Post # 1
Sorry for this rant in advance but I’d love a pep talk.
First of all, I loved my job. I know that no job is perfect and that there will always be something about work people dont like. I am doing it for the money and I have quit my old jobs for this experience, its just a temporary job until I move to the states soon. I just needed a job for 4-6 months until I could go back, so its not a career or anything. So.. I am a waitress. I loved it when I started – great tips, great people usually, loved the environment, loved the fact that I ALWAYS had money in my pocket after work. I would make more as a waitress than most people do with their regular min wage jobs.
I am just getting tired of the BS. I hate being yelled at and it seems like everytime I am at work, some old waitress who has worked there for 20 years wants to yell at me. Every day its a new thing. One day its “use a cloth to wipe down the milkshake machine after each use” and the next day its “Use napkins not a cloth! Don’t wipe it until the end of the day!!”. Some days its “You need to punch the order in and add gaps after each order” and the next “Punch it in with no gaps, don’t use the damn gaps!”.
Its very annoying how wishy washy they are. One waitress won’t allow the use of bleach to wipe down the tables, and one hates the smell of vinegar and insists we use bleach. Its so hard to please them and not be yelled at. god forbid I ever ask a question to avoid making a mistake…
It also came into light that they find me rude. But the waitress who trained me knows me and knows that I just say “yes maam” or “no maam” because thats the way I was raised and its a polite habit, not a condescing response. The waitress who trained me use to tell me all the time never take the other waitresses’ attitude personally, thats just the way they were – so I didn’t. But then I find out that they take my “yes/no maam” personally instead of thinking “thats just the way she responds to questions”. It is just annoying and I know I wont be here long but its hard enough dealing with certain asshole customers, now I have to deal with asshole waitresses that mistake my politeness with condescending tones. At this point I can’t even be fake nice anymore, I just try to do my job and go home.
end of rant.
Post # 2
Im a waitress as well and I hate it. The environment is toxic. All the other servers do is gossip about each other and the managers are shit who dont care about anything! I’m looking for another job but I dread going to work everyday. Everyone also has their own way of doing things. The older servers are the worst. Always greedy with tables and want everything done their way. It’s ridiculous.
Post # 3
Yep. My waitressing job lasted less than a year. They singled me out, picked on me, had “cliques.” It was just terrible and left me scared that every job was going to be this way! I will never be a waitress ever again. I will never understand what I ever did – I was good at my job and am an easy person to get along with. You know it is time for a change when you wake up with dread of going to work.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2016 - 1950s themed bar
I have been a bartender/waitress for about 3 years and I have had terrible times and great times. I’ve had horrible bosses and customers that turned an epic situation into a nightmare and I couldn’t wait to leave that place. My next experience was with wonderful bosses and staff and it was the best job in the world! My philosophy is that if you work hard to treat the customers well and also do your best to communicate with coworkers the way they expect, then you will be respected in the job. Unfortuately it sounds like there isn’t one right way you should be doing stuff, so it makes it hard for you!
I would just try to be as nice as possible to coworkers and just tell them that I’m confused about how they want things done. I would also be looking for another waitressing job elsewhere. My strategy is to eat at the place where I’m looking to apply and watch how the staff/managers act. I can usually tell if the staff look happy or not. If they look like they’re being micromanaged and don’t have any autonomy that’s also a bad sign. I love organisational culture so this sort of work-environment talk fascinates me!
Post # 5
I dunno. I’m sort of struggling with the idea of you being a victim here considering you’ve posted about being a nanny and telling parents to their face how shitty they were at it.
Post # 6
Yeah they do enjoy gossiping. I try to keep my head high and count my blessings that I am not working a worse job. Heck atleast I am not cleaning poop and vomit all day. But still, sometimes the days are slow, the tips are bad no matter how great the service is, some customers have the WORST Body Odours. My boss doesn’t speak english well at all so its impossible trying to explain anything to him. LOL yes, they already get better shifts and then shifts I do get, they try to take tables.
i’d rather be singled out than be yelled at all the time. I don’t mind keeping to myself at all. If some bitch doesnt wanna talk to me, I’m not gonna make her, but its the yelling that frazzles me then makes me question myself and makes me make mistakes… its a downward spiral.
Post # 7
Thats actually a really smart way of testing a place out! I know I will stick it out here, it can be annoying a lot of the times but there will always be good days and thats a good enough reason for me to stay. I just got annoyed, i worked today (labor day) and it got very annoying with one of the waitressing actually being condescending. So ofcourse I told her things will be done the way she wants them done.
Post # 8
lol lets get one thing clear, I am not a victim. At all. in any way. I am annoyed, but definitely not a victim.
I don’t spare the feelings of shitty parents (thats why I quit), being a parent doesn’t make you special. Any idiot can have a kid. Huge difference between a good parent and a shitty parent, unless you think every parent is absolutely amazing.