Post # 1
I’m at the end of my 2nd cycle of TTC now, 12 DPO with a BFN to and AF expected on Friday. I’m now in the stage of the cycle where I obsessively try to figure out what I did wrong.
I’ve reviewed my chart – my O date was definitely accurate. BD timing was good (not perfect b/c DH has a low sex drive, we’re only doing EOD).
I KNOW it’s only the 2nd cycle and it takes the average couple months. I KNOW that it might just not have been the right sperm/egg combo this cycle but I can’t help but worry that I could have done something wrong.
That brings me to my question. I’ve struggeled with cutting back on caffeine ever since I started thinking about TTC. I used to make multiple trips to Starbucks every day. I’ve done pretty well. At the begininning of this cycle I was down to one cup of coffee a day and one cup of green tea in the afternoon. I wasn’t always perfect though, and sometimes I’d have an extra soda or coffee in the afternoon.
I was reading this article that says more than 300 mg of caffeine can affect your chances of getting pregnant: http://www.babyzone.com/getting-pregnant/how-to-get-pregnant/caffeine-and-fertility_67115
I’ve cut back even further during the second half of this cycle to just one cup a day, but I can’t help but wonder if this is affecting my chances. Has anyone had trouble getting pregnant while using caffeine, then succeeded after quitting or cutting back? I would be willing to quit drinking coffee completely if I had reason to belive it would help.
Post # 3
I stopped drinking coffee all together and only have one Coke Zero a day to avoid getting a headache. This is our 4th cycle trying and still no BFP 🙁 I am not sure if this is helping or hurting… but we still aren’t pregnant! UGH Good luck to you
Post # 4
I haven’t had caffeine (other than small amounts of dark chocolate here and there) for two years, TTC for a year and no success (of course I have other issues going on, rather than caffeine…). I was pregnant once a long time ago, and when it happened I was NOT TTC so there was lots of alcohol, caffeine, and everything else bad for TTC involved. Try not to stress about it. If you feel you want to limit your caffeine, do it for you and not TTC. Of course once you get your BFP, def cut the caffeine! Good luck!
Post # 5
In the for-what-it’s-worth category, my OB was fine with me having a cup of coffee a day (and I definitely needed it when those blood pressure headaches started in the 2nd trimester!). If anything, a cup of coffee or a soda in the afternoon will ensure you’re actually awake enough to BD, so I’d think it would help your chances 🙂
Try not to over-think it… I know, easier said than done, but relax, have fun, and get naked with your man. A lot!
Post # 6
I didn’t have this issue because I’ve been off caffeine for a year anyway for other reasons. However, when I was in Europe over the summer I read an article about a study which found that more than 3 caffeinated beverages a day can lower your fertility. Or maybe it was 3 or more. Anyway, I don’t know how much 300 mg is but this was what the study I read stated. Regardless, you WILL have to cut down to one a day when you get pregnant anyway (and some doctors said none at all is ok, but I think they are very conservative).
That said, I don’t think you should blame yourself for not getting pregnant, and I think it is unlikely you caused it. Remember that even under perfect circumstances, you only have like a 20% chance each month! Good luck!
Post # 7
wow this post could have been written by me! We have the same stats and worries:
TTC cycle #2
AF due for me on Sunday
I didn’t test yet, but I know I’m not preggers because I have no symptoms… like, at all
my BD timing was the same as yours (O-1 & O-3)
and yes, I am somehow addicted to my morning cup of joe. I am considering going half-caf. I think for me, the morning cup of coffee addiction is more habitual than anything. But I have the same worry as you. drinking caffeine is my only vice.
Post # 8
FWIW, I don’t think you did anything “wrong!”
Post # 9
@kelly105: I know what you mean, this sucks! They say sometimes women don’t have any symtoms before they miss their period though, so you’re not out yet.
Thanks everyone for your feedback. As many of you already know, it’s so hard not knowing what is goin on and waiting for 2 weeks every cycle, thinking you could be, then having to wait all over again when you’re not 🙁
Post # 10
i’m sorry that you’re feeling bad, but i agree with travellingfool; we all only have a 20% chance of becoming pregnant every month, and that’s under the most ideal of circumstances. don’t beat yourself up; you definitely didn’t do anything wrong!
Post # 11
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BD every other day or every third day until you get a BFP or AF. I see too many charts where people BD only 1-3 times before their projected O date and then wonder why they didn’t conceive. Need to make sure there are little swimmers fresh and ready at all times. Stop trying to only BD right before your O date; I promise it will be more fun and more efficient. I wouldn’t start worrying about not getting BFP until after cycle 6-8 after BDing as described above.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
P.S. Low sex drive may be a sign of low potency and if you still don’t have a BFP after 6 cycles, I would have his testosterone checked first.
Post # 13
Try to focus on what you can do going forward. If you are drinking 1 cup a day now, then just stick with that. If it’s one cup from starbucks, just check the caffeine content because they are higher than most places and a lot higher than 1 cup at home. I never gave my cup of tea/coffee each morning and have had no problems.
Post # 14
@kelly105: I do think it’s more of a habit than anything else. I was sooo addicted to my coffee in the morning that everyone at work knew they’d better not speak to me until I’ve had that first cup. That’s sad. But, for medical reasons I had to cut caffeine. So, I switched to decaf. I found it to not be so bad, especially in the fall time when I can use pumpkin creamer! Yumm. Even after switching to the decaf I found that if I didn’t have that cup in the morning, I got a little snippy. But there’s no caffeine. So yes, it was habitual.
Post # 15
I don’t think you did anything wrong, I drank all the caffeine I wanted. And alcohol for that matter (no more than 1 drink per sitting in the TWW though). You can’t drive yourself crazy with every detail you can think of because there will always be something you could have done better, like more sleep, more exercise, less exercise etc… From all I know is stress is probably way worse than a bit of caffeine.
Post # 16
OK, listen…. I love a good research study with the best of ’em….. but this was a psych study that looked at averages……. it wasn’t a scientific study that tells you the EFFECT of caffeine on fertility. Until I see the control groups and what else is present in each of those groups that might impact fertility I can’t hang my hat on caffeine being a sole determiner.
I point you to THIS, which references your study: http://askville.amazon.com/coffee-caffeine-female-fertility/AnswerViewer.do?requestId=7530536 which clearly references 2 studies that provide conflicting information. And, to that I say….. welcome to the world of parenting where “experts” will give you conflicting information for the next 20 years.
Here’s the deal……. and this is something that if you are going to have a baby you need to write in big dark fat letters with a sharpie marker and stick it on your forhead. RELAX…..DO THE BEST YOU CAN DO AND IN THE END GO WITH YOUR GUT.
Why didn’t I get pregnant this month… is it from the caffeine? Is only ONE of the gazillion questions you are going to want answers to in the coming year. Take tylenol or no cold medicine when your sick and pregnant….. soft cheese? Deli-meats? the occasional glass of wine? What about the affects of stress? sleeping on the left side is best…. can I wear tights or is it too constricting?
You can drive your self insane……… and that’s before you’re even had your bundle of joy!!!!!!!
Here’s my advice for the next 25 years of your life. Relax. No INDIVIDUAL thing you do actually matters all that much, as long as you go with your gut and what works for your family.
And stress and anxiety are probably the MOST detrimental things to getting pregnant (or putting a newborn to sleep). So, your focus shouldn’t be on what you did wrong…. it should be on what you did right and what you will do again.
Besides, if you lay off to many cup ‘o joes and become a stark raving b*tch…. you won’t have a baby then either… cuz your hubby won’t be able to be around you!!!!!! 🙂