(Closed) TTC After Miscarriage

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011
Hi πŸ™‚ I also got pregnant our first try and miscarried at 7 weeks naturally. I had a 47 day cycle and I’m just now finishing up AF. We were cleared to start trying again last cycle since the MC was natural and everything was “cleared out.” I didn’t get pregnant but I also think that I ovulated later than normal.  I’m SO excited but I’m also absolutely terrified. I have this horrible fear that even if we get pregnant again it’ll result in another miscarriage and I had such a hard time with the first one I just can’t imagine going through that again.
 
We’re really doing everything in our power to make this cycle our lucky one!! It’s so nice to have so so so many bees who know what I’m going through (even though I’d never wish the experience on anyone) and to have the support system.

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Thank you so much for posting this.  It is nice to have a place where we can all come together.  I am ready and proud to say that we are ready to start TTC again.  Everything went back to normal fairly quickly after my MC and we feel blessed to have the chance to get back into the TTC world.  I am currently back to cycle 1 after the MC and we are looking at it as a new beginning.  Thank you again to everyone here at the bee for your enormous support and kind words.  I hope all of you who unfortunatly had to suffer this loss, will be able to find the support you need to continue on like I did. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

GREAT idea!  I tried starting one of these a few months ago and it didn’t totally pick up! http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage

It was eye opening to me to learn how many women experience miscarraiges (especially with first pregnancies).  Wb has been a great place for me to turn to for support, even though I have been pretty open with family and friends about what happened.  I admire all of the bee’s who have had multiple miscarriages or miscarried much later than me and have the strength to jump back into TTC.  I’m routing for everyone!

As for me – this is my post-miscarriage alias!  I was a frequent poster and had lots of wedding pics up so wanted some privacy during the TTC process, but I’m sure I’ll let everyone know who I am eventually.   We started TTC in January.  I got pregnant on cycle 3 but miscarried almost immediately (and was taken aback at how devastated I was).  We had to wait a cycle before trying again (and it was a looong 40 day cycle).  Now it’s cycle 3 TTC  post m/c.  Hoping third time is a charm. 

How I’m feeling?  A little pessimistic.  I was pretty upset that cycle 2 was a failure since we had great timing, etc.  I’m currently in the TWW again (AF due Saturday 9/17) and have convinced…or have tried to convince myself it’s not happening.  However, this cycle is the most regular I have had so far (ovulated on day 15/16 as opposed to 19-22…) so hoping that it’s a good sign that my cycle is getting regulated. 

Not yet thinking about how scared I will be of another m/c if and when we do get pregnant again…

Good luck to everyone here!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@winniewolf:  I am super duper rooting for you! I know how hard it is, but everything happens for a reason.  I realized that after my mc.  It wasn’t our time. 

Good luck this month and keep us updated πŸ™‚

** baby dust**

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hi ladies I just want to say how sorry I am for everyone’s loss and am glad that we can all support each other as we try to become pregnant again.  I too had a miscarriage in March of this year.  I got pregnant in January very easily I basically took and OPK got a smiley BDed one time and was pg.  Unfortunately at about 9 weeks I had the worst experience with miscarrying and was completely devastated after and couldn’t even think about trying again.  I took a break from the bee and turned to a site called dailystrength.org which really helped me bc there were so many other women experiencing what I had.  I never knew how common mc was until you hear or read about it.  I have a daughter already and got pg with her while on the pill and yes I took it everyday at the same time.  I am so lucky to have her bc I love her more than anything.  I took a little break from TTC until about May and we have been TTC since then with no luck.  I have been using OPK’s and thought it would be as easy as the first time, but it hasn’t been.  Each time AF shows I get depressed and feel like a failure, like omg when I had my D&C did they mess something up, is this normal?  But I do move on and we are entering the next cycle and I will be in the TWW after tonight.  I want to wish everyone good luck and I hope we all get pg super fast πŸ™‚ thank you for starting this thread

Post # 8
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Busy bee

We got our BFP in our 2nd month TTC and I miscarried naturally at 5-6 weeks.  It was a terrible experience that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone.  And I am afraid it’ll happen again…

For now I am on CD40 after my m/c, we also got the go ahead to try again immediately so I’m still waiting around for either AF or a BFP…I would prefer the latter.  I was going to hold off on testing till next Sat, but I think I’ll probably test tomorrow morning since I haven’t since Sunday.

Anyway, if this isn’t our cycle I hope we are able to conceive relatively easily again and that the next time it is a healthy pregnancy.

Thanks ladies, it has been such a help knowing that you have all gone through the same thing.  I still get sad at times and it’s really a hard thing to talk about with people who haven’t gone through it, so I am glad to have my bees πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Great thread idea!  Thank you for starting this and thanks to everyone for sharing <3

I found out I was pregnant in May.  It had been my first cycle charting.  We BDed the day I was ovulating… and it worked!  Later that same month, I had the mc (a little under 5 weeks).  I knew it was a possibility, and I wasn’t planning on telling many people until after 12 weeks, but when it happened I was totally crushed.  

We didn’t try in June (per the doctor’s recommendation), we tried in July and I got af.  We didn’t time it correctly in August, so no surprise that I got af then.  This month I feel like we timed it pretty well (with the help of an OPK).  So, this is cycle 4 post mc, but really this is the 3rd attempt since we didn’t get to try in June. 

How am I feeling?  Hopeful.  Hopeful that I’ll soon see a BFP and end up with a healthy baby after 9 months.  I’m hoping for that for all of us πŸ™‚  Good luck to everyone! 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Hey ladies! I’m not currently TTC, but I did miscarry and have a baby after so I thought I’d chime in and wish you all luck! I know how scary it is to TTC after losing a baby, and then the whole process of being pregnant is also crazy scary b/c you worry all the time!

We got pregnant the second month of trying, but I miscarried at 6 weeks but didn’t find out until 12. Right when the doctor gave us the OK to start trying again, we got preggo first try. When I was 6 weeks I had some bleeding which really freaked me out, but it was just a bubble in my placenta and I currently have a beautiful, healthy 7 1/2 week old baby girl.

Wishing you all healthy baby thoughts!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Hey ladies! I’m not currently TTC, but I did miscarry and have a baby after so I thought I’d chime in and wish you all luck! I know how scary it is to TTC after losing a baby, and then the whole process of being pregnant is also crazy scary b/c you worry all the time!

We got pregnant the second month of trying, but I miscarried at 6 weeks but didn’t find out until 12. Right when the doctor gave us the OK to start trying again, we got preggo first try. When I was 6 weeks I had some bleeding which really freaked me out, but it was just a bubble in my placenta and I currently have a beautiful, healthy 7 1/2 week old baby girl.

Wishing you all healthy baby thoughts!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re definitely not ready to even think to hard about TTC again yet, but I’m really glad this thread is here.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am glad this thread is here. I’m currently in the TWW and going insane.  I got pregnant 2 times and miscarried. The first I was still on bc and was not attempting to try and the 2nd time was the first attempt and my first month off of bc. We were using other protection, but again I ended up pregnant. Both miscarriages caused me great devistation. I was farther along and had seen an ultrasound and heard a heartbeat. That loss was truly devistating. I still cry about it and have a tough time talking about it face to face with people without crying.

Now that we’re ready mentally and physically it’s been tough to get pregnant. My cycles are all over the place since the mc and it makes it difficult to figure out ovulation. I’m hoping this is my month, but if not I know there will be another one to follow πŸ™‚ 

Good luck to everyone! 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m really thankful for this thread!!! I’m having such a hard day today. One of my best friends called last night to tell me she’s pregnant. They’re due 2 weeks after we would have been due if it wasn’t for the MC and that really hit me hard. I’m so happy for them but I’m almost overwhelmingly sad for myself. I feel like such a bad friend. We go to a weekly bible study with them, it’s tonight and she said that they’re going to announce it to everyone. I’m really just trying to psych myself up today because I know it’ll be a tough night but I’m just ending up throwing myself a pity party over here…

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@Running Elley:  Oh no!  That is terrible news!  (I mean of course it’s wonderful news, but given the circumstances, from your perspective, things are a little different!)

Luckily your hubby will be there for support when she makes the announcement.  And worst case scenario, skip out on the bible study week…Say you’ve got a migraine or something.  If you are feeling too down about this, I don’t think you should force yourself to go.  Maybe just have a quiet dinner at home with your Darling Husband.  

Up to you, but either way, I totally feel for you!  The times I feel saddest is when I think ‘I would be this far along’ or by next April I would have had a baby… Now with your friend you’ll have a constant reminder of that.  Maybe if she’s a really close friend you can tell her what happened to you so she understands if you are a little distant at times.  

Sorry I’m not more helpful…I’m sorry you have to go through this.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

We started ttc right after our wedding last April and got pregnant in June. I miscarried in July/August and it was very traumatic. Lasted 4 weeks and eventually I had to have a d&c. We’ve been trying ever since with various fertility treatments and our only hope now is IVF. We are starting the IVF process very soon. I’m so hopeful that we finally after 14 months can get pregnant again and have a baby!! There isn’t a week that goes by that I don’t think of the miscarriage and what could have been. I’m so sorry for all of your losses and wish you lots and lots of baby dust!!

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