(Closed) TTC and Doctor's Appointments – what to tell employer?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I never got to the point of doing IUI’s but I had a few RE appts and bloodwork to do and stuff.  If it’s not going to be a significant amount of appts yet, I’d just say you have a doctor’s appointment.  Most employers won’t (and aren’t supposed to) ask for details.

Post # 4
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Maybe just call in sick?  You wouldn’t be able to give advance notice if you caught the stomach flu or food poisoning.  Maybe say you have to go to the doctor for a parasite?  I mean, technically being pregnant is sort of like having a parasite 🙂

Post # 5
3947 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When I had my ectopic, it required lots of blood draws and constant Dr.’s visits for about a month.  I let my employer know in the beginning of it all that I was having a procedure and needed to be monitored, which might require a couple of last minute appointments.  They understood and it didn’t need any further explaining.

Post # 6
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

just say that you are having a medical procedure done that cannot be scheduled and the timing is based on the results of a test that you need to take a couple times a day…. and while the testing will not interfere with work at all, you will need to take time off short notice when it’s time to go.

you can be vague. if your boss asks for specifics, just say it’s personal and you’d rather not say… but that if HR needs to know, you will tell them in confidence.

Post # 7
10573 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

You have a medical appointment.  If it’s going to be longer than a typical appointment – you have a medical procedure scheduled.  No need to elaborate.

Post # 8
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My understanding is that they do not have to know and can not ask why if it’s a medical procedure. They can request a Doctor’s note if you’re outside of your alloted sick/time off.

Post # 9
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think LESS would be better in this situation than MORE if you are concerned about the idea of them “getting into a certain mindset about you as an employee” IF they knew you were TTC

So I wouldn’t get as elaborate with my info as rosworms: has volunteered.  I be more vague… something like KateByDesign: has offered.

In reality, your health situation is supposed to be private.  HR might need to know (and that would be due to Insurances, time off, sick time etc), but probably not your immediate superior.

Hope this helps,


Post # 10
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@This Time Round:  As always you have good advice!

In my work place people are just “sick” or “not coming into the office today” or leave/come in late/don’t show up that day “for a doctor’s appointment”.

HR could request why, but they are bound by HIPAA privacy law in the US.

There’s a good knock knock joke for it too:

  • Knock, knock
  • Who’s there?
  • HIPAA who?
  • I can’t tell you.

More fun said out loud, but you get the idea.  It was told to me by a HR person :).


Post # 11
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

one time tell him you are going to dentist, tell him you have a delivery you are waiting for at home so you need to be there, tell him you have a leak in your house… don’t always say you are going to doctor.


also, try make the appointments at lunchtime if possible, that way you don’t need to be away from work too much – also try go as late as possible or ask them if you can have the very first appointment of the day? i’m sure you have already tried this 🙂

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