TTC after miscarriage / miscarriage support

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 661
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

singingbee5 :  I am sorry you had a rough weekend . Mc are hard enough and adding a parent and pet health issues on to of it I know cannot be easy. I’m glad your cat is ok, as im sure that’s a relief. Again I am so sorry you are going through this.  It is not fair and I wish I had the word to comfort you. When I mc it took a lot of support and time.  Please feel free to vent away and take the time you need to heal. 

Post # 662
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Buzzing bee

So for the bees that celebrate Easter: show of hands for how many people were asked at family dinner “so when are you guys gonna have a baby?!”. 

Post # 663
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Busy bee

sleepymelis :  went to visit the specialist today about my TSH levels, she has ordered additional bloods, as my GP only ordered my TSH and she needs additional information.  She stressed the importance of keeping your TSH under 2 for TTC and for a healthy pregnancy.  Good luck with your appt.

Post # 665
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Busy bee

sleepymelis :  that’s great that you finally got someone to “hear” what you had to say!! I’m feeling positive after my appt. which is so good

Post # 666
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hi Ladies! I’m trying to hang in there for my ultrasound on wed. I have been doing ok so far but I defiantly have my freak out moments.  Last time when I got this us I had a missed miscarrage so I still had all my pregnancy symtoms and my hcg levels were 90000!! Took 3 solid months for them to drop to 0. So it’s kinda unsettling as I cant really trust the symtoms I have. Not to mention they keep changing! On Tuesay I panicked bc my breast were no longer that tendor, then the next day they were back to being so soar. Still are. I had some light spotting yesterday. Called the nurses line and they said it’s common especially for ivf patients. So trying not to read into anything.  I told myself I can be nervous on wed but not before. It kinda helps actually. I’m trying to be positive but I cant help being scared. Last time I had my first ultrasound at 6 and half weeks and the heartbeat was 80 so they weren’t sure if the heart just started beating or if it was a bad sign so I had to wait an agonizing week and when I came back the thats when I was diagnosed with missed mc. This time I opted to have my first ultrasound at 7 weeks so hopefully we will have more of a clear answer. I hate waiting longer but it seems better then being in the limbo zone. Anyways I just wanted to vent a little. I know worrying for me no good. Im so glad it’s the weekend! That should help! Hope all of you are doing well!!

Post # 667
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Bumble Beekeeper

candy08 :  Oh man, I understand your anxiety! Getting past this first ultrasound will be a huge milestone for you after your experience last time. Did you do IVF last time as well? All of this is so scary…all we can do is take it one day at a time and cling to what shreds of sanity remain! I really think you’re gonna get good news at your US though!

I have my next US on Monday, when I will be 8w3d. My symptoms are kinda all over the place…I was feeling really nauseous around week 6, but then it faded for awhile, only to come back strong for one day and then fade again. It’s all so agonizing! 

Post # 668
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

candy08 :  Vent away! All the waiting and uncertainty is definitely nerve wracking. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you for your ultrasound next week! I think the early 6-week ultrasounds cause a lot of undue anxiety so it’s good that you are waiting until 7 weeks. 

Post # 669
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

candy08 :   tiffanybruiser :  this post-mc pregnancy anxiety is so real. I also had a mmc and when they found out at just about 8 weeks my HCG was at 76000 so having symptoms is not comforting to me at all. I am 4+4 today and honestly just trying not to think about this pregnancy much past healthy eating and taking my prenatals at this point. My symptoms have mainly just been some light nausea and cramping/pulling (same as last time). My 1st appt/US isn’t until May 1st when I will be 8+1 so until then just taking it easy, mind and body. The reality is that none of our mc’s were caused by anything we “did” and there really isn’t anything we can do to prevent another so I am trying REALLY hard to let the anxiety go (it works about 75% of the time, the other 25% I am a nervous wreck). This is such a great place to come and vent, so please continue to do so! I hope these are our rainbow babies!

Edited to add… I am still POAS though, just to watch the line get darker ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 670
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

candy08 :  venting is perfectly understandable and welcome here! After all, I had my own venting moment last week and it really helped to have everyone’s support. I’m crossing my fingers for you that next week’s ultrasound gives you great news! I’m sorry that you’re dealing with spotting and worried about that. I’ve read all over the place that spotting is really common and normal, but of course that doesn’t help to ease nerves after a previous loss. Any chance of getting yourself a nice relaxing massage as you wait for next week’s ultrasound? 

Post # 671
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

tiffanybruiser :  I know you are right! All we can do is take it one at a time! Somedays are harder then others! I did do ivf last time  and all the meds I was on I think masked the miscarrage last time so I worry for this time a little. Good luck on your us on Monday! Isn’t it so annoying that symptoms dont stay consistent?!!

apostrophecatastrophe :  Thank you! I am hoping the waiting until 7 weeks will pay off! Some days I am so patient…others not so much!!

sunshineglam :  Thank you! I agree there really isn’t much we can do but take out vitamins and try and eat healthy. I guess after a loss it does make the next pregnancy a lot scarier but I am trying not to let it ruin it for me this time around.  That is a great sign your tests are getting darker!!! Fx for your first ultrasound in May!!

singingbee5 :  Thank you! It is so nice just to have somewhere I can talk about this. Dh I think gets tired of hearing my highs and lows.  I do think spotting is normal but i had it last time so that doesnt help but like my RE said it is very common amongst ivf patients bc of the meds and all. I do want to do something relaxing this weekend. I told dh I would like to go the whole weekend without talking about work or this . Probably wont happen!

Also my manager did say it was fine for me not to go to the conference in 2 weeks. Any ideas what excuse I will give my coworkers as a reason for not going? I will be sitting in the office that  week so they will clearly see that I am not sick? Thanks again ladies for all your support! Again so nice to have somewhere I can discuss all of this! I kinda hate the whole first trimester secrecy.

Post # 672
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

candy08 :  Just chiming in to say I know how you feel

and it’s not fun!! After my most recent MC I was sad but honestly more relieved I could finally just relax and not analyze every symptom and feeling. It really sucks when symptoms literally mean nothing for you (both of mine were MMC). Even though I didn’t end up with a happy ending, I did find the last week of waiting I got way, way better at dealing with the anxiety. What helped for me was literally pretending I wasn’t pregnant (besides not drinking and prenatals of course). I planned a lot of things for the next few months that had nothing to do with if the pregnancy worked out or not. Some people may disagree and want to celebrate the pregnancy but I really found this helpful. Plus you would still have 6 months to celebrate once you’re out of the first trimester ๐Ÿ™‚ I will be hoping for the best for you!! 

Post # 673
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

sophie89 :  I agree it is easier if you can basically go about your life as normal to keep from obsessing. I can do that most of the time, but sometimes it is so tough!! It’s hard not to analyze symtoms!! Also I am still doing nightly injections and taking meds bc of ivf so it’s a bit of a reminder. But I do agree carrying on as normal can help reduce anxiety. I try to just tell myself, today I am pregnant and all is well and that helps a bit. But yeah I think first trimester is hard in general and after a few losses it makes it even harder!! So glad it is the weekend!

Post # 674
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

candy08 :  yes, that is my motto this time too, I am not going to let it get me down.

sophie89 :  this is exactly what I am doing this time, as harsh as that sounds it’s really making the anxiety lessen for me. Last month I even planned a trip to Paris for May ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 675
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234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

sunshineglam :  That’s is so awesome and exciting! Something to look forward to no matter what ๐Ÿ˜„ I made the mistake of OMG LIFE STOPS the first time I was pregnant.. never again! 

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