Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2011 - Malvern Baptist church
My husband and I have wanted to have a baby for a little while now, but we are having problems, and I think it may be me. I have never had regular periods. Ever. Once a month though, I will have symptoms of fixing to start, but I never do. It may happen once every 3-6 months. I have done some reasearch on it, and learned that apparently, you don’t have to bleed to ovulate. Has anyone ever had a similar situation? Any time I talk to a doctor they want to put me on birthcontrol to regulate me, but if I’m ttc, why would I take medicine to prevent that? I would love to hear some advice from some experienced bees on this situation. Is it possible for me to even get pregnant, or will it just take me longer? Are there things I can do to maybe help? Sorry for so many question. Google just doesn’t have the answers to the specific questions I have haha.
Post # 3
Have you spoken to your doctor about your cycles and TTC, if you tell them you are trying to TTC, surely they won’t try to put you on BC to regulate. If they do, it’s time for a new doctor! The ‘period’ or actually the withdrawal bleed you get while on BC is not at all like a real period. I think you may have it backwards there, you do not need to ovulate to bleed, it’s what they call an anovulatory cycle. But if you do ovulate and don’t get pregnant, you will get your period 9-16 days after ovulation. Have you signed up for fertility friend or read taking charge of your fertility? I haven’t read tcoyf, but when you sign up for fertility friend, they email you ‘lessons’ so to speak. The only (I think only) way to know if you are actually ovulating is to chart.. that’s probably a good place to start to try to figure out what your body is doing.
Post # 4
i think you should see a doctor and start charting your BBT to see what’s going on.
if you aren’t bleeding, you aren’t ovulating. since you do bleed every once in a while, you may be ovulating irregularly. if needed, a doctor can prescribe medicine to help regulate your ovulation cycles.
Post # 5
I agree with the PPs. Another thing you might want to research is the supplement “vitex” which is supposed to support womens’ hormonal balance. Some women have had really good experiences with it, and it helped them regulate. I’m not sure if it would fix something as drastic as a 90 + day cycle, but it probably wouldn’t hurt to try for a few months. Although, I feel the need to mention that it’s not really clear whether Vitex is safe in early stages of pregnancy so you might want to stop taking it as soon as you see a BFP.
Post # 6
Do you have weight gain around your middle that’s hard to lose? Do you have facial hair? Have you had things like vitamin D, B12, insulin resistance and hormones checked? Have you had your thyroid checked THOROUGHLY – not just TSH? An irregular cycle immediately makes me think PCOS, but it could be a vitamin D deficiency or B12 deficiency and if your thyroid is off, that can throw off your cycles as well.
I agree with the ladies who recommended charting as I think that will be extremely helpful in seeing if you ARE ovulating. I’d guess that you aren’t, but I’ve also read that it’s rare, but possible to have ovulation with no bfp and no period following it. Charting will help you determine what you are dealing with. Also if you have talked to your dr about ttc and your irregular cycles and all they want to do is put you on BC, find a new dr!! You need to find one that is willing to looking into the testing needed to determine the problem.
Post # 7
@spence1022: I echo all the charting suggestions. Though you can find out through blood tests if you are ovulating, as well as an ultrasound. You can talk to your doctor about maybe getting on Provera or something like it to jump start your cycle. I would also suggest reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Good luck!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Malvern Baptist church
Thanks everyone for all of your suggestions! They really have helped. I’m going to see a doctor and talk to them about what I can do to help.
@dodgercpkl: I never thought about your thyroid throwing all of your levels off like that, but I talked to a friend of mine who has trouble with hers, and she seems to think that could be a lot of what the problem is. I do have the hard to loose weight and unwanted facial hair, so that’s what made me look into that more. As soon as I get a chance I’m going to make an app. to have it checked. Thank you for mentioning it, because I never would have thought about that.
Post # 9
@spence1022: Glad to help. *hugs*
Post # 10
@spence1022: you sound very much like me! temping and OPKs help so much so i would definitely suggest doing those.
we aren’t ‘TTC’ but i am trying to get a grasp on my cycles prior to starting.
i went and got a bunch of stuff checked and it turns out that my body doesn’t produce enough testostrone and progestrone and that is why everything is so screwed up.
i started taking supplements and drops for my adrenals and two days after my first dose i ovulated!
it’s an easy fix and i would suggest going to a holistic doctor to see if it’s something that can be fixed easily 🙂 apparently it’s very common so don’t worry
Post # 11
@spence1022: I agree with @rosworms: , if you aren’t bleeding, you aren’t ovulating. BUT, even if you ARE bleeding, it doesn’t mean you ovulated. It’s possible to have cycles where you do not ovulate, your body recognizes that, and pushes reset. BUT, if you ovulated you will always bleed 8-18 days after ovulation (depending on your body).
I’d recommend starting to temp and chart. Check out http://www.fertilityfriend.com and sign up for a free account, then take their charting course so you get the basics down. You should also see your doctor, and ask for blood tests to check your thyroid, your LH and FSH hormone levels, your progesterone levels, your blood sugar/glucose levels, and anything else they can think of. It could be hormonal, it could be your thyroid, it could be that you are diabetic or pre-diabetic, you could have PCOS….the only thing you can do at this point is ask for your doctor’s help. Charting should show whether you ovulate while you wait for tests and results with your doctor.
Once you start charting, come and join us on the Charters of The Hive thread – you will learn a ton, and you’ll have the support of all the lovely ladies in there while you figure out what your body is doing, and what you can do to put it right.