TTC after miscarriage/ miscarriage support

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 91
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Busy bee

This is the second day in a row I’ve had EWCM and my opk was nearly positive today. I kind of assumed I would not ovulate this month. Did any of y’all ovulate after a mc, or not until the next cycle? My loss was on the earlier side (6 weeks). If I do ovulate, I’ll be glad to not have to wait a month. But now that I actually might, I’m feeling really nervous. I want to get pregnant but I’m scared of another loss. I thought I was handling this better. I feel silly. I doubt I’d get pregnant this cycle anyway since its unmedicated. 

Post # 92
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

ilovethesun :  I did, I ovulated ‘CD20’ after my miscarriage which was only about 4 days later than the latest I ovulate in a normal cycle. 

 

Post # 94
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Busy bee

thumperbear :  Oh, okay. Interesting. I thought my doc said it was possible but not likely. But maybe I’m remembering wrong and that’s just something I read on the internet. Haha. I’m on “CD17” today. My ovulation on non-medicated cycles is anywhere from CD12-21 though. And my OPK was very positive first thing this morning!

auggiefrog :  Sorry, girl. How did the call go? Hope you’re doing okay today.

Post # 95
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Almost postive I’m out this month now, this morning I had my normal brown pre-AF spotting.  So mad at myself b/c I had let meself be sure yesterday/early this morning that I was pregnant.  I never do that, I’m always afraid to jinx myself.  On to next month I guess, just so frustrating that a cycle takes so long (I’m really impatient).  

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

james79 :  Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that! I sympathize with you, and I’m impatient too. With my first positive pregnancy test back in May, I was not symptom spotting at all because I thought my body was still regulating from coming off the Pill. The positive test came as a huge surprise because I had my “period” on CD28 (one day earlier than usual) and then some crazy bleeding about 10 days later, which, in retrospect, was the beginning of my missed miscarriage. After that, I had spotting for another week and a half and that’s when I noticed pregnancy symptoms (mostly sore boobs and sensitivity to smell) so I took a test. Anyway, the point is that since my first time was so weird and unexpected, and I kind of knew something was wrong from the beginning because of the bleeding and spotting, I never really got my hopes up and I have no idea what to expect for early pregancy symptoms. This time, on the other hand, I am aware of all my symptoms (or lackthereof) like a mad woman. I got a BFN today (CD10) with an internet cheapie, so that’s slightly discouraging, but I know it’s still somewhat early.

Anyway, I am sorry for your disappointment this morning! I hope next cycle goes by a little quicker and you get your BFP next month. 

Post # 97
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

apostrophecatastrophe :  Thanks, my fingers are crossed for next month.  Hoping you get good news!

Post # 98
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

ilovethesun :  It’s definitely possible.  I know some dr’s tell you to not TTC till after your first post MC AF, just so that the dating is reliable, cause your dates could be way off and they aren’t able to predict when you’ll ovulate unless they’re checking your levels regularly.

 

Post # 100
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Hey alll… just wanting to say hi and get some support… found out today my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks…didn’t have any spotting or anything.. supposed to be 9 weeks… was due in March 🙁 waiting to miscarry now…. doctor says should happen in the next 2 weeks… going on vacation Friday too so that should help…

Post # 102
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MechEBee :   ilovethesun :   auggiefrog :   Mrs2b2014 :  Thank you for your kind words.

bjenmomma :  Thanks for sharing.  Did you have your HCG levels tested?  I’m curious how my body will react and if it is any different since it happened naturally.  I kinda just want to start trying asap again.  

auggiefrog :  That’s tough about your friend.  My SIL is 2.5 months ahead of where I would have been and one of my close mom friends is a week behind.  It is tough seeing that as a reminder of where I would have been.

Dani1105 :  I’m sorry for your loss.  I had also had a missed miscarriage by 3 weeks (I was 12 weeks and baby stopped growing at 9).  I actually had tried to push a bit on the toilet the day after I found out and that is when my water broke.  I ended up delivering within 2 hours and then physically I was doing pretty well.  I hope you can enjoy your vacation and spend some quality time taking care of your self.

Did anyone do anything special to memorialize or remember their loss?  I feel like I want something concrete, to hold, to make it real.  I don’t want it just to be a memory, not that that’s not enough, but I want something to be able to remind me of what we loved and lost.

I also am struggling with my feelings.  It hasn’t been very long but I feel like my husband expects me to have dealt with them.  I get that part of it is that he hates seeing me cry.  But I’m so far from over it.  I spent over 2 months fantasizing and planning our future and it was all taken away from me. I’m definitely not close to feeling emotionally stable.  But I do want to start trying again.  I need to put my energy into something.  We started working out and eating healthier but really, I want another baby and want to start trying now.  

Post # 103
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MechEBee :  Sorry for your losses.  Did you miscarry naturally before your son?  I lost mine at 12 weeks and miscarried naturally and am worried that there may be something leftover.  My midwife didn’t ask me to do any further bloodwork or ultrasounds yet and there was no mention of it, unless I’m not feeling well.  I want to try sooner than later and wouldn’t want something to hold us up unnecessarily.

Post # 104
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

auggiefrog :   pinkfaerie :  thank you both! I am really hoping to get past this… and hope the miscarriage happens sooner rather than later..I have zero symptoms of it starting at all.  I’m ready for it to happen so I can say goodbye and move forward. My doctor said to wait 2-3 cycles before trying again… so we are going to try to work on refinishing the basement to distract ourselves while waiting… should be helpful to have something else to focus on while waiting…

Post # 105
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

Dani1105 :  I am so sorry for your loss. That is very sad news. ((Hugs))

pinkfaerie :  I’m sorry for your loss too. I hope that you don’t have any further complications and can start trying again soon. I didn’t do anything to memorialize my miscarriage because I never really got my hopes up. Even though I’d never been pregnant before, I kind of knew from the beginning that it wasn’t going to be viable because I had bleeding and spotting on and off and only had one day between getting a positive HPT and going to get an ultrasound and them saying that it could go either way and only seeing an empty sac. 

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