Post # 1
It’s been a rough weekend over here. Feeling a sense of pressure to have sex as it was our first month TTC.
We both so badly want a baby and knew this weekend was the time as I was ovulating.
So many distractions made it so hard to make it happen and so much pressure of making it happen. We have a new puppy and he’s always around climbing on us and makes it hard to keep us in the mood. As if we lock him in another room he howls and cries.
I felt the minor cramping Friday evening and we had sex then, we tried again another 2 times Saturday as I had a positive opk but didn’t finish because of all the distractions.
With hubby being distracted we would stop… I’m emotional and want it to happen so badly.. I feel stupid for getting so worked up abut it.
Is it possible that even though we only had sex 1 time with my positive opk that I could still have a posability at getting pregnant this month?
Post # 2
It’s a slim possibility. Don’t put so much pressure on yourselves. Most couples don’t get pregnant in the first month. If you get pregnant in the first 3 months, you’ll still be in the minority. Calm down and just have fun practicing until it happens!
Post # 3
Nickig_4: yes it only takes once! I’m just finished my first month TTC unsuccessfully and it was a huge learning curve for me! The sex wasn’t an issue because we were on honeymoon at the time, but the pressure I put on myself after analysing every symptom testing like a maniac! I was a wreck! it will happen when it’s meant to happen just tell yourself that you may as well have fun! Just rremember it can take healthy couples a year to concieve! I secretly hoped we would get pregnant first cycle but we didn’t and ya know what that’s fine too! I get to enjoy some drinkies in December. And what I’m telling myself now is that touch wood it won’t be long until we have a LO taking all our attention so I’m really going to enjoy this TTC time with my hubby! I think like you the first month we put unecessary pressure on ourselves, it is a huge life changing event, but sometimes these things are just a lot of luck! You can do the deed morning and night at the right times of the month and it might just not happen anyway!
Post # 4
Try not to out so much pressure on yourself…. I am on my 3rd cycle TTC and am finally learning I just need to relax and let things happen! It’s no fun if it’s stressful. My first cycle we completely missed the fertile window since I ovulated too late haha! The 2nd cycle we did everything right and it still didn’t happen. This cycle I’m ovulating late again, but am tracking it. A lot of TTC is luck. It will happen for you eventually so just enjoy the ride! What had helped me is focusing on enjoying spending time with my DH and doing all the things I know we won’t be able to do (as easily) with a baby. Make this time special and enjoy each other, try not to stress out, and it will make the process a lot more manageable!
Post # 5
I’m trying not to stress… I just want it to work so badly that I can’t help but stress it all.. and because of all the distractions it’s beyond frustrating that we aren’t finishing the deed…
I am beyond emotional with it all.
Post # 6
Newbie1982: exactly! I’ve been testing so much and putting so much pressure on myself to set the mood and make it happen and when things don’t, I literally cry by myself in the bathroom. I don’t want it to be like this.. I just so badly want to have a baby with my husband.
I realize these things take time.. but it’s still hard.
Post # 7
Nickig_4: It’s very hard and very emotional. I got pregnant with my son on 1st try two years ago, now I am on month 7 TTC. It sucks. I noticed that stressing makes my ovulation delayed. Last month I was so stressed out about the whole thing that I didn’t O until day 20. This month I’ve relaxed and I surprisingly got a positive OPK today at CD 14. Big hugs, it’s very hard.
Post # 8
Nickig_4: I totally get it and am in the same boat. As far as the puppy– does she sleep with you? If so, get her exhausted and ready for bed. If she’s in your bed, but her on the side (even if she sleeps in the middle). Night time BDing goes much better than trying to BD during play time. My furbaby has a habit of joining otherwise and there’s just some places you don’t want kisses 🙂
Post # 9
MrsMaskatoBe: My ovulation seemed to come exactly when it was supposed to.. Its just the pressure I put on us to BD in the timeframe was the hard part.
I was looking at my “notes”, we BD on the 19,20,22,25 and 27 and my fertile window was 25-30.
I put so much pressure on this and it won’t work out this month and it’s going to be so hard on me…
Post # 10
Pollywog: He a whiney puppy which makes for hard times trying to BD. Ruins the mood very easily.
He sleeps in our room on his own bed. Because of our work schedules its hard to BD before bed as he is on shift work..
So it almost has to be a planned event 🙁
Post # 11
I feel the same ! I am so afraid of getting my period and how I am going to feel again this month I already feel pms bad so I’m betting I a not pregnanT. It’s so hard to not lose hope. :/
Post # 12
Nickig_4: We TTC for 4 years and the stress of BD was killing our sex life. So there were times that DH made his deposit into a SoftCup (the disposible ones for AF) and I’d slip it in. Now there is an OTC cervical cap called the StorkOTC at CVS. I’ve read the condom is very painful, so most people use it like we did the Softcup.
Good Luck and Baby Dust!
Post # 13
firedancer76: I’ve been spotting very little since sunday and its killing me to see it.. Nothing on my underwear, just when i pish “up there” with my TP…
AF is supposed to come on the 12th so I’m assuming this is early spotting.. I was really upset lastnight as I really thought there was a possibility that it was implantation bleeding.. But it hasn’t gone away so I can only assume its AF, coming to break my heart 🙁