TTC and depressed

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
7579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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goldenbrown :  How long prior to starting to actively TTC were you tracking your cycles? 

Post # 3
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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goldenbrown :  I am sorry you are feeling so down!! TTC can take you through a whirl wind of emotions.  We needed fertility treatment to get pregnant bc my husband is a cancer survivor. It took much longer then we expected so I can understand how depressing it is when it doesnt happen as soon as you think.  It can take a couple with no issues  one year to get pregnant and I think I read somewhere it can take the average couple 6 months. So you guys havent been trying for that long even though I know it feels long. My advice would be to just enjoy your life, keep bding and more then likely it will happen soon!! If you can try not to make each month about getting pregnant. Try to make it about things you can for husband enjoy. I know it is easier said then done. Trust me u can do everything right, time things perfectly and it can still take a while.  It doesn’t mean anything is wrong!! I know it is so hard to hear that ppl got pregnant so quickly and who didnt mean too. But more then likely you guys will be pregnant soon enough!! I wish you the best of luck!! Hopefully you and your dh can do something you enjoy to get your mind off of the fact that you just got your period! Fx the next month will be your month!!

Post # 4
2329 posts
Buzzing bee

Get the book It Starts with the Egg. You can be doing everything right and timing BD perfectly – but if your eggs aren’t super healthy (and/or his sperm isn’t) then you will not get (and stay) pregnant.

Have you had his semen analysed yet?

For women 35 and older, you can get a referral to an RE after 6 months of trying, so you should go ahead and make an appointment with your PCP right now for next month, in case you are unsuccessful next month. You’ll want that referral ASAP.

Post # 8
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

And now I found out that another friend couple is pregnant after a week of not even trying. She went off the pill and boom pregnant within a week.


Not sure if you were using hyperbole, but the above is not possible. Unless she got pregnant while on the pill and found out when she went off of it. Just making sure you have realistic ideas about what goes into conceiving.

Post # 10
5992 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Your body needs time after coming off BC to regulate itself, and no 2 people are the same. Maybe your friend was fertile right after stopping BC but I have friends who had a period of up to 6 months where their cycles were wonky and it took that long for them to get back to ovulating regularly. Don’t beat yourself up so much!!! TTC is not a race, it’s a destination and everyones timing is different. I know it’s easier said than done. If after a year you’re still having problems then a fertility clinic can do WONDERS. average age of first time mom’s at ours was 39! Baby dust to you 🌸

Post # 12
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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goldenbrown :  I’m sorry Bee! If it’s any reassurance, my friend who is 34 got pregnant not too long after TTC while my other friend who was 27 when she started TTC took 9 cycles before getting her BFP. It has not been that long since you started trying and most OBGYNs say there no sign of an issue unless it takes a couple more than a year of actively trying. You’ll get pregnant soon!

Post # 13
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Hang in there! If it gives you some reassurance and sense of control, schedule an exam before cycle 7 starts and ask if you can have your cd3 / 21 hormones measured, plus thyroid.  Easy to do and can help narrow down any areas of concern 🙂 if you are 35 and have been trying for 6 tracked cycles then your dr should be on board.

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