- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I found this when I googled how to relax in the TWW. yes, I admit i seriously looked it up… that is how relaxed I am about the whole process 🙂 thought I would share…
When a woman is trying to get pregnant, or trying to conceive as it is called on fertility websites, the time period from ovulation until her period is due can be excruciatingly long. On the trying to conceive message boards, or the TTC message boards, that period is known as the two week wait. If that two weeks is long out in the real world, it is made even longer on TTC message boards, as women gather together online to compare moment by moment symptoms that might point to a possible pregnancy.
Of course, your spot on any TTC message board is not cemented unless you have a personalized signature, festooned with blinking doodads that let everyone know where you are in your cycle, how long you’ve been trying to conceive, or TTC, the name of your Darling Husband, or dear hubby, and any other flashing ticker that you can find. It gets rather ridiculous, but a women who wants to be pregnant in a really bad way is anything but sane.
Instead of having sex a time or three during the time of expected ovulation, then just going about your business for the next two weeks, women whip themselves up into a frenzy, day by day, and moment by moment, sharing with their online TTCer’s every twinge, hiccup, and burp that might mean they are pregnant. Left to their own devices, most women will wait a reasonable amount of time to take a pregnancy test, but when confronted with other women who begin buying cheap pregnancy tests in huge batches and begin testing two days after they have ovulated, when the egg and sperm may not even have met yet, let alone merged, implanted, and begun to produce pregnancy hormones, it is hard to show such restraint.
“I had some white mucus today, could that mean I am pregnant?” “I got up the morning and my left boob tingled for about 5 seconds, then it itched for another 5 seconds. Could that mean that I am pg??” These are the questions that pop up by the dozens on TTC boards, and two week wait message boards. In many situations in life, support groups, or other people who are going through something similar to what you are going through, can be of great help and comfort. Frankly, I do not think this is the case with TTC message boards. I think that these boards take something that is supposed to be fairly natural, and even fun, and turns in into a spectator sport, complete with jealousy, anger, and just plain obsession.
So how do you survive the two week wait with grace and a bit of sanity? You relax, do all of the right things at ovulation time, such as having sex, then you continue forward with your life as usual for the next two weeks. Stay far, far away from TTC websites, and Google, and let your body do whatever it is going to do. Many women have almost identical symptoms when they have PMS as when they are pregnant. For instance, a lot of women have sore boobs right before their period, and women also get sore boobs when they are pregnant. Some women get nauseated before their period, and many women also feel nausea in early pregnancy. Food cravings can mark both PMS and pregnancy, so what is the point in examining every bodily sensation under a microscope for two dang weeks? To my mind, there is no point.
If you have had sex during the time of ovulation, and you are trying to get pregnant, there is one sure thing that you can bank on. At the end of the two week wait, you will either be pregnant, or you won’t. If you do end up pregnant, yippee! If you don’t, as disappointed as you may be, you are apt to be a lot less disappointed if you have realistic expectations, rather than having completely convinced yourself that you are pregnant because 20 some odd women on the internet got you to believe that the cramps that you had three days ago, combined with that glob of mucus that you passed two days ago, combined with the phase of the moon, and your horoscope from last month could only mean that you are surely pregnant.
Every women is different, and each pregnancy happens in its own time. We have all become so conditioned to instant gratification, that if we do not get pregnant in the first month or two, not only are we certain that there is something wrong with us, but our pretty little time line gets messed up. We hate that. We may be able to plan many things in life, but when a pregnancy will occur isn’t one of them, try as we might. Sure, there are women who do manage to do that, but if you are not one of them, do not despair. Each month is a new beginning, and when you are meant to get pregnant, you will. Relax and try to enjoy the process. It can be fun if you let it be!