Post # 1
Hi ladies. I know this may have been a thread already. But I’m curious as to how many cycles you waited after mc/ectopic before you started Ttc? I got my first BFP in April after about 8 mths of trying (1st cycle clomid). My beta number never got very high. And I started to mc at 5+ weeks. My beta fluctuated for weeks. I was given meds and then In June they discovered it was a ectopic. I had a methotrexate shot and it still took several weeks to get a 0 beta. I finally got AF the last week in June! I have short cycles so I expect to get AF at the end of next week (28 days). Once I’ve had AF 2x do you think we can start Ttc again? Or so I have to let the 2nd cycle fully “play out”?
Just curious to hear others experiences. And how long it took for a BFP??
Post # 3
@Wispy: I’ve been told by numerous clinicians that they only really say to wait for mental health reasons, that there is no physiological benefit. They were referring to M/C not necessarily ectopic, though. I suppose if you didn’t have any damage from that that the same rules would apply.
I’m so sorry for your loss. =(
I started trying right away after my M/C. My cycle was too wonked for a pregnancy and it has been four cycles since with no BFP. =/
Post # 4
First off I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t have experience with ectopic, but miscarried at 8 weeks in April. I tried again immediately, midwife said it was fine. I just got my second BFP today on my second cycle post MC. I think my body was too messed up the first cycle, and this second one was a long one, O on CD 39. Good luck!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss, especially after trying so long. We had our miscarriage after trying for 10 months, so I understand how extra emotional and frustrating it is.
We miscarried in early September of last year and started trying again right away. We got another BFP 3 cycles later (in early December), and I’m 37 weeks pregnant now.
We were advised to let a full cycle play out before trying again (we didn’t), just to make sure everything was cleared and in working order, and to make dating a subsequent pregnancy easier (although it’s easy to do with an ultrasound), but mostly so the woman has time to mentally heal.
Mine wasn’t ectopic, though…I don’t know how that would effect trying again.
Post # 6
As long as your doctor didn’t give you a specific timeframe (usually only applicable with a surgical procedure, but I suppose the methotrexate could maybe “linger”, but that’s probably not likely), you can start trying right away again if that’s what you want to do. Some people want the time to greive, but some people want to hit the ground running again. You do what’s right for you.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Post # 7
Hi hun:) I know we’ve chatted before, but ew only waited until I got AF one time before trying again. With the metho, it should all be out of your system now (really only takes about 8-10 days) and as long as you’ve been diligent about taking pre-natals, your folic acid levels should be back to a normal, healthy place.
The mental health part of it is a double edged sword- or at least it was for us. We wanted to make sure that we were both emotionally ready for BFN’s again (which was HARD), but on the other hand, each month we weren’t pregnant was another “missed” opportunity.
Did your doctor specifically say to wait until you got AF two times? If (s)he did, I might call the practice and see why, specifically, they recommend that- emotional/medical/etc. Once you know WHY they suggest it, you can better determine whether you want to follow their advice or not.
Big hugs love, I’m rooting for you guys! 🙂
Post # 8
We didn’t wait for a period technically, but I’m not sure I ovulated anyway!! We started for sure after I got my period. I’m 4 dpo on our second cycle since the miscarriage!!
Post # 9
Thank you ladies! I appreciate hearing your experiences! I was super fortunate not to have any internal damage. And once I got my first 0 beta I have been diligent about taking my prenatal vitamins again and increasing my intake of foods high in folic acid. I have an appt Tues to see my Dr. I want to get back in the swing of things (I’m over 35 and so I’m more anxious).
Emotionally it has been a huge rollercoaster. Since I started to mc right away (early may) I took time off of work and allowed myself to just feel what I was feeling (shitty, depressed, sad, lost, etc). By the time I got the methotrexate shot I was just beginning to be frustrated by the whole process. I have tried to make a real effort to find any positives I can from the situation. 1-I am able to get pregnant 2-it really got DH and I to get in the mind frame of wow we are going to be parents (even if it was only a week) 3-I have been working hard to change my diet and take better care of myself. 4-I’ve learned so much about this process (more than i realized and sometimes more than i care to know..but I’m a smarter “consumer” because of it). 5- even though you never want to be in the role for this reason..i know my story will help others..
So I’m trying to use this as a learning experience but just like anyone who has had a mc it does catch me sometimes and I tear up. I catch myself thinking I’d be **this many weeks pregnant, etc. It is definitely a hard process. I guess my biggest fear is I don’t want to go through this again.. it is just really tough.
Good Luck girls!!! Our LO’s are coming I just know!!
Post # 10
@Wispy: You are so strong!! You found a lot of positives in a tough situation. I applaud you!! =) Good luck to you on Tuesday!! =)