(Closed) TTC after miscarriage or loss: Part 13

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Buzzing bee

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bettyfs :  I’m so sorry you think that you may have to endure yet another heartbreak. The doctor may want to run some tests for recurrent pregnancy loss to see if they can find out why you’ve now suffered three or if it’s just terrible luck. Has your DH had a SA? Big big hugs, hope you get some answers soon.

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MrsMellyBean :  I know it’s so rubbish! I’ve not tested since my fainter lines and no full on bleeding as yet, but I’d be niaeve to not think it’s soon to happen. Docs tomorrow so she can do a hcg to confirm. No SA for Dh yet, I didn’t really think of that possibility! 

Thanks for your support 🙂

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bettyfs :  How did the appointment go? Thinking of you!

Post # 425
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MrsMellyBean : how lovely of you to remember. Appointment was good thanks. Started bleeding Sunday night so definitely another loss. She said at this stage it could very well be bad luck. There’s blood tests she can do for clotting disorders and cor chromosomal testing, but they’re very expensive and not covered by my insurance out here. Will cost about £2500 in total. She’s advised to wait until after another loss to test but has suggested next time I find out I’m pregnant to come straight in and she will put me on some progesterone. I’ve read mixed things about progesterone but we will see.

Any sign of your ovulation yet? My first cycle after my CP was off and I don’t think I ovulated. After I’d had my proper period then my cycles went back to normal. I’m going to wait until my next period comes this time to track my cycle. I don’t think they count your actual miscarriage as a period/start of a fresh cycle, but I could be wrong!

 

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bettyfs :  I’m so sorry that your fears were confirmed. It’s crazy how expensive the testing is! I was on progesterone with my last loss and I didn’t mind it. I had the v- suppositories so other than having to wear a liner every day, there were no side effects. Whether it actually does anything to help sustain a healthy pregnancy is still up for debate  I guess. I did finally ovulate on CD43 as FF predicted and I should be getting AF any day now. Glad that the first one is pretty much done with and we can move on. That’s not a bad idea to wait for tracking for yourself. Do you  have the wait a full cycle before TTC again? Sending hugs your way.

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MrsMellyBean :  yeah not sure how much help progesterone will be! Will have to wait and see. I feel rather clinical about it all now which I’m not sure is a good thing or not. Just got fed up of being disappointed! 

How many losses have you had now? How far are you getting with them? Have you had testing yet? Sorry for all the questions, I can’t read back on my phone very easily. 

Ive been told I can start straight away but I’ll wait until my period I think to start trying again. Might start temping again in a few days just for experience.

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bettyfs :  I get that. It sucks when loss and experience takes some of the joy away from the amazingness that’s actually going on. I’ve had 2 losses so far, the first one was a blighted ovum and I MC’d naturally at about 6 weeks, and the most recent one was an MMC at 8 weeks and I had a D&C. I haven’t had any testing yet because they usually don’t do it until you’ve had 3 losses so hopefully we never do need the testing but we will see.

That’s good that you have the option of starting again right away but of course if you’re not ready, waiting until your period comes is a great idea. Hope the temping helps! 

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How are things ladies? Any big updates from anyone?

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MrsMellyBean :  Thank you for starting this back up! How are you doing?

AFM- I’m finally on approach for my FET. I’m actually waiting now for a saline sonogram. I’m still on for November 7th.

I know you ladies will understand this… as the date approaches I’m both excited but terrified. Even if it works (which is a big if) I am terrified of miscarriage, but especially during Thanksgiving or Christmas. If it works I’d be at 9.5 weeks at Christmas, which was right around the time I miscarried earlier this year. I know I need to take it one day at a time, but in the quieter moments I find myself crying spontaneously. 

How is everyone else doing? Any big updates?

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rusticgirl :  That’s so exciting! But I totally understand the fear as well. It sucks so badly that even if we suceed in getting pregnant (which is what we all want so badly), it’s hard for us to enjoy it. That’s fantastic that your FET is coming up so quickly, although I’m sure some days it felt like forever away! Best of luck with the saline sono as well! I’m doing really well, thanks for asking :).

My update is that I’m coming to the end of my TTA cycle #2! I O’d on CD21 which is the earliest I’ve ever had O, and it also means that for the first time since TTC, I’ll have a ‘normal length’ cycle! Once AF starts, I’ll be taking clomid CD3-7 (also another first) and BD EOD starting CD10 to 1DPO. So I’m really excited. Hopefully I’ll O between Nov 11-15th

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Hey girls,

I don’t know where else to post, but I’m working myself up into a tizzy and just need to vent. A little back story, we started trying in July but since then weve gotten pregnant every cycle and had CPs every cycle. Currently in the TWW and feeling all of the early symptoms I felt the last 3 times and I’m honestly so anxious that I feel like I’m going to keep implantation from happening. I had a previous DVT so had the clotting panel and all came back negative, got bloodwork done the last 2 CPS  (I didn’t know what one was the first time it happened) and my progesterone levels have been really good so I’m in the no fricken clue camp until I get a saline sonogram and more esoteric testing. I’m so angry at my body right now and have probably gained 10 lbs with all the fluctuations in hormones. I think if this cycle doesn’t get us a sticky baby I’m going to take off ttc until after xmas cause I just don’t know if I can deal with another loss then and it will give my lady parts time to heal.  But guys, besides acupuncture, do you have any anxiety tricks? My hours are too difficult to schedule acupuncture, any meditation downloads or breathing techniques you guys use to get your head straight? 

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mrsfitz25 :  Oh gosh, i can’t imagine the rollercoaster of a BFP than a loss. There are RPL (recurrent pregnancy loss) panels that your Doctor can test you for. I dont know the tests by name. I’m gonna tag @Turtle83 because she was suggesting some to me recently. Maybe she can chime in.

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MrsMellyBean :  WOOT for almost getting back to TTC!! I’m excited for you!

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rusticgirl :  HUGE FX for your FET  😀 

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Helper bee
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Hi ladies

Hope you’re all as well as can be. We’ve had one cycle trying since our miscarriage which didn’t work. I was all for being chilled, knowing we can at least get pregnant but I’ve reached the point now where I just.want.a.baby and will do anything it takes to speed things up. 

When I had my original fertility testing done back in February my RE wanted to put me on clomid because my 7dpo progesterone was always slightly low so he didn’t think I was ovulating consistently. At that point we’d only been ttc for about 6 months so I was all for improving everything naturally. Well since the miscarriage I felt ready to accept a bit of help, so had an appointment a couple of weeks ago with the view to starting clomid. Turns out now he knows I got pregnant he won’t give me it straight away 😞 I know he’s just being responsible but he wants us to wait until January or February before he’ll be happy for me to start clomid. So we have a few more months to wait. I’m actually quite happy to do this. I drove myself bad weighing up all the different options, so at least the decision has been made for me now. 

On the plus side I started with a new acupuncturist as the one I had before I got pregnant has moved away, and for the first time since I started tracking ovulation about 18 months ago I ovulated on cd14! Earliest previously was cd18, going up to cd31. Hoping this continues.

 

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MrsMellyBean :  Yay for early o! Good luck with your first clomid cycle. 

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mrsfitz25 :  Oh my goodness, I can’t imagine how you’re feeling after suffering through all those losses. I’m so sorry. I always found that yoga really relaxed me, especially the slower paced classes (yin I think but don’t quote me on that). I sincerely hope your doctors can get to the bottom of this, because this is absolutely heart breaking. Hugs!

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FreckledFox :  Thanks love! Your next RE appointment is coming up right? Hopefully they’ll be able to come up with a plan for you finally. I’m rooting so hard for you.

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Soton85 :  Ugh I’m sorry that you mentally prepared yourself to take clomid, and then the option was tabled for a bit. At least you know it’s an option not too far down the road if need be. FX that you won’t need it though, CD14 for O is fantastic! Get it girl.

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Soton85 :  Aww why are you not allowed to take clomid if you’ve been pregnant before? Especially since it was a loss? Just because we dont NEED something doesnt mean we shouldnt be allowed to have it if we want (or if it wont do harm). Ugh, frustrating!

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MrsMellyBean :  Thanks! Next appt is nov 4th, its a follow up to discuss all results. I really am getting anxious od my DHs SA. He needs to call soon… this is ridiculous! its almost been 2 weeks

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