Post # 1
So I have a bit of a dillema and I want to know if anyone else have had to make this decision.
Just got married in August and my husband and I would like to start TTC. I went to the Doctor to make sure everything was okay and I have no antibodies to measles, mumps and rubella so need the vaccine.
You can’t get pregnant for 3 months with the vaccine as it is not good for the fetus. 3 months would be no problem but my sister is getting married in Mexico, January of 2014. So… we are now looking at waiting until June 2013 to start ttc because I now could not be due for a baby in November/December/January/February to make sure I can make it to her wedding (MOH).
I’m 30 and my husband is 37 so waiting another 8 months seems like a world away and who knows how long it will take us to actually conceive. We want more than 1 child too so that just makes us that much closer to that scary age range for conceiving.
So, I’m considering foregoing the vaccine so that we can work on getting pregnant right away. Has anyone ever had any experience with the MMR vaccine or had to make a decision to not have the vaccine at all?
Post # 3
At 30, 8 months would sound like a lifetime away, especially for multiple kids, but really, you still have lots of time.
TTC is a really hard variable, you have no guarantees how long it will take, hard to schedule it on a timeline. You’ve stuck yourself on a 2014 box, I’m just saying, people seem to figure it out if they come up preggo for events.
My only advice is be careful with vaccines and maybe get a second opinion from an OB/GYN – not a general doc.
Post # 4
Get the vaccine, wait three months, and start trying to conceive. You can be pregnant and be a maid of honor…
Post # 5
^ Agreed. Get the vaccine and wait the 3 months and start then. I flew from London to the US and back in my 3rd trimester. You could be pregnant and go to Mexico.
Post # 6
I should clarify…
I’m okay with being pregnant for her wedding just not 8 months in case somethng happens.. then my parents are stuck in a difficult decision to be at home with their daughter who’s delivering a preemie or going to their other daughters wedding. If I’m huge and 7 months and all is good, I’ll be in Mexico beside her.
Post # 7
I agree with PP, get the vaccine, wait 3 months, and start TTC. You don’t know how long it will take you to get pregnant. Some women get pregnant right away, but many others take months, so trying to plan around not being due in a certain month is really difficult. The women in my family seem to have no trouble popping out babies, but here I am, almost 12 months later (9 of those charting), without a single BFP. You just never know 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t have antibodies for MMR either and need the vaccine. However I decided to wait as I was worried about our time frame too. Figured I would get the vaccine after baby was born. However we are in our 17th cycle of trying, if I would have known it would take this long I would have done the vaccine, however I am so invested in TTC right now that I don’t want to lose 3 more months…
Post # 9
I would skip the vaccine and go for it. I know that isn’t popular advice around here though…
Post # 10
Wait, I’m confused. If you get the vaccine now (October) 3 months gives you January to start TTC. So, at the earliest, you’d be due in October/November, right? Why not try as soon as you can (after the 3 months) but don’t TTC during the month that would make you due at her wedding date. And if you’re close with your sister and she won’t blab to the world that you’re TTC, I’d give her a head’s up. I’d rather have a niece/nephew than a Maid/Matron of Honor…but that’s just me.
Although I know MMR diseases aren’t common anymore, it’d suck to get one WHILE pregnant.
Post # 11
I did some due date mapping out…
My appointment is scheduled end of the month and so I would miss my january ovulation. We agreed that we would ttc as soon as i’m clear of the 3 months (if I do decide to get the vaccine). So we’d have one shot to get pregnant (would be due in november) and then I would wait so that I wasn’t risking having a baby during the wedding month or months immediately surrounding. So then we’d start trying again in june (would be due March so could be 7 months preg in Mexico).
I’m leaning towards foregoing the vaccination but am still looking for advice. I’ve asked my sister to ask her naturopath doctor and i’ve emailed my nurse mother in law. I have a week and a half to decide.
Post # 12
@MrsAMac: could you get the vaccine sooner, like early next week? then you wouldn’t miss your January ovulation, giving you two chances?
Post # 13
I was supposed to get the vaccine yesterday but she wouldn’t because I just ovulated. She wants to wait until I get my period to be sure I’m not pregnant and it would be too soon to tell by a pregnancy test. Which now make me miss my January ovulation (so long as my very regular 28 day cycle stays that way). Thus, now i’m here stressing about all this timing stuff.
Post # 14
@MrsAMac: Oh, that sucks. Maybe you’re pregnant now and all this stressing is for nothing?! 🙂
Post # 15
I’d get the vaccine and wait to TTC until spring to TTC. I think being 1-7 months pregnant would be fine. But I would avoid giving birth beforehand if you can. Will you bring the baby with you to the wedding? That could be a lot of hardwork. Baby would need a passport and you’d have to get it immediately following the birth….and babies younger than two months aren’t vaccinated, so things like pertussis are a huge deal. Malaria could be a risk too. I’m not really sure but I think flying on a plane with such a small baby would be a bit of a risk. I don’t think I’d want to travel with my 1-2 month old baby anywhere, much less a foreign country.
Keep in mind, you’ll still be recuperating too and that will definitely affect everything from your dress to bathing suits to being exhausted from night-time feedings….etc. Not really a recipe for a trip to paradise! And would you be willing to leave your newborn infant behind for the trip? Because I feel like that would be equally difficult. My sister was a Maid/Matron of Honor 2.5 months after my niece was born and she was miserable. She had to wear a strapless dress with a strapless basque with milk pads shoved in it. Her body wasn’t back to itself and she felt horribly frumpy. I was on baby duty and we all got pooped on. And my sister had to take several breaks to breastfeed my niece who refused bottles at the time. It was exhausting and the whole thing was 10 minutes from her house. Oy.
If you can’t tell, I’m strongly in favor of getting the shot and waiting a few months!
Post # 16
Why is a WEDDING getting more priority than you and your baby’s health?
Get the vaccine. Start TTC in 3 months. Problem solved!