Post # 1
Hello, hive! I don’t post here much, but I need some advice from like-minded bees!
I have been trying to keep the details of my wedding off the web for several reasons:
1.) I am unable to invite everyone on my Facebook friend list, so I don’t feel comfortable having wedding talk on my wall (or having wedding talk ABOUT me on someone else’s wall, although I accept that I don’t have as much control over that).
2.) FI’s estranged father isn’t invited.
3.) I also have a person from my past who I would rather didn’t know the details. (That’s putting it lightly, but I don’t want to go into dramatic details.)
4.) Extremely frivolous reason: I’m wearing a colored dress, and while I don’t really care whether it’s a surprise to everyone, it would still be nice to have as few people as possible know in advance.
Recently, one of my BMs publicly blogged about our wedding, including the date, venue, our names, a picture of us, and (GASP!) details about my dress (I know, I know…lol). It’s not a big deal; I sent her an email explaining why we’re trying not to publicize our wedding on the Internet, and asking her if she’d mind making the post private. But it really got me wondering: with people freely sharing their lives on the web these days, how do you keep something like a wedding (somewhat) private? I know–the short answer is that you can’t. And I accept that I can’t control what other people post, and a wedding is kind of a big deal, so people are bound to talk about it (in fact, they probably think they’re honoring you by publicly congratulating you). But to other bees who would like to publicize their weddings as little as possible: how do you handle this? Can you relate, or am I just totally paranoid? 😛
Post # 3
i made friends group that is specificlly tagged as wedding olny. so everythime i need to have a wedding status, olny those people can see it.
Post # 4
I had to change my privacy settings on fb so that i am the ONLY one that can see what other people write on my wall. I have quite a bit of family that is not invited, so when people started posting “OMG only 99 days until your WEDDING” I started getting the awkward questions from people who haven’t received Save-The-Date Cards. That’s my only advice, but i can definitely relate to your situation.
Post # 5
I would like to keep my wedding private as well. NONE of my father’s fam is invited to the wedding but they dont know about this yet. I have a problem with most of them not all but to avoid uninvited guests (because they will show up uninvited they’ve done it before at my son’s b-day party) I’m just not inviting any of them so none of them have anything to tell the others. I do get some private messages asking me about the wedding and people “assuming” they are invited (FI’s aunt who I’ve only met once in our 4 1/2 yr relationship) but I want to keep the guest list as small as possible (NOT goin over 75 guests) so I’ve decided anyone who even message me about the wedding I will just delete the message. I dont see these people in public though that is ironic because we stay in the same not so big city. These people do not even know I have kids at all (I have 3!) and have never met Fiance (guests MUST know both of us). I have always kept my private matters well… private. I DO NOT talk about any wedding talk. All I Have about the wedding on fb is my engaged status and 1 pic of my ring. If I have to talk to my bridal party I will privately message them on fb or txt them and leave it at that. By The Way, I’m wearing a colored dress as well (ivory and peach) and I want that to be kept a secret!
Post # 6
I have not wanted anything posted about my wedding.
I have had a few people ask me to post pictures of my ring, I just ignored it.
When someone “tags” me in a post about how they are excited to come to my wedding, I just delete it immediately.
I had a cousin ask about wedding planning and whatnot on FB, I just deleted the posts and sent her a prvate message letting her know that I wasn’t wanting to air my business all over FB.
Post # 7
It only gets worse. The month of I had a new post on my wall everyday. People tagging me and Darling Husband in stuff, the countdown, people asking me when it was, if they could come(2 weeks away, really?) all kinds of stuff. No advice..Just try to stay on top of deleting stuff you dont want seen
Post # 8
I am on the privacy end too. The only thing I did do was post that I was engaged, post a picture of the ring, and a facebook status. It’s been radio silence ever since. If someone posts about my wedding on my social media pages, I quickly delete it or ask for it to be removed. I have a stalker ex, so I take it very seriously. And for the couple of people who have asked why, I tell them that it is a matter of safety for me. If your situation is similar, most people (especially your friends) will and should understand.