(Closed) Trying to please everybody

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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196 posts
Blushing bee

I was worried about my family having an issue with it. Fiance and I had decided and already made plans for Vegas before we told anyone, and my dad sounded a little hurt, but was ok with us making the choice best for us. The rest of my family is getting together for our normal Christmas and wants to celebrate our marriage then as well, which is nice.

I think the most important thing is to tell them (nicely) that you are doing this, and you just want to share the moment between yourselves. You just need to be firm in your wording, that it’s not up for discussion, and tell them you’re excited to celebrate with them when you return.

Post # 4
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2743 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

We are doing a package for 20 people at the ceremony. This allows us to being our first degree relatives and closest friends. It includes a cake, but no reception beyond that. We will provide a formal dinner, and a fireworks dessert party for the reception.

We went this route due to costs and family politics. We expect to come out about half of what a honey moon and traditional wedding would have costed together, and get a much more relaxed wedding.

Post # 5
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4951 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Have the destination wedding you want and invite parents only. Is that an option?

Post # 6
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nbh1121:  I’m going through the exact same thing as you right now, and I’m a NOVA bride too! We planned the big reception at home, but it just got to be too much. And now that we’ve decided to elope (Couples Swept Away, doing the all-inclusive wedding/elopement too!) Future Mother-In-Law is already trying to invite herself.

If she comes, Future Father-In-Law & step-mom,  my parents, and our (together) six sets of siblings will come too. Before you know it, it’s the same freaking huge wedding you had before, only add travel to the logistics. What a nightmare. Stay strong!

I don’t have any answers for you, only empathy. Keep me posted on what you end up doing!

Post # 7
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think that there probably is not going to be a scenario that will please everyone.  Not even a big huge shindig at home.  SOmeone will always be ticked/upset even with your best intentions.  So I suggest stop trying to please everyone and really think about what it is that you two really want.

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