(Closed) TTC After Miscarriage or Loss – Part 14

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Post # 136
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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almondsyrup :  I will…I’m not quite ready yet. Maybe when/if I skip my period. 🙂

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bosley2016 :  Thanks hon XOX I guess when shit has gone wrong before it’s hard to think it could go right again. Trying to sit in the joy and not the fear XO

Post # 137
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Do you guys mind if I don’t fully roll call? It kind of pains me to fully accept it. Chemical at 6 weeks last month. Does anyone else feel like a failure to their so? I’m having trouble with it. For the first time in his life he’s completely ready for a baby, and is excited for dd1 to get a sibling. But now I’m worried I’ll be the reason it won’t happen? I know it was probably caused by breastfeeding, but still. I’m currently dpo1, and kinda excited because everything played well for us to get pregnant, but like mentioned above, getting pregnant is the easy part.

Post # 138
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I Hope it’s ok to be joining so late

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): Rest Cycle

MC History: I found out I was pregnant a few days before Christmas Day last year and then miscarried on New Year’s Day. I was already referred to a fertility because the doctor thought I had PCOS but none of my test results were making sense with my symptoms. Had a Hycosy yesterday (excuse my language, but it was fucking awful. I did not expect to shout or cry during the procedure) 

Issues (if any): I do have polycystic ovaries, but not the full blown syndrome. My husband is undergoing his semen analysis in a few weeks, the clinic is fully booked for SA’s at the moment.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): The main thing the doctor wants me to focus on is losing weight and has put me on metformin as she believes this will help with that. Going back in 3 months time for a follow up. She has said we should continue trying in the meantime. I’m nervous as I have abandoned all things baby since the miscarriage. So I have to start charting, taking prenatals and all that again. Hence the rest cycle, I want to get back into the swing of TTC things. Honestly, I don’t want to be obsessive about it like last time and don’t know if I will be temping yet.

Link to chart: N/A

What are your biggest challenges right now? Keeping my spirits up. As happy as I am that I’m ready to try again, just thinking about TTC makes me sad at the same time thinking about what could have been.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: Remembering what will be will be and cuddles with my husband. He’s been amazing, and always a shoulder to cry/ponder on.

Just for fun: Any New Year resolutions? Considering it’s March, I think it’s a bit late for this 😂😂

 

Post # 139
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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MrsPuddingface :  I think if you’re testing daily (especially with cheapies) you’re likely to have a hard time seeing progression.  I’d recommend waiting 48 hrs between tests if you can.

 

Thanks for the positive thoughts.  I had my D&C 6 days ago, and since then have had some light spotting, but minimal cramping and I’m feeling physically well (well enough to play indoor soccer last night).  Emotionally DH and I are also coping quite well.  We’ve made a tentitive plan to go NTNP for the summer with the hopes of being pregnant again by late August or early September.  As much as a part of me wants to try right away, I don’t think I’m ready for 6 months of consecutive 1st trimester (since we were at 12 weeks when we experienced our loss).

Post # 141
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

Is it okay if I resurrect this thread? Or maybe it’s time to start a new one? I’m just not sure I’m ready for the regular POAS boards yet…

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): MC cycle

MC History: MMC at 11w2d on Monday (4/3). Fetus stopped growing at about 8 weeks or so. D&C on Tuesday (4/4), currently recovering

Issues (if any): None that I’m aware of. Had a somewhat short LP previous to getting BFP that I managed with Vitex.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): I’m going to re-focus on being healthy (my diet and exercise routine really took a hit during the first trimester), lose the couple of pounds I put on, keep taking my vitamins, etc., and try to stay positive.

Link to chart: https://fertilityfriend.com/home/65067b though I’m not sure it’s very informative right now. How does FF account for MC? Does it just count it as the start of a new cycle?

What are your biggest challenges right now? Getting over the what-ifs. And the self-blame. I really feel like my body let me –and especially DH–down. The feeling of failure is stinging.

Also, we were almost out of the 1st trimester and getting ready to announce (though we’d told our immediate families and closest friends already), so we definitely feel like we’ve gone backwards. I’m anxious to try again but extremely nervous about this happening again–and also kind of dreading 3 months of feeling like crap again. Though I’d certainly take it for a healthy take-home baby.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: Not sure I have one. I got to see my all-time favorite band (Radiohead) last night and that was amazing. So that helped me a bit. That, and whiskey.

Post # 142
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): TTC cycle

MC History: Miscarriage on 3/5. I was about 6 weeks along and hadn’t had the pregnancy confirmation appointment yet. 

Issues (if any): It took about 18 months to conceive our first child, and despite testing about a year in, no discernable cause for this was found. I have long somewhat irregular cycles and ovulate later (like CD 24-25) , so that may have something to do with it.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): No real plan other than charting and taking OPKs so we can take full advantage of my fertile period.

Link to chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/69c2ce#share

What are your biggest challenges right now? Feeling hopeless about this. It took so long to conceive our first child, so we have been TTC since she was 9 months old because we figured a second child would take a while as well. We were so excited when I got pregnant after four cycles when our daughter was 13 months old. Two under two! I’m heartbroken that it didn’t work out. We were given the go-ahead to try immediately after the miscarriage, so I was hoping we would get lucky and I would conceive before my next cycle. My period started today, so that’s out. Hoping for the best this cycle.

Post # 143
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I started my period yesterday (first one since my D&C for mmc on March 7th).  I haven’t gotten the bloods done yet to confirm that HCG is zeroed, and plan on doing that this week just to be sure it’s AF and not still products of conception.

That said, if it’s all good, which I expect it will be, we’re shifting to NTNP for the next 6 months or so (and then actual TTC after that if need be).  I’ve got mixed feelings about the possibility of being pregnant soon again, as I want another child for sure, but also have myself on a really good personal growth and wellness track that I feel might get derailed by pregnancy.  Why can’t it just all be easy!?!

Post # 144
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I haven’t checked this board since I roll called, but I’m still feeling very nervous/anxious about TTC. Hubby is really keen to go for it, but baby fever left me when i had the MC and hasn’t come back. Anyone else feel like this?

Post # 145
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Roll Call

STATUS : Waiting on AF after an Ectopic, almost 12 months of active TTC, and 2.5 years prior of NTNP

MC History : BFP 3/24/17 ended in EP 4/4/17. I was 6 weeks along and hadn’t had the pregnancy confirmation appointment yet. Went into the ER for severe pain in the lower left side and heavy period like bleeding, was confirmed with ultrasound. Administered Methotrexate injection and within a few days my hCG had already dropped down to 1.

Issues (if any) : None known. All of my inital blood work came back normal as did DH’s SA. I was literally waiting for AF to start last month so I could schedule and HSG when I got my BFP…only for it to end in an Ectopic.

Action Plan for next TTC Cycle (ie Baby Asprin, progesterone, etc): Honestly, I have no idea. I’ve been told the Methotrexate injection depletes your folic, and that I will need 3 months / 2 cycles to build it back up so I’m back to taking my prenatles and will add some extra folate in. I’m not quite sure yet if my OB will want me to have an HSG to follow up and check it all. Prior to the BPF I was going to schedule the HSG, and there had been talks of Clomid. I think it was are not pregnant after our first cycle trying again I’m going to talk to her seriously about Clomid.

What are you biggest challenges right now? Honestly? Getting through the day. Prior to the EP I was already struggling with not being pregnant or having kids. DH and I have been together 17 years, married 5 (we’re HS sweethearts) and literally ALL of our friends are either done having kids or have recently had babies. We waited until our careers were established, we’d been in our house for many years, and everything seemed “right”. I have a lot of resentment right now about the fact we waited this long, because I was ready a good 2 years before DH was.

I’m hearbroken and have such a mixed bag of emotions. I’m dissapointed we have to wait two cycles, but also nervous about trying again and having another EP or MC. The most frustriating part of an EP is the waiting….because of the Methotrexate injection. While my OB basically said to get through my next cycle and we’d address it from there, everything I read (and from others who experienced EP) all said they had to wait 3 months / 2 cycles.

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Post # 146
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

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dachshundpup15 :  ugh I wish I felt like that! I figured it would take us a long time to get pregnant again, so was only going to let myself start getting worried it once we hit the six month mark with no results. Well, I got pregnant four months in and when it ended it a miscarriage it really heightened my baby fever and desire to try to make this happen ASAP.

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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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alaska_99705 :  good luck!

 

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