TTC and optional-but-recommended work travel (POLL)

posted 2 years ago in TTC
  • poll: If you were TTC and could choose optional-but-recommended work travel...

    Keep committing to all the travel -- you're not even pregnant yet!

    Forego trans-atlantic trips but go for short-haul trips

    Hold off on committing to any optional travel

    Other - explain in a comment

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I am so sorry about your miscarriage- that is awful. I lived overseas in a developing country and traveled all the time during my second pregnancy, so normally I’d say go for it. But given your history I would consult with your doctor for sure on this. 

    If s/he gives the green light, then I would go ahead and commit to your travel. Besides being unable to predict when you will get pregnant, you also will not know how you will feel during pregnancy, and chances are you’d be fine traveling. Even with terrible nausea the first trimester, I found work and keeping distracted helped more than anything, even when I was exhausted. Flying didn’t get uncomfortable for me until the third trimester, when I had to do a 24 hour Pacific flight 😑. If you travel frequently and have miles built up, don’t hesitate to upgrade or utilize lounges to make the trip more comfortable. And once you are in your new country take it easy when necessary, but enjoy yourself at the same time. Travel may be just the right thing to take your mind off of the anticipation and daily stressors of a first baby.

    Ultimately if you had to cancel a flight due to being too far along, it would suck financially but of course your colleagues would understand. Good luck! 

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I’m also in higher ed, but fortunately, we get our conferences paid for…flight/hotel/registration upfront, then we get reimbursed for meals. If you’re having to shell out, I totally get the hesitation. 

    I voted to stick to shorter-haul trips, and I’d recommend going for the 6 month one, but not any 8+ month out commitments, especially if you’re on the hook for some of the cost. I’m frontloading my work travel for 2020 so that if we decide to TTC in the later half of the year, I don’t have to worry about conferences/getting my hours in. I hope to be able to travel a fair amount while pregnant, but I’d rather it be for fun than for work, and I wouldn’t want to leave the school on the hook for conference fees if I were too sick to go. 

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

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    stellate23 :  I also wish you the best of luck in your endeavors! Unfortunately, higher ed isn’t always super pregnancy/baby friendly, as you know. Is it possible for you to focus on some smaller/specialty conferences that are closer? That’s how I’m pitching my 2020 conference schedule, since I don’t want to say “my husband and I may be trying to make a kid, we’ll see” to my bosses…that I want to front-load so I can focus on the regional conferences and on-campus work for the 2020-2021 school year. I got sort of creative in researching the options, and I’m actually excited for some of the smaller/niche conferences I’m looking at. 

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i would commit to the 6-months-out travel but not the 11-months-out. it’s highly probable you’ll either have a newborn or be VERY pregnant in 11 months and not be able to/advised not to take long flights, if any. 6 months is no problem though, even if you got pregnant now you’d be good for those trips.

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