(Closed) Trying to stay positive…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3011 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so sorry to both you, your Fiance, and your families.  I hope everyone is well soon.  Good luck to you.  I’ll try to think of some suggestions throughout the night and share them with you. 

Post # 4
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2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry to hear about the family illnesses. Hopefully everyone is doing ok. Try not to worry about it. The important thing is celebrating the day with family and friends, and everyone is in good health. A backyard bbq wedding sounds fabulous and I am sure you can pull it off great. I think that selling the dress would be a nice idea, and maybe getting a nice cotton wedding dress for a farm wedding. Anyways I hope everything works out for you. Try to see the good in it all, because everything can be much much worse!

Post # 5
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291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Be positive ~ much easier said than done right now, I know.  Things will work themselves out.  Someone said it in a privious post – it’s about being with the one you love and the family there to witness it.  There are sooooo many lovely aspects to a barnyard wedding – think of the rustic, romantic, country-chic decor you can get – and SO many bees sell on the hive here.  I wish you and your family all the best.  Remember: this is about marrying and pledging your love to the man of your dreams.  NOT about some venue, or dress, or shoes. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i say where the dress regardless!  if it is just immediate family and close friends, they know the circumstances and will be more than understanding.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Scottielass: Im so sorry to hear about all of this.

I wouldnt post pone, everyone who knows about the date is close friends and family so they know about the circumstances, and considering all the situations in play here i think a quaint, low key in inexpensive wedding is great.

Wedding are great bc they bring family together. If you keep  your date your Future Mother-In-Law and father will be able to make it, and i cant think of anything that will make them feel better then to see their children get married.

Take solice in the fact that whlie all this illness is going on, you two have the opportunity to radiate love and bring all the family together under more pleasant circumstances.

You might not have your dream wedding with chair covers and jewels, bobbles, bubbles and bells…but you WILL have all your family there! (your dad and MIL) and to me, that is the ulimate dream to be able to fulfill on a wedding day.

 

Keep your dress and shoes and cut costs in other areas….this is your day!

Post # 8
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i am so sorry you are having such a hard time and I hope that everyone is doing ok. 

My advice is to have a super small wedding and then later in the year have a bigger reception. Don’t look at it like you are postponing or canceling…because you are not, you are just changing plans!  Have your wedding the original date and change it to immediate family, close friends. Tell everyone else that becasue of family illness, you are having something more intimate, but that you plan on having a big reception/party later in the year to celebrate. 

This way you can keep your original wedding date, get married with your nearest and dearest, but still celebrate later on with everyone else, so it’s the best of both worlds.   You can save up money for a fun and casual reception and take your time doing it.

I also second Ms. Meowerson… if you love it, wear your dress!  Don’t let a casual venue dictate what you wear, it’s your wedding and you can wear anything!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with the advice to wear your dress! Unless you were thinking of selling it for money, WEAR whatever dress you want!

I know it sucks because you have this vision and you want things to be just right, but I know you’ll end up with a beautiful wedding regardless. It just means a changing definition of “just right”! 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Scottielass: I’m so sorry for you and your FI’s families and I hope everyone gets better soon. I just wanted to say I love how you are staying postivie with the comment about not worrying about flowers 🙂 It may not be your dream day, but you can always find the silver lining if you look hard enough. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you sell the dress it will be at a loss, so why not keep it a wear it. It doesnt matter if it seems overdressed for a backyard wedding, as the bride you can never be too overdressed. I say wear the dress

Post # 13
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

First,  I am so sorry for you and your family.  I pray that they will be better soon.  I can only imagine how hard it was for you to do those things you did today. 

HUNNY KEEP THAT DRESS AND WEAR IT PROUDLY!! It will be just fine, throw on a pair of flippity flops and rock it!!

Post # 14
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I hope your FIL’s a speedy recovery.

Also I know it’s sad to lose your venue but you can do so much with a backyard wedding on a budget! There are a lot of great websites on WeddingBee and here is another wedding I loved http://www.younghouselove.com/wedding-album/

Keep the dress!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@Scottielass:  Oh!  Farmhouse and fresh flowers, already sounds perfectly charming!!  I have seen some gorgeous dresses when searching “destination wedding” and “beach wedding”, just to keep in mind if you think it might be too hot.  Some of the Hawaiian wedding dresses are nice too, and very affordable!

 

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