Post # 1
So I got married last Saturday! Almost everything went perfect. We had a blast and so did our friends/family. However at the end of the night, (groom and I were both prettt drunk) some friends and family were loading up their cars and ours with our things while cleaning up. There were only about 4 cars left and we know whose they were. My parents, a friend of mine, a friend of groom, and the DJ.
We are missing an entire box of leftover alcohol, including about 7 bottles of wine and some beer. None of our friends or family seem to remember what happened to it. The last I remember or anyone else remembers is that it was sitting by the door waiting to be packed up. It also wasn’t left at our venue…
i hate to think the worst but it is looking like the DJ/his assistant may have taken it… his assistant knows my friend and gave her a ride home that night. Same friend (who has been nothing but giving and helpful this whole wedding process) came to bring me my things the following Monday and the alcohol was not in her car. She did say she drank with DJ and friend for awhile after the wedding. I’m almost 100% certain she wouldn’t purposely just take it …
The DJ on the other hand- I don’t know, and does not have a good track record with us concerning reliability and honesty…
we aren’t pointing any fingers and I suppose this is really just a vent. But it just burns me up thinking someone may have taken advantage of my dad like that (he is the one who paid for food/venue/drinks)
My now husband sent a (friendly) FB message to the DJ just asking if he happened to see what happened to it, said we are checking around with some of the people who were there later in case anyone knows. Thanked him for all he did for us on our wedding day etc. haven’t heard a thing back and that was over 24 hours ago.
I don’t know what to think. It’s just alcohol and no I wasn’t going to drink it all or anything but it just bothers me it has somehow “disappeared”. My dad paid a lot of money for me to have a nice party and overpaid on the wine and drinks of course because the venue catered it is more expensive than buying from the store… it all just bothers me. I mean it wasn’t just free to take ☹️
Post # 2
Yes. He probably took it, operating under the assumption it was already paid for and getting left behind.
If your dad had to pay extra for the alcohol that disappeared, let the DJ and anyone else you suspect of taking it know and they may offer to compensate you. If not, be happy the alcohol was enjoyed, consider it a tip to the DJ and do as Elsa says. Let it go.
Post # 3
First of all Congratulations on your marriage!
I totally understand your frustration in this situation, it’s really horrible that someone would be dishonest like that. I’m really sorry this happened to you, and that it’s causing upset/stress. That said, you don’t know for sure it was him (or anyone else for that matter) so it may have just been a honest mistake. I know it’s hard but what’s done is done, I think you’ve done all you can without actually accusing anyone of anything and I don’t think if it really was the DJ/Assistant that they’ll admit to it. Sadly I would try and move on, it’s in the past and you had an amazing wedding anyways! Focus on the good memories and that will cheer you up 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks guys! I’m just going to have to come to terms with possibly never knowing what happened to it. I don’t want to place blame- knowing my luck as soon as I do, it will turn up somewhere else!
My dad isn’t even worried about it and just keeps saying at least everything else went well! I just hope our friends are trustworthy… it sucks not knowing 100%.
Trying to move past and enjoy other memories of the day 🙂
Post # 5
Call the police. Stealing is stealing.
Post # 6
Let it go…….. No one is gong to admit to taking it & they probably split it up and drank it already.
Post # 7
Those are some pretty harsh allegations. For all you know, your friends or family members who were loading your car left the box of booze in the parking lot and some neighborhood kid took it or the trash collector did. Slow your roll.
Post # 8
Congrats on your marriage!!
Post # 9
Horseradish : the venue is gated and locked. And there would have been no need to sit the box down the cars loading were parked directly in the car port in front of the door.
Venue coordinater would have definitely noticed it in lot even if so.
also never did I once say someone definitely “stole” it. Just saying odds are…
Post # 10
Calling the police is probably the dumbest thing you could do in this situation. I think they’ve got better things to do than crack the case of some missing alcohol after a wedding. Sheesh.
OP, it sucks when people you should be able to trust take things that don’t belong to them. Let’s hope it was an honest mistake and someone’s too embarrassed to fess up now.
You’re married, sounds like you had a lovely time. Now that you’ve vented time to move on 🙂
Post # 11
This happened to my brother and SIL– only with a lot more. My SIL works for a distributor, so they let her take what she wanted, and then had to pay for what she didn’t return. So, they went overboard with everything, since they didn’t have to front the money. Only thing was, a ton of stuff went missing (types of liquor that we know were never opened- but all the bottles were gone)…. Unfortunately in their case, as in yours, you can point fingers and outright accuse people, but unless you have solid proof, it’s not going to get you anywhere.
It’s irritating- and a horrible feeling knowing someone stole from you, but unfortunately, it’s something you just kinda have to vent about and move on from.
Post # 12
djbeats : certainly! It could have very well been an honest mistake. Most people had been drinking a bit and judgement could have been off. I’m hoping this is the case.
I definitely will not be calling the police. I’m not THAT concerned about it. Just blowing off a little steam
Post # 13
rrenee : Honestly if that’s the worst thing that happened, you had a stellar perfect wedding! 🙂 Congratulations!
People often take the extra liquor just like people often take centerpieces. Maybe it isn’t what you intended, but it is something that is often up for grabs at the end of the night, so if you didn’t specifically say not to, I can totally see someone thinking it was fine. We ended up with a lot left over but I’m still pretty sure people walked off with unopened bottles of wine from our wedding.
Definitely work on getting over that small thing. Your dad doesn’t care- so I don’t think you need to worry about it either. Focus on the good memories! I know we had a list of things that went wrong and that was all we could think about for a few weeks, but even 4 months out I had to really think before I could remember what those wrong things were. Now I have no idea what we were upset about- I have zero recollection about anything wrong except two things that were funny even in the moment.
Post # 14
Meh. It sucks but it could have been anyone. No one ever wants to point fingers and family and friends but it very well could have been one of them. Automatically assuming it was the DJ is a bit far fetched. I’d let it go.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
My friends and I have 100% done this after a wedding on the assumption that it was already bought and paid for, and our friends getting married would want a few bottles of wine going to a “good home” aka the after party in our hotel rooms. I assume something like that happened here, and somebody is too embarrassed to admit it. I’m sure it wasn’t done with malintent.
As someone else said – if this is the worst thing that happened AND your dad doesn’t care, congrats, you had basically a perfect wedding! 😊😊😊