- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Ok I know I am going to probably get a lot of flack regarding this, so I am pre prepared but please read this all before you judge/have a go.
I do have friends, just not many close friends. Probably sort of my fault due to my anxiety making friendships hard to maintain. I do take full responsibility and I am trying to work on it.
My Maid/Matron of Honor has probably been my second longest close friend, the first being interstate. I have another 3 good girlfriends, along with another couple of girls I like that I am not super close to but they are close to my good 3 girlfriends.
Ok so this is the bit I will probably get a bit of flack for.
I am not generally too bothered by tradition and stuff, but I feel like I will feel pretty sad if no one at least offered to throw a shower or bachelorette for me, mainly the bachelorette.
I was originally planning on hosting a couple shower myself for me and Fiance but I don’t want to come accross gift grabby so I scrapped that idea, and am no longer really bothered about the shower.
With the bachelorette I had been discussing it with my Maid/Matron of Honor and Mom earlier in the engagement, but nothing since,and no one has mentioned it since either. My mom and Maid/Matron of Honor talk to me about everything so if they were I would know since they really can’t keep a secret and I am not onefor surprises anyway.
I know it is bad to expect either of these, trust me I do, and I feel horrid. But I did change my plans to elope because of friends and family who said they would really want to be there, and so i feel almost like if I am having a proper wedding, I would kind of like the exoerience of having the stuff that goes with that, if that makes sense?
I am sure I going to get a lot of hate from etiquette correct people, and I am really not worried so much about receiving gifts so much as having the experiences of these events.
I’m not sure if it’s something I can bring up with my mum or Maid/Matron of Honor, or if I should just leave it or what.
Also we are paying for everything to do with the wedding ourselves, as well as the rehearsal dinner, and if we did do the couples shower we would have paid for that too, btu as I said I didn’t want it to come off as a gift grab.
Any advice on how to get over these feelings/ bring it up or juts on what I should do about any of this?