Trying to let it go, but…

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Yes. He probably took it, operating under the assumption it was already paid for and getting left behind. 

If your dad had to pay extra for the alcohol that disappeared, let the DJ and anyone else you suspect of taking it know and they may offer to compensate you. If not, be happy the alcohol was enjoyed, consider it a tip to the DJ and do as Elsa says. Let it go. 

Post # 3
68 posts
Worker bee

First of all Congratulations on your marriage! 

I totally understand your frustration in this situation, it’s really horrible that someone would be dishonest like that.  I’m really sorry this happened to you, and that it’s causing upset/stress. That said, you don’t know for sure it was him (or anyone else for that matter) so it may have just been a honest mistake.  I know it’s hard but what’s done is done, I think you’ve done all you can without actually accusing anyone of anything and I don’t think if it really was the DJ/Assistant that they’ll admit to it.  Sadly I would try and move on, it’s in the past and you had an amazing wedding anyways!  Focus on the good memories and that will cheer you up πŸ™‚

Post # 5
497 posts
Helper bee

Call the police. Stealing is stealing.

Post # 6
125 posts
Blushing bee


Let it go……..  No one is gong to admit to taking it & they probably split it up and drank it already. 

Post # 7
7412 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Those are some pretty harsh allegations. For all you know, your friends or family members who were loading your car left the box of booze in the parking lot and some neighborhood kid took it or the trash collector did. Slow your roll. 

Post # 8
3333 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Congrats on your marriage!! 


Post # 10
587 posts
Busy bee

Calling the police is probably the dumbest thing you could do in this situation. I think they’ve got better things to do than crack the case of some missing alcohol after a wedding. Sheesh. 

OP, it sucks when people you should be able to trust take things that don’t belong to them. Let’s hope it was an honest mistake and someone’s too embarrassed to fess up now. 

You’re married, sounds like you had a lovely time. Now that you’ve vented time to move on πŸ™‚ 

Post # 11
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

This happened to my brother and SIL– only with a lot more. My SIL works for a distributor, so they let her take what she wanted, and then had to pay for what she didn’t return. So, they went overboard with everything, since they didn’t have to front the money. Only thing was, a ton of stuff went missing (types of liquor that we know were never opened- but all the bottles were gone)…. Unfortunately in their case, as in yours, you can point fingers and outright accuse people, but unless you have solid proof, it’s not going to get you anywhere. 

It’s irritating- and a horrible feeling knowing someone stole from you, but unfortunately, it’s something you just kinda have to vent about and move on from. 


Post # 13
7201 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

rrenee :  Honestly if that’s the worst thing that happened, you had a stellar perfect wedding! πŸ™‚ Congratulations!

People often take the extra liquor just like people often take centerpieces. Maybe it isn’t what you intended, but it is something that is often up for grabs at the end of the night, so if you didn’t specifically say not to, I can totally see someone thinking it was fine. We ended up with a lot left over but I’m still pretty sure people walked off with unopened bottles of wine from our wedding.

Definitely work on getting over that small thing. Your dad doesn’t care- so I don’t think you need to worry about it either. Focus on the good memories! I know we had a list of things that went wrong and that was all we could think about for a few weeks, but even 4 months out I had to really think before I could remember what those wrong things were. Now I have no idea what we were upset about- I have zero recollection about anything wrong except two things that were funny even in the moment. 

Post # 14
2879 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Meh. It sucks but it could have been anyone. No one ever wants to point fingers and family and friends but it very well could have been one of them. Automatically assuming it was the DJ is a bit far fetched. I’d let it go. 

Post # 15
9131 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

My friends and I have 100% done this after a wedding on the assumption that it was already bought and paid for, and our friends getting married would want a few bottles of wine going to a “good home” aka the after party in our hotel rooms. I assume something like that happened here, and somebody is too embarrassed to admit it. I’m sure it wasn’t done with malintent. 

As someone else said – if this is the worst thing that happened AND your dad doesn’t care, congrats, you had basically a perfect wedding! 😊😊😊

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