(Closed) TTC after a MC: anyone with me?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I too had a miscarriage in august/September.  I had to have a d&c and my doc was happy for us to start ttc as soon as istopped bleeding. Af returned approx 4months later and stayed for three weeks. I started to bleed again for another week and a bit. I have had insane cramps and AF is only slightly.  I am so frustrated with the whole thing I keep think I would have been six months pregnant if I didnt lose the baby. My periods have always been irregular and I really dont think I ovulate every monthnever got a opk positive (althouh AF has been here most of December). So no clue what cycle day. No clue when AF due as it finally stopped again last night.

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@phoebephoebo:  Yes, it is only a 2% occurrence and it was frustrating because I didn’t have any risk factors for it so I feel really unlucky. It was my first pregnancy only after 3 weeks of quitting birth control. I feel like conceiving was half the battle and the other half will be to get a sticky baby in the proper place. Fingers crossed!

 

However, i’m feeling like 2014 is going to be my year so I’m really looking forward to AF so I can get back on track. 

Good luck!

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had my MC in September. It was a missed MC. I went into th dr for my first ultrasound at 8 weeks and there was no Heartbeat.  I was devastated and I opted to have  a D&C.  I had to wait 2 weeks to have sex again and one cycle before we could could TTC again. I am now on my third cycle of trying since my first normal cycle. My cycle went from a clockwork 28 days to an agonizing 33/34 days. I know there are bees with much longer cycles, but I could.Have set a watch by my pre-MC cycle, so to have my body be totally different is frustrating. Also, because it was a missed MC I’m terrified it will happen again.  Sooooo even if I get a BFP I won’t be able to truly be happy about it until after my first ultrasound And even then……

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@phoebephoebo:  I think that is the most frustrating part. I just wanted to go back to normal. For me that was a 28 day cycle. so it’s like I’m permanently changed in so many ways mentally and physically.  It’s not that I want to completely forget my MC. but I hate having it thrust in my face every month by my own body.  Wow….that sounded really dramatic 🙂

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just had my post-MC appointment with my doc. I’d already had a meeting with on the books since this summer, and I’d forgotten that it was for my annual. Joy.

Scenic route to my point:

In addition to the inherent crappiness of a MC, my patient care was also terrible. I called the docs  office soon after I got my BFP to see if I could take monistat (answer=yes). They decided to check my blood type. The nurse called back the next day to say my HCG was low at 74 and it was possible that I would MC. But they wouldn’t know until draw #2.

She called after draw #2 to say I was MCing but at least I knew I could get pregnant. Because my HCG only went up to 136 and hadn’t *quadrupled*. i knew enough from google that they’re only expected to *double*, and there’s even flexibility with that. I was confused but still sobbing when the actual doctor (a sub, since mine was on vacay)  called back to say, “Sorry about that! You’re fine. Let’s order another test to make you feel better.” Then they didnt double, so i spent a weekend waiting to MC, then bleeding started but my hcgs did double & there was finally a sac, then no sac & plummeting hcgs. I was either told that the MC would start soon or that everything was fine multiple times over two weeks. I never talked to my actual doctor, even once she was back, so I wasn’t even sure who was managing my care.

Most of this was probably normal but I can’t get past being told I was going to MC in error and that no one at their practice will acknowledge it. looking back, I also know I was pregnant a few months ago though I wasnt able to test before I got what I assumed was AF. I told my doc, who told me not to rack up miscarriages – which I get – but I’m not feeling heard, i’m angry and  don’t trust any of them. 

Point:

Has anyone else ran into lack-of-trust issues with providers? I think I’m going with midwives next time. Also, the office gave me flashbacks, though I’m guessing they’ll pass with time. 

This is from my iPad – sorry for any creative sentence structures.

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