(Closed) trying to set a date around the military

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My friend has to move her wedding up 4 months because of the military.  It’s a tough situation to be in and was definitely hectic to plan it!  You might want to think about getting married on a Friday or Sunday because less vendors will likely be booked.  I would get your dress and pick out an invitation design so that stuff is ready when you have a date.  Also use your family and friends because it’s a lot of work to do really quickly but I’m sure people will be willing to help!  Good Luck!

Post # 4
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What I did was give them a range: like next summer I will be getting married but I can’t set a date because of the military. Can you send me your price quotes anyway?

Post # 5
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@CassidyR: Do this, and if they’re not willing to even send you prices just cross them off the list. It’ll help you narrow things down. Of course, you could always just pick a date to give them as long as you’re clear you’re not booking anything.

We had fun trying to set a date and ultimately had several tenative dates before we set this in stone. It ended up being a longer wait to get married but it was much less stressful to wait for a convenient time.  Is it possible you can do it after he gets to the new station?

Post # 6
40 posts
  • Wedding: December 2011

Your best bet is any military holiday. Fi and I are getting married NYE of 2011 for that reason. Only way you can guarentee their time off in the future is they are stateside. You’ll set  a date and everything will be fabulous. Good luck :0)

Post # 9
2 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

So you ladies might be able to help me. My Fiance and I got engaged Dec 23. Right now he is in limbo waiting to hear where he will be being stationed (he just finished AIT). If it is wihtin the US we want to get married in June (I graduate in June). I was wondering when not in training, do they still get long weekends? I am so stressed trying to plan a wedding in less than 6 months. But can you imagine how much I get laughed at when I’m like… umm… we don’t have a date. It’s not pretty.

Post # 10
3 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

Once he’s stationed somewhere, his schedule will regulate.  He’ll have nights and weekends off for the most part, but not long weekends.  I wouldn’t try planning on a three or four day, unless it’s a holiday weekend and he knows for a fact that he’ll have the holiday off.  I would plan for a Saturday after he’s been there for a couple months and go from there.  But be flexible.  He should also put in for leave when he can for the day around that weekend if you want him to.  He can just let them know his wedding is that weekend.  You could also try planning for their block leave (have him find out when that is when he gets to his unit).


Just make sure that you’re open to change.  We took a long time to pick our date, finally did, and then it had to change.  Needless to say, I’m trying not to get too attached to our date.  You have to be positive and look on the bright side, just be flexible.  Some couples get a military clause in their contracts, but I’m not sure how often and how easily that happens.  I would have him really look at what their schedule is going to be like (for example, they’re in the field a lot in the summer up here because the weather is nice, or at deployments, trainings, schools).


Good luck!

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