(Closed) TTC and finding out about other pregnancies

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 32
1823 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsBaldEagle:  I’m in virtually the same boat as you and know how hard it is.  We’ve been TTC since June (6 or 7 cylces, I lost count) and no luck.  I’ve watched quite a few women I know annouce thier pregancies and it’s even harder watching women the same age as me annouce thier 3rd pregnancy.  And here I am just hoping for my 1st. 

And of course almost every conversation with family and friends results in them saying something.  The worst was a close friend of my husbands saying “I can’t believe you guys aren’t pregnant yet”.  Like, really? C’mon. 

Post # 33
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsBaldEagle:  My husband slipped and said something to his dad about us TTC, too ๐Ÿ™ Luckily I don’t think his dad said anything to my Mother-In-Law, because we haven’t been SWARMED with questions.

My plan for Thanksgiving is to constantly have a drink in hand to fend off any questions, haha. But Christmas will be tough either way. If I am pregnant by then, I’d only be like 5-6 weeks along and probably not ready to tell them just yet. If I’m not pregnant, we’ll be a little frustrated and sad about it and not receptive to questions. Sigh….

Post # 34
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I can also relate. My little sister, who is 6 years younger than I am, just announced a few months ago that she is pregnant, with her 2nd child. We had not started to TTC at that point, but I knew she was trying and they ended up conceiving on their first time, only a few months after she stopped taking BC. I can only hope to be that lucky!

Post # 35
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@MissTatas:  story of my life. We have had a plan as to when we would start ttc for a while. Apparently everyone else had the same plan because a ton of our friends got pregnant around the time  that we had hoped for it to happen for us but we are still TTC. That has definitely put a new kind of pressure on the process ๐Ÿ™

Post # 37
12306 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I hear ya.  And it’s not even just people I know, it seems like every other stranger walking by on the street and on house hunters has a nice baby bump.  We’ve been TTC since last Sept, on our 8th cycle, and since then no less than 7 people I know have gotten pregnant.  3 have given birth already, 2 were ACCIDENTS, and at this rate I’m sure a few more will give birth before I ever get to see a BFP.

Post # 38
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I always feel so down about that, it seems like for everyone else but me all it took was looking at their SO (or random guy, or sperm donor) funny. Especially women that are right around 6 months or their 10-12 week mark, as that’s how far along i’d be right now if either of my pregnancies survived. I hope your journey ends much sooner and much happier than mine! For my husband and I we won’t be able to try again until cycle 21.

Post # 40
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsBaldEagle:  ๐Ÿ™ TTC is so hard. Especially since birth most of our sex education was drilled in our heads of ‘If you have unprotected sex you WILL end up pregnant!’ So then you do, and you end up not. I’m sorry its taking you guys awhile, but deep breathes! Your baby will come, and they will be perfect!

The best thing about everyone being pregnant before you is that you have the benefit of their knowledge and experience! Heck you can probably score some awesome hand me downs!

Good luck! Hang in there!

Post # 41
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yes, I can so relate.  We are starting our 8th cycle of TTC and it is so frustrating.  Everyone is pregnant, many of them not even trying.  I am dreading the holiday questions and praying that no one in my family announces a pregnancy.  Just tonight, someone asked about if we were moving, to which my husband said, “That just got a little more complicated,” and the immediate response was, “Are you pregnant?”  No, I just had a job interview that I think I want, which is in a different geographical area.  I talked to DH afterward, and he said he knew it would get that response as soon as he said it.

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