(Closed) TTC After Miscarriage

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 61
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Bee Keeper

For the love of God! I’m having a bad day ladies :o( My conversation with a girl on my floor in the kitchen today is below. This girl’s life revolves strictly around being a mother…which is fine, but she drives me crazy.

Me: How is everything going on your side of the floor?

Her: Same old…busy, busy! Did you know that there are 7 pregnant women on our floor?? Crazy isn’t it?

Me: Is there really? I only knew about the 4 in my department and someone in recruiting.

Her: Oh yes, and then there’s so and so. Oh and this guy’s wife is pregnant too! How long have you been married? Isn’t it time for babies for you yet??

Me: Maybe soon…

Her: Well, you need to get on that! I thought for sure you’d be pregnant by now!

Really? REALLY? Not only do I live in the Twilight Zone, but who says that to anyone??? You’re my co-worker for goodness sake! 

Post # 62
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@2PeasinaPod:Aw I’m sorry 🙁 I had a similar situation at a baby shower this weekend and it’s just SO hard!!

Post # 63
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Busy bee

@2PeasinaPod:  I realize this was a coworker so maybe my advice isn’t very appropriate…But when friends/family have said things like that to me, I have enjoyed replying: “Yes, well, I was pregnant”…It’s kind of fun to see them squirm a little.  Then they feel bad for talking about such a personal topic and realize that maybe they should not ask people about their fertility in the future.

Post # 64
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Bee Keeper

@chastenet: I did that to a nosey family member who just doesn’t shut up about that kind of stuff. She definitely felt bad afterwards. I hope it teaches them to mind their own business!

@Running Elley: What did you say to them when they asked??

And I’m not expecting everyone to read my mind and just know these things, but it’s just such a personal question that you shouldn’t be asking someone. I’ve never asked anyone when they’re going to have kids except for maybe my best friend. And we talked about it b/c that’s what best friends talk about!

 

Post # 65
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@2PeasinaPod:I just kind of laughed and said “Hopefully soon…” The particular friend who asked me is due with her second next month and she’s desperate for another friend to have babies with. She asks me every time I see her. It’s hard to not just blow up and tell her that some people actually have to try at getting pregnant and some people actually have problems with it. Both of her pregnancies were completely unplanned and have gone absolutely perfectly. I’m glad for her sake that that’s the case but I don’t think that she’ll be able to relate to our journey at all.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hi ladies so I just needed some support this week I should have been giving birth and instead I’m struggling  TTC again I really thought I would have been pregnant by now and I’m so down that I shouldn’t be TTC but rather sharing the joy of a new addition with Darling Husband and Dear Daughter, I’m sorry about being a debbie downer but this is so much harder than I thought it would be and I am so mad and keep thinking this isn’t fair.

Post # 68
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@ms sweets: It is unfair 🙁 I’m so sorry. It’s such a tough thing to go through. We all understand so you’re not being a debbie downer, you’re just reaching out, which is much better than keeping it in.

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mwitter80: and @hopingtobeamama: Thank you so much this means a lot bc no one really understands the pain of this unless you have gone through it, but I am feeling much better esp. after all the wonderful support from all the ladies on here.  I hope we all get BFP’s soon this AF business is getting old lol

Post # 71
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988 posts
Busy bee

@ms sweets:  Awe!  I’m a little late after your original post…But I completely understand!  There are stil lots of times when I think: “Right now I would be this far along”, or “Right now I would be showing”…I am sure it’ll hit me very hard when I reach my EDD.

I think what you’re feeling is completely normal.  You went through a loss and although it gets better, there are always some days that are harder than others.  EDD is definitely one of those!  Also in this list: any day when someone asks “aren’t you pregnant yet?” or any day when a friend/acquaintance/D-level celebrity announces their own pregnancy…

All you can do is deal with the bad days in whatever way helps you (my way = wine) and try and keep positive and keep trying! =)

Post # 72
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well I got good news and bad news today. The good news is I think my period is finally starting again, so yay for that! But the bad news is it’s starting 2 days before my one year anniversary. 

Undecided

Post # 73
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5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ladies, I have a question for those of you whose MC’s happened naturally. How bad was your cramping pain? My cramps right now are SO bad. If they were horrible, did you take anything for them and what did you take? During my first MC I was on bedrest and the cramps weren’t nearly as bad when I was laying down but this time I’m still working and sitting/walking around all day is magnifying them times a million. Any suggestions will be appreciated! I’m just counting down the minutes until I can get in bed with a heating pad.

Post # 74
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Running Elley: Mine were pretty wretched. I took Extra Strength Tylenol, and that sort of took the edge off, but didn’t completely relieve the pain. I didn’t feel physically better until I washed down a couple Tylenol PMs with a bottle of wine later that night. 

Post # 75
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Mrs Sarah McK:Thank you! I wasn’t sure what would really make a difference. I took some ibuprofen this morning but it doesn’t seem to have affected them at all. I’ll pick up some tylenol pm on the way home…DH already has the bottle of wine waiting!

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