TTC #2 and need a pep talk…

posted 1 year ago in TTC
Post # 2
935 posts
Busy bee

Two months is nothing. I understand being impatient and wanting it to happen sooner but many couples can take up to 12 months to get pregnant. You won’t be diagnosed with secondary infertility until you’ve been trying for a year. I understand your concerns with your C section but I think you are worrying yourself way too early and way too soon.

Post # 3
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I know how stressful TTC can be, but how quickly you got pregnant with your first means nothing in terms of how long your second will take you. Depending on your age and intercourse timing, you have about a 20-30% chance of getting pregnant under PERFECT conditions each cycle. Only 40% or so of couples will be pregnant in the first 3 months of trying, and that increases to almost 80% by six months. You were lucky the first go round to get it in the first month, but just because it says not happening that way again, doesn’t mean anything is wrong. Honestly, and I don’t say this to be mean, if you go talk to a doctor right now without concrete proof you have a problem (like you never have periods), they will laugh at you. I just went to go see a doctor at 10 months TTC, and she said, “We have two more months until we’ll get concerned anything is wrong.” I know it’s hard when you want to be pregnant. I know it’s hard when you’re worried about possible issues (I have some legitimate, concrete concerns and still can’t get a doctor to talk to me for another two months), but the best thing to do is just keep trying. If you’re not pregnant at the 12 month mark, see a doctor. But I bet you will be. Good luck.

Post # 4
6613 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Most couples get pregnant within a year, majority of couples in 6 months. We conceived our first in 9 months. You could go see your OB for a preconception appointment and voice your concerns to see if you want to run tests or get checked out, but the reality is, sometimes it just takes awhile. The image below is your likelihood of conceiving on any given day of your fertile window with no pending complications. 


Good luck, Bee ❤️ I hope you get your BFP soon!

Post # 5
6613 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I should add… It took us 9 months, and I was tracking ovulation and temping the whole time 🤦

Post # 6
1039 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My ds now 2 I got pregnant  first  time  trying

My second after a vaginal  birth took me 5 cycles 

My daughter  from a previous marriage  took 9 m to concieve ( first child at 22 years old )

2 months isn’t long just enjoy the time with your child now as once your pregnant  it will take away from that if your sick

Then once you have your baby your time is more divided 

Baby dust !!!!!!!!

Post # 7
2662 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

giaf1 :  I understand where you’re coming from. I’m in the same boat. TTC #2, on cycle 4, when it only took once to get pregnant with our MC then once for D-D. I assumed it would happen the same way this time and that has not been the case. I had the perfect timeline in mind, give or take a month or two, but not four or more. My D-D is 3 now so I’m freaking out that the age gap will be bigger than I “planned”. I also had a csection and have the same fears as you regarding implantation. I even worry that DH’s swimmers’ status has changed. It’s a rollercoaster for sure. It helps knowing I’m not alone which is why the bee is so great and going through TTC with the POAS boards is great to have some buddies on the ride. I have my annual in November and have told myself I will mention my worries to my Dr then if we haven’t been successful yet. Until then, full steam ahead I guess. Hugs to you mama, you aren’t alone. Baby dust to us all!

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