Post # 1
I had a natural miscarriage 3 days ago in my 5th week. Had started losing my symptoms about 4 days before. Not ready to be intimate again yet, but I think I willl be soon and Darling Husband is waiting patiently for whenever I feel ready. (such a good man.)
I want to try again soon but don’t want to sabatoge us or something by not waiting – or waiting too long! I’m just trying to make sense of the info that is out there for trying again – it seems so confusing!
My doctor said when my level is back down to 0, then we have the green light. But other info says that a level of 5 is safe.
Some things say you’re more fertile after miscarriage, other things say you are less fertile immediately after.
Some info says it’s better to wait until your body heals before ttc bc otherwise you are at higher risk for another miscarriage, and other info says that your body is already in ‘go mode’ so it’s a good time to conceive.
And all info says that the chances of conceiving are less the more you wait after 35 (I’m 35). But if I wait the recommended 3 or 4 cycles post mc, then I’m pushing myself farther past 35!
Can anyone make sense of it all or know what the real correct info is??? Making my head spin. I’m sooooo confused. I just want to set us up best for success.
Post # 3
I’m ttc after a miscarriage as well but I am in my twenties. I would take your doctor’s advice, if you trust him/her they will be more familiar with your body and what may be good (or not) for you during this time.
I’m so so sorry to hear about your m/c and hope you will be a mama very soon! Hang in there.
Post # 4
I had a MC at 4/5 weeks, no D & C etc.
Waited to have a period the next month. Then conceived after that.
MC was in August and I got pregnant in October.
Post # 5
@CoffeeandCream: congrats! ok good timeline. 🙂 thanks for sharing.
Post # 6
Thanks…..forgot to mention he is 14 years old now….LOL
Post # 7
I’ve had 2 natural miscarriages and we didn’t wait. I think it’s a very personal decision and the things to consider are: Are you emotionally ready to ttc again? And if you had a D&C then I would wait because typically the scraping can weaken the lining.
I’m the product of a lady who didn’t wait. My mom knew she was pregnant with me just a couple of weeks after she miscarried.
Post # 8
I think the most important thing is to wait until 100% of the tissue has passed and your blood HCG is 0 or almost 0 so that you’re not risking infection with sex (foreign flora from your SO can cause it if things are still healing). Typically, one period past is good. Some women ovulate more aggressively (2 eggs, for example) after a MC, some don’t. Hence the conflicting info. I think it’s best to air on the safe side of at least one normal cycle post MC.
Post # 9
@crayfish: Completely agree.
Generally speaking, waiting one cycle after miscarriage is usually enough time unless you had excessive bleeding (bleeding that was so bad that you needed medical treatment). In the case of the latter then you would need to let your body heal longer.
Post # 10
@Sunshine09: I’m so sorry about your MC. =(
ETA: For my situation (yours could be different, but mine happened naturally around 5 weeks too), my doctor said there is no medical reason to wait one full cycle, just emotionally it can be easier and it makes it better for calculating due dates. She said as soon as the pregnancy test becomes negative, we had the green light, and that was just to be sure my next positive test would be from a new pregnancy (which still hasn’t come).