Post # 1
I was dating my ex fiance for five years before we became engaged in December 2011. We had a very strong love since it was tested numerous times. He broke up with me back in 09 since he has a child from a different relationship. We got back together 7 months after he broke up the first time with me after begging and pleading saying he had made the biggest mistake. Two years later, he proposed to me saying how I was going to be the last girl he was ever going to be with and how in love he was with me. Well, earlier in September 2012 he broke things off. He claimed he wasn’t happy and didn’t want to be with me anymore. I was shocked and numb. I gave him a few days away thinking maybe it was just cold feet. We talked a few days later and we both cried. He told me he would still keep me happy and wanted me to still be in his life. After all the heartache and cancelling things(not getting any money back from the vendors or the dress) I tried to be civil with him. We had a good day going bowling and hanging with friends. Then the bombshell came. He told me he was talking to his first love (with whom he dated in high school 12 years ago) and he was exploring the option of going back with her. She has five kids and two failed marriages. I tried being nice and saying maybe you should think before you get involved with her considering she has five kids. All he kept saying is I don’t want you and I would choose anyone over you. Really?! I am left with everything he has said and the questions in my brain. I am trying to be strong and let him make his mistakes, but it just kills me inside of thinking about the harsh words he has said to me. He was going to marry me in seven months and now you be an ass! I know he will come crawling back to me considering that is what he does. He hides from the pain and pretends it doesn’t matter. He is repeating three years ago. I can honestly say I hate him!
Post # 3
You deserve someone better since he has done this before.
You will find someone special who treats you well, give it time.
Post # 4
What a jerk! (to put it nicely!) Thank goodness his true colors showed before you were married to him!
I’m sorry to hear that he treated you so badly, especially about the things he said to you. Karma will come back to haunt him, for sure.
Post # 5
Don’t be a shoulder! Leave him in your dust! I hope you find someone who truly deserves you.
Post # 6
Let him go be with the 2X divorced-with 5 kids-single mom. Honestly if someone i was with even considered breaking up to be with someone like that I couldn’t get them out my front door quick enough.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry that he has treated you this way.
It is such a mean thing to say “anyone but you” to someone you suppossedly loved and if it were me I would wonder if he ever really did. I think you should move on and dont look back.
People who care about you do not treat you like that
Post # 8
Please give yourself time to heal. There really isn’t any reason for you to continue contact with him and it will prolong you being able to get past the hurt and moving onto a good happy space where someone is waiting to meet someone just like you!
Post # 9
Ditto. I could never be with a guy like that. Op look at this as a huge blessing.
Post # 10
Once you realize you deserve better, you’ll wonder why you ever invested yourself with this jackass. Whatever it takes, heal and love yourself – and once you do that, you’ll be SO over this.
Post # 11
You know the saying…fool you once, shame on him. Fool you twice, shame on you. Don’t let him come back into your life. He is unstable, manipulative, and generally confused. 99% of people won’t/can’t change for the better. Time to move on and forget him!
Post # 12
Aw hun I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. You definitely deserve better. No person should ever be treated the way you have. You’re not a puppet, he can’t play you and then expect you to forgive and forget and for things to go back to the way they were when he doesn’t get his way with what he wanted. Don’t let this guy back in your life because things won’t change. Hopefully sometime soon you’ll find someone who will value what you bring to the table, who respects you and who loves you like crazy.
Post # 13
So sorry you are going through this, but as other bees suggessted I would definitely cut all ties with him, he doesn’t deserve you and you are better off w/o him….his loss and someone else’s gain….stay strong and remember to love yourself more, when you do then you will be able to move on and find the right man that will honor, cherish you and offer you the love you deserve.
Post # 14
This sucks terribly. When you look back on this time in your life, you will be thankful you dodged this bullet….before you had a house, kids etc.
I’d probably seek out some counseling to help me process this. (((HUGS)))
Post # 15
@skullygirl: cut this jerk from your life, how are you ever going to heal and move on if you keep contact with him and allow him to continuously hurt you. Do not wait for him to come crawling back, you deserve so much better then that.
Post # 16
I think youre being way too nice. If someone did that to me i would never want to see them ever again let alone listen to their new love life stories. This is a blessing in disguise, stay away from him!