(Closed) Trying to plan while fiance is away

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Awkward!!!!

I pretty much planned our whole wedding while he was gone and it was easier. Every time he tried to help, it was just too frustrating! It may help your sanity just to do things and get them done….otherwise the work may pile up too much.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve been having those moments since August! He said he doesn’t care that whatever I decide or choose is fine with him but when I mention things or send him pictures alllll of a sudden he has a huge opinion. It also sucks because I’m here living and breathing wedding plans 24/7 and he’s dodging mortars so sometimes my wedding issues are not the main thing on his mind (as I think it should be) and it brings tense moments. DAMN ARMY πŸ™‚ Fortunately he’ll be home by Thanksgiving so we’ll get to do some planning together. Of course when I mentioned this in my  ultra excited voice he said he had PS3 and motorcycle riding to catch up on so he was going to be busy! He has no idea….

Post # 5
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I hate that I have to talk about the wedding with him with what little time we have to talk.

I also had that moment the other day–I sent him a save the date a few weeks ago, just so he could see it and be the first one to receive it.  I got home two nights ago, and it was sitting on my counter: return to sender. There was an issue with the address! I had one letter wrong on the name of the FOB.  RRRgggg…

I’m going up to West Point this weekend to check out the chapel–the last time we were there together was when we said “if we get married here, I want it to be in this chapel,” I’m already kinda sad that he won’t be here. 

 

I know that people say it’s annoying to have his opinion, but it’s also a little sad to not have one at all.  He’s incredible and supportive, and he tries but I can totally understand how it stinks sometimes.  

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Violet Violet: I’ve heard the Wedding Party chapel is gorgeous!  My fiance was a West Pointer also πŸ™‚ 

Even though he’s gone, we’re blessed to be able to talk over Skype often.  My biggest frustration so far has been the hotel blocks.  I’m not really sure why. I freaked one day and asked my fiance if there was any way he could help me and luckily he has the whole thing pretty much figured out now πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hugs and hugs and hugs to you.

My honey just got back from Afghanistan, but I can tell you the only thing I could handle planning alone was my dress. The rest I just got too emotional (he could call every few weeks, and we never had enough time to get around to the wedding–or at least not much).

I think we’re just going to end up skipping some elements.

 

Good luck to you two. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hi sweetie,

How’s the planning going? I hope you’re holding up strong. He’ll be home before you know it (even though it probably doesn’t seem like it at the moment).

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My fiance is in Germany (our new duty station), and has been there since a week after we got engaged. So, I am pretty much doing all the weedding planning. I had just under 6 months to plan. Ack! He’s coming home in 18 days though, can’t wait to see him and have our wedding. The hardest part is just not having him here to help me when the movers came to get my household goods, shipping the car, etc. It’s hard doing all that PCSing crap on top of planning a wedding and working full time! πŸ™ It’s been a stressful time to say the least…

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@lindsd16: Thanks! Good point about Skype.  We don’t get to do it often, but I’m so happy that we can use it off an on.  

@cosmocity:  How’s the planning going?

 

Does it ever feel hard to get into the wedding planning?  I think I could get really excited about it if he were here for some of it. 

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