(Closed) Trying to love my engagement band

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

This gets asked a lot – no you’re not a bad person for wanting to change your band. He said himself that he didn’t really know what band to select. Maybe when you go wedding band shopping, you can change your e-ring band to match the wedding band. That way, it makes sense and you KNOW it will match your wedding band.

I would wear it for now, and change the band to match whatever wedding band I liked in your situation.

Post # 4
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206 posts
Helper bee

@Demarca11: Can we see a picture? The band/split shank part of my Ering has pave diamonds and I love them… so I might be biased. 🙂

ETA: If you really don’t like it I would just change it. Obviously your Fiance is okay with it, so just get what you love!

Post # 5
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had a very similar experience. I’d always loved cushion cute three diamond rings.  And I have the same as you, a round cut with pave band.  But I’m serious, I have grown to love it (got engaged about 7 months ago).  And I can’t imagine having another ring.  For what it’s worth too, I’ve found so many wedding bands that match it beautifully.  Give it another couple months.  You can always upgrade later.

Post # 6
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1124 posts
Bumble bee

Your Fiance seems pretty open to the idea of you changing bands, so if you truthfully don’t think it’s right for you then go for it.

Post # 8
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

You could just tell your Fiance that you want the center stone to stand out more (since he picked that out and you DO love it) and tell the jeweler to suck it. She has NO SAY in what you’re wearing. None.

Post # 9
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Btw the way, the ring is gorgeous! It really is. Even if you don’t love the band (I can relate, I don’t “love” the band either), it’s fine, and I know that other people admire it. 

I think it’s ridiculous that the jeweler talked you out of it – you are asking them to do work! And to pay them for it! 

Post # 10
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1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You shouldn’t feel bad about waiting two months to change it, since it’s because of the jeweler that you waited this long in the first place!  I’d change it if that’s what you really want.

Post # 11
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206 posts
Helper bee

It’s beautiful! I can see what you are saying though. I would take it to back to the jeweller if you want it changed that badly, it’s nothing to feel bad about. And who cares if she gets a little huffy. You’re paying her – not the other way around.

Post # 12
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It is absolutely gorgeous, but then you know that! You just want to change it to something that you find as gorgeous as everyone else does, and I don’t think there is any shame in that. Especially as your Fiance told you he wouldn’t mind. Pick something you absolutely love, as you say, you’ll be wearing it for a very long time!

Post # 13
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586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Aw man, I’m sorry you don’t love it…because I DO!!! =)

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