Post # 1
So I am trying hard to not have a bridezilla moment. My wedding is in 3 days. Our colors are navy, green, ivory, and burlap browns. My bridesmaid’s dresses are navy, and my dress is ivory. Well, my fiance went and picked up his tux and just showed me how it looked with the tie that we specially ordered him and I thought I was going to stroke out. He told me that he ordered a gray tux with a white shirt and a gray vest. He never told me that his groomsmen also had the exact same tux and vest. For the twist, I was under the impression that the groomsmen were wearing navy vests to match the bridesmaids. My dad lives in another state and I told him to order his tux and gave him all the information and when he asked what color to order I said navy. My ring bearer had a vest made specially for the ceremony and we gave him the same tie as all the groomsmen so that he would match them as well and again I told them that the groomsmen vests were navy. I know I’m not crazy. I know that somewhere in our conversations I expressed that the groom had to stand out from the others in the wedding party and he said something about the navy vests. What do I do? My dad is going to stand out from everyone with his navy vest and my ring bearer is too bc he thought he was going to be matching the groomsmen. Since it’s so close to the wedding do I just try and get my fiance to change his vest to navy and not worry about the groomsmen but then again he will match my bridesmaids.
Am I really crazy? I swear this wedding has sucked every brain cell. 🙂
Post # 3
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I would go tomorrow and get your guy a different vest. Don’t stress about it, it won’t make a difference.
Post # 4
Take a deep breath. 🙂 It’s gonna be okay.
Go and get your guy a navy vest. It’s really *not* unusual for the groom’s attire to incorporate the wedding colors, I promise!
If you *really* want him to stand out, you could go all-out and have him in a navy suit with a grey vest.
Post # 5
It’s not clear if the groomsmen rented or bought. If they rented, can’t the vendor swap the vests?
If not, I’d just get a different vest for the groom. And don’t worry about your dad’s vest.
Post # 6
@rachelmichelle: But then the groomsmen don’t match the Ring Bearer and bride’s father, and the groom does.
I’ve no idea, but I’m guessing vests don’t need to be an exact size. You or your fiance go to the hire place, and hire a bunch of navy vests (one per groomsman, and the hire place should have their sizes anyway). Fiance can then hold on to them and give them to his buddies on the morning of the wedding if he doesn’t see them before then.
Post # 7
@paula1248: That’s true, but three days out, I don’t think that’s something she should freak herself out about. There’s already so much going on by that point that you just have to let go of the small things. The guests are unlikely to even notice something like that.
HOWEVER, I do agree with PPs that if *possible*, the bride and groom should just foot the bill to rent some navy tuxes for the groomsmen. If not, *don’t* stress yourself out about it. <3 Everything is going to look fantastic regardless.
Post # 8
No one will notice the difference. Plus having the groom stand out is necessary. I’ve been to weddings that the groom and gm all wear the same thing (except maybe the boutennier). Your Dad wearing something diff will look totally normal, as will the little guys.
Take a deep breath, everything will turn out just fine!
Post # 9
My fiance ordered his suit in the exact some colours as his groomsmen. So he won’t stand out at all, but I figure it’s not the end of the world. I suggested to him that he be a little different, but he really wants to wear the same as them. It’s not what I imagined, but it’s definitely not the end of the world. Your fiance (nearly husband!) will still look just as great in grey as he will in navy. Breathe. At the end of the day, you will be just as married to him as if he were dressed as Elmo and you were dressed as Big Bird.
Post # 10
@born2teachuga: well its kinda cool that your dad and the ring bearer are a little different!…maybe your groom can add a little something extra to stand out…like a different colour tie, that would be easy to buy!