace and propose to her as well, after you’ve proposed to your girlfriend.

Post # 5
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I was going to post what PP have said. I think giving your SO’s daughter a little something to remember the day would be sweet. 

I don’t have children, but I imagine if I did, my SO kind of promising to love them and being part of their family would be above and beyond what I’d want in a partner. 

My cousin recently got married. Her son is 6 and during her ceremony, her husband (not the child’s bio father) actually wrote vows for him saying how he would always be his dad, love and protect him, etc. It was one of the most heartfelt things I’ve ever seen.

Post # 6
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

My husband “proposed” to my 9yo daughter with a necklace after he proposed to me.  She was THRILLED and said yes of course (she had already asked him to be her step-father several times).  


My daughter was 6 when I married my second husband (he passed away shortly after the wedding.)  For that wedding she was a flower girl.  She was 9 when I married my third husband.  She was my only attendant and I told her she was a Jr. Bridesmaid.  


In both weddings she and my husband made “vows” to each other to be step-father and step-daughter and being in each other’s lives.  It was sweet.  In the 2nd wedding we actually did a reading together, my husband, me and my daughter. I loved it.

Post # 7
119 posts
Blushing bee

Awww I love all these!

My son is 6 and is constantly asking me and my boyfriend when we’re getting married.

I’m not sure if my boyfriend will include him in the proposal but that would be adorable and would make him so happy.

I do plan to walk down the aisle with my son.

Post # 8
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

my son wasnt involved in my proposal but we involved him in our wedding ceremony. we wrote him our own vows and gave him a nice watch (hes 14) during the ceremony

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