Post # 1
Ever since I got sober I have really gained weight like crazy. I’ve now reached a scary weight and I’m into a 22/24 🙁 My dress is gorgeous and I look good in it….but there’s scary flabby arms and back fat! I’m closing in on the date (10/1) and I want to look my best! Finally getting back to exercising after hand surgery and lots of PT for my ankle injury. So….I’m in water aerobics and back in yoga. I guess I just feel down about my size and I’m sick of the family members that have negativity to throw my way about it 🙁 Here’s hoping!!
Post # 3
Make the effort to surround yourself with supportive people. Or at least befriend a few. Maybe people who are in the same or similar boat as you. Avoid those who are not supportive. Only deal with them when necessary. I know people can say mean things. You don’t have to submit yourself to negativity. You know you’re on the right track. Associate with those who think the same as you and don’t worry abut those who don’t.
Post # 4
I’m in a similar situation. I’m terrified of wearing a dress in front of my very critical and weight-conscious family. I’m a street size 18-20.
I even have nightmares about my brother making a sniggering remark as I walk down the aisle.
I’m 42 years old…I should be “over” this…but I’m not.
We need to surround ourselves with people who make us feel beautiful and loved!
Post # 5
First, your beautiful no matter what size you are. but if you dont feel comfortable or “beautiful” then do what makes you happy.
and…..i dont live far from you we should arrange a bridal boot camp!!
Post # 6
Its great that you are getting back into a routine to make you feel better and look great! You have a great mindset and I do agree that you should distance yourself from negative people and surround yourself with positive energy! I totally know how you feel, I switched birth control and I gained almost 30lbs in 2 months! I also quit smoking and added on a few more so I am trying to get back into shape also! Good luck and YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Post # 7
You still have plenty of time! It only takes 8 weeks to build muscle and you have them. You can tone up even if you’re not able to lose much weight. Once you’re all dolled up for the big day I’m sure you will NOT be looking in the mirror and wishing you were thinner, you’ll just see a beautiful bride smiling back!
Post # 8
First of all, congrats on your sobriety!
Second, I agree with the pp who said to surround yourself with positive people. The better you feel about yourself, the easier it is to commit to being healthy.
Remember, that no matter what size you are on your day, you will look amazing and your love for your husband will shine!!!
Post # 9
I think all women (or at least the majority), regardless of size, struggle with accepting themselves the way they are. I can’t say that I’ve even figured this one out…but your fiance obviously loves you for you and just the way you are, so try seeing yourself through his eyes. 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks for all the support! I went to deep water aerobics last night and it kicked my butt in a good way! Did yoga today and feeling good! My Fiance is very loving and has loved me all along regardless of size, so she’s extremely supportive and backs me up 🙂 Keep on keepin’ on! xo
Post # 11
A heavier, sober you will ALWAYS look better!
Post # 12
Congrats on being sober!!! And like everyone else said, you are beautiful no matter what!!! Best of luck to you these next couple of months and I agree with everyone, surround yourself with supportive people!!! I believe that is the key to weight loss!! Best Wishes!
Post # 13
I am a size 20/22 sometimes 24 (like my w-dress) so I know how you feel. I have gained 50 lbs since my FH and i got together. But you know what? He loves me no matter what and that helps when he tells me this. I think about how I need to be comfortable and confident for him- if he has faith and love for me, then I should, too. I shouldn’t be so down on myself when he tries so hard to lift me up. If he loves my chub, I should love it too! I am what I am!!!
That’s not to say that I shouldn’t want to be a healthier me. So I am doing Weight Watcher’s and drink an occasional Slimfast so I don’t have to think about what I am eating at work. And I feel better. Just small changes make me feel good.
I am getting married October 8, 2011, so if you want, I can be a long distance walking buddy! Even 10 pounds would make me feel like I accomplished something by my wedding day!
Post # 14
dealing with negative family members is tough both of my grandfathers on either side of my family are notorious for picking on the heavier people in my family myself included. It really makes it difficult. I was once told I looked like I was hooked up to an air pump that will stick with me the rest of my life, but after the tears dry I try to channel that into some motivation to do better. Best of luck we’re all rooting for you!
Post # 15
2 weeks into my healthier “get fit” lifestyle and I’ve lost one pound (lol) and 2 inches around my waist! We cut all desserts pretty much from our household, cook at home and don’t eat out, and work out for at least 30 minutes 4-6 times a week. So far so good! I’d love it if the pounds would just melt off but that’s not realistic unless you’re on TV with a team of trainers and nothing else to do but work out all day!
Post # 16
You now have your life back because of sobriety, and that my dear is the most important and significant part of your OP. You’ve already made one of the biggest accomplishments, everything else will happen in time. You are completely and totally on the right track, stay positive!