TTC Advice for a Newbee

posted 1 year ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

taybenn10 :  A lot of ladies here use fertilityfriend.com to track their cycles. It’s also good if you want to chart your basal body temperature, use OPKs, or mark down cervical mucus or position through your cycle to help pinpoint O. If you sign up they also send you 20 days of educational emails about charting and knowing when you’re fertile. If you want to dive down deep you could read Taking Charge of your Fertility, I learned a ton from that book and fertilityfriend. 

It sounds like you’re good on the prenatals already, that is great! We kept it to ourselves that we were trying the first time. We’re TTC #2 now and I shared that with a friend who also shared that they were starting TTC too and now I’m feeling a little pressure that they will be successful right away and we wont. We’re already onto cycle 2. So I would advise to keep it to yourselves to help preserve the big surprise when you can finally announce that you are pregnant! πŸ™‚ 

Also, come join us on the July POAS (pee on a stick) Board! πŸ™‚ And good luck!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Seconded re POAS boards – I’ve found them so helpful. I’m only on cycle 3 so no expert but I would say:

– find the approach that works for you: some people opt for Not Trying Not Preventing ie coming off BC and seeing how it goes, some people temp, check their CM etc. I’m somewhere in the middle (I use ovulation tests and the Ovia app to monitor my cycle but no temping) which works for me at the mo, though would re-evaluate if no luck after 6 months

– don’t expect to get pregnant immediately: if it happens, that’s amazing! But it can take a while and if you grown up (like me) thinking that one missed pill = pregnancy then the first BFN can be a bit of a kick in the teeth.

Another thing I’ve learned which isn’t so nice but I think is important is about chemical pregnancies – I’d never even heard the term before coming on these boards. I knew the highest chances of miscarriage was in the first 12 weeks but didn’t realise quite how often people had very early miscarriages. I think it has definitely made me more mentally prepared for the fact that I may get a few BFPs that don’t stick.

In terms of telling people, I’ve told my two best friends but that’s it although given my husband and I just got married and our ages (31/37) and the fact that everyone knows we want children together, a lot of people will have gusssed!

Re checks, I had some basic blood tests pre-TTC which confirmed I had low B-12 so have been on supplements so do think it’s worth a trip (though I’m from England where that’s completely free – not sure if you’re a US bee or if you would need to pay for the appointment, please excuse my ignorance!)

But yes, join the POAS boards – they are full of lots of friendly women far more knowledgeable than me! 

X

 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Make sure you are taking folic acid now! It is best to be taking it for months prior to conception.

Do you have a GP that you like/is not too costly? I would recommend going and talking to them about your plan.

If you have cats you may need to be tested or to stop cleaning their litter =) 

 

Best of luck x

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Commenting to follow. πŸ™‚

Any brands of prenatal vitamins bees would recommend? I just started looking into that and… There’s about a zillion different brands. 😳

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2000

taybenn10 :  personally I have never been good at charts and whatnot so I ordered a bunch of ovulation strips and they worked wonderfully;)

 I just started testing like after my period and they always worked for me!

 I bought some at Walmart too in case you don’t want to wait for shipping I highly recommend them they take the guesswork outta ovulating πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Do you remember what your cycles were like before BC? If they are fairly regular, temping/charting isn’t as important, as it won’t tell you when you will ovulate, it will only confirm once you did.

 

For me, my cycles off birth control were super long and irregular so if I wasn’t temping, I would have constantly wondered if I was pregnant when I hadn’t even ovulated yet (when I went off the pill in 2014 I did not ovulate until day 73). One caveat though- even regular cycles can get irregular from time to time, so if you’re expecting your period on day 30, for example, and you don’t get it, and all pregnancy tests are negative, you’ll have to assume your cycle is wonky rather than being a freak of nature who doesn’t get positive pregnancy tests while pregnant.

Whether you want to chart right off the bat is a personal preference. I didn’t chart my first time TTC and only did my second time because my cycles were so ridiculous.

 

TTC can be really frustrating, even in the beginning. Remember that the majority of people will get pregnant within 12 months, so don’t panic if it doesn’t happen right away. I know though, that’s much easier said than done.

 

Finally, I would not tell people. I made the mistake of telling my group of friends and on top of the barrage of “are you pregnant yet” texts, every eye was on me during happy hours and it was annoying.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t really think it’s necessary to have a pre-conception appt with your doctor, unless you suspect you have issues (like really irregular cycles) or something. As for tracking, I tempted (used Fertility Friend and a $10 bbt thermometer I got at CVS) and cheapie OPKs from Amazon (the Clinical Guard brand – it’s like $11 for 50 of those suckers). I found it helpful to both temp and use OPKs…the OPKs tell you that ovulation is about to occur, and the temping tells you that it has occurred, so if you’re a nervous nellie like me who wants to be 100% in the know about your body’s every move, this is a good strategy. 

As for telling people – it’s a really personal choice. I told my best friend who has a baby and so had recently gone through TTC herself, but that was it. I didn’t want to tell my parents or other family members because I didn’t want people constantly analyzing my every move wondering if I was pregnant yet. I found the POAS boards on here to be a really great support network!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hello welcome to the ttc madness! I disagree with a pp that if your cycles are more regular temping isn’t as important.

 

My cycles are normally pretty regular at 28/29 days with a few crazy ones thrown in. My first few months of ttc I didn’t temp, use opks or anything. My thinking was all of my sisters and my mom have had absolutely no trouble at all getting pregnant this is going to be easy. Oh how very wrong I was. First of all those first few months I probably missed every single fertile window (fw) because I naively thought I would ovulate (O) around cycle day (cd) 14. I actually normally O around cd 17-19 so I personally think the sooner you start temping the better. 

 

That’s my personal story. But by all means don’t think you have to temp. Soooo many people never temps and get pregnant very easily anyway. Also I agree with everyone else about joining the POAS boards you’ll learn so much there. 

I hope your time on the ttc train is short and sweet.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Dr_dazzle :  Fair point. What I meant was, it is more useful for someone with irregular cycles to temp than someone with regular cycles, as far as when to expect either a period or pregnancy (if one time your cycle is 4 weeks, and then the next time it’s 7 weeks, that’s 3 weeks of expecting your period and taking pregnancy tests, which is super frustrating).

 

But yes, there is value in temping even with regular cycles. And good point about having a standard 28 day cycle not necessarily leading to ovulation on day 14. My own LP is 11 days usually, not 14.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

1. Start taking a prenatal, or at the least folic acid.

2. Start tracking your cycles – you don’t need to grab every single data point, but knowing when you ovulate rather than just guesstimating is going to be helpful – especially if this process takes a while for you.

3. Have sex – my Dr suggested that we basically start on CD 8 and go to CD 21 with sex every other day (knowing when you ovulate will allow you to shorten that window if it becomes a bit too onerous).  LOL, my  Dr actually said “make sure you’re having unprotected sex at least every other day starting on day 8 through day 21″…. haha, sure Dr. it’s those darn condoms we’ve been using that were preventing pregnancy.

4. Since you’re just starting out, try to stay relaxed (I know telling someone to relax, it’ll happen is terrible advice for anyone who has been trying for a while), but at this point you don’t know whether or not you’ll get pregnant easily – so making TTC a stressful thing in the first few months is just going to tarnish what may not need to be a stressful time. Remember, 6 months – 1 year TTC is totally normal – both my sticky pregnancies took over 6 months to achieve.

5. Make sure whatever lube etc you’re using is sperm friendly.  I’m not saying go out and buy a case of Pre-Seed…. just be aware that anything you’re adding to the equation may hinder your chances.

6. If you think there’s reason to be concerned, engage your Dr ASAP.  I wound up with a prescription for Femera and a referral to a Fertility Clinic (neither of which we wound up needing as we got pregnant the cycle before either would have started), but knowing that I had a Dr on board, willing to run some tests and “on my side” helped me out when I felt like it was never going to happen for us.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Tatum :  You’re completely right.

It’s also helpful when you go to the doctor with your irregular cycles; and you have the charts to prove to them that you aren’t ovulating and need help. *general you.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

We’ve been TTC 16+ months so unfortunately I have a lot of TTC experience 

– Personally, would totally suggest doing a preconception check up. You can identify things that are easy to correct that could keep you from getting pregnant.

– On that note, I’d suggest being as healthy as possible. If you have any health concerns or issues, get those under control before getting pregnant. Healthy diet, exercise, all that jazz. Way easier to have good habits going into pregnancy than starting once you’re already pregnant. 

– Personally, I’d just do SMEP when you’re first trying. I personally found that the easiest (and got pregnant doing it). You don’t temp but use OPKs. Temping is great, but its definitely a commitment that you may not need straight up front. I personally find OPKs (and my RE has us using OPKs) as a low stress way to chart. You can’t confirm (as with temping), but chances are that you’re ovulating if you’re getting clear positive OPKs every month. 

– Save reading on all the infertility stuff until you actually need to. 

– Don’t forget to spend time keeping your marriage strong. Whether it takes you 1 month or 1 year to get pregnant, it can be a crazy time that can test your relationship. Don’t forget to keep your relationship rock solid while you’re on the crazy journey

– I use the nature made prenatals. Both my RE and OB haven’t been picky on the brand as long as they have all the vitamins you need. Prenatals before you get pregnant are definitely a must so stock up. You can try different brands or different times of the day if they make you sick.

– Cheapie OPKs are fine, but if you want a clearer answer, I like the clear blue ones, too. My RE requires you to use the Clearblue ones with either the smile or open circle. She says the flashing smile is bullshit, so skip the extra fancy ($) ones 

– Once you’re ready to test, I personally suggest trying with just the cheapie wondfo or clinical guard tests you get on amazon. They’re cheap and if you go nuts, it doesn’t waste too much money. Once you think you see a line, spring for the First Response Early Response tests (FRER). FRERs are the best, but they’re like $7 each so they can add up quickly if you test multiple times for a few months. Don’t waste money on any tests with blue lines, blue dye is notorious for false positives (aka, you’re not pregnant but you get a line).

– Be sure you like your OB! If you hate your OB now, you will hate them even more when you’re pregnant. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

bethio :  I am taking pregvit, it is a prescription prenatal vitamin. From the research I did it seemed the best. Plus I now have great health insurance from work and it covers 100% so they feel free to me which is awsome! I went to my doctor this past December and spoke with her about it and she wrote a prescription. She said to start 3 months before TTC and I am on the end of my 3rd month now! πŸ˜‰

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