(Closed) TTC and DH working out of town

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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2889 posts
Sugar bee

We won’t start TTC until we are both living and working in the same place. The way we see it is we can put career first for now, save up and hopefully that will help us to make family friendly decisions in the future. Would you both be open to him taking these out of town opprutunities to bank some extra money and then start TTCing in half a year when he is back all the time and hopefully will feel better turning down the extra money if you are expecting. I think this is just one of those personal priorities type questions you need to figure out as a family. 

Post # 5
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper

@Mrs.RDV:  My husband is a firefighter, so he is basically gone through the months of June and November. I feel your pain! He comes home at random times and stays for random lengths of time, but rarely more than three days at a time. Then, during the winter, he is gone at least three days per week. It makes it very difficult to time our BD’ing! LOL. We just BD every day we can, I track everything so I can learn my cycles, and hope for the best. If we don’t get pregnant this cycle, we will start talking about intrauterine insemination at an OB’s office. There are a lot of ladies on here who have had to do that for the same reason =) Something to think about! Is visiting him an option for you?

Post # 6
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1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My DH works out of town a lot too…luckily we have caught at least one day most months (since the sperm live five days you do have a bit of a window) but last month he was going to be away the whole time I was ovulating so I flew to him (talk about a booty call!). We are lucky that my work schedule allowed it though. Can you travel to him?

Post # 8
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper

@Mrs.RDV:  My husband hates talking baby making when he’s on the road, too. I’m like, what’s the deal, texting or talking on the phone is the same as talking in person, lol. So I usually just send him a really long text with all my thoughts, kinda force feed it lol. Probably not the best way to do it, but hey, whatever works to let him know I’m ovulating soon!!!!! hah

Post # 10
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Mrs.RDV:  My husband and I live in two separate towns. He works about 2.5 hours away. We see each other when I go down there for weekends and when he is off. He works shift work, so he is off every couple of days. The longest we go is about a week. We have to just look at the calendar and make it work. We were pregnant, but miscarried at 20 wks. The month we got pregnant, we only had one opportunity to BD and that was the one that took. Once we were given the clearance to try again, we actually waited one more month because we weren’t going to be together at the right time and we felt we weren’t ready ’emotionally’. This month (we are still waiting to find out if we are pregnant) I thought we were going to miss our right timing because I started 4 days early. Luckily, I O’ed a little later. 🙂 We both love our jobs and we talk every night. I have several friends that tell me we actually get more quality time together because when we are together, we do everything together.

Post # 11
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540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are going to start TTC next summer.  I know DF is really excited about coming home from the honeymoon next week so we can start dieting in preparation for baby…not!  He is a pilot so TTC is going to be interesting, to say the least…lol.  😀

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