- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
So, my fiance’s brother got engaged a few weeks ago, and they set their wedding for 2 months before us. There are circumstances surrounding the reasons why, and after the initial shock-I’m completely over it, and happy for them. Well was, until about 5 min ago.
She sent me some pictures for ideas for their big day. Her wedding planning is in full swing fast, they’re doing this in 8 months. She’s seen pics of my plans too over the last few months…her and I talk wedding quite a bit, we’re very close-and she doesn’t know it yet-but I was planning on asking her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man when I see her at Thanksgiving. Maybe I should’ve paid more attention when she seemed so super supportive on all of my choices.
60-70% of her ideas mimic mine. Down to the specific flowers, colors, etc. Even the same color for the guy’s tuxes/suits, which we tried to go a little out of the box with (grey) I’m pretty upset by this. I had two friends get married this past summer, and have done everything I can think of to get away from “stealing” their views. There are a few small things I planned to incorporate that I thought were pure genious from their weddings, but talked to both of them and they both gave me their blessing. Both are fairly common-a pic of my fiance and I w/ a large mat for guests to sign and a captain’s table instead of traditional head table. One of them truly had the wedding of my dreams, and I’ve steered away from her details to find my own on purpose-because everyone deserves that ONE special day.
I realize that if their wedding was after ours, I don’t have much to worry about-but that’s not the case. And since it’s only 2 months before, I won’t have time to change anything if it does happen. And besides that, I don’t WANT to change anything. It took me a while to find my “vision” and I’ve been planning for months. I’m also planning from a different state, so some of these plans get done earlier than the norm (we try to just get as much done as possible every time we go home)
Advice on how to deal w/ this?? And am I overly-offended?
Ty in advance.