Post # 1
Hi Bees, I would dearly appreciate your practical advice.
My husband and I recently confirmed that we will be moving 2500 miles away from this country in July 2014 (13 months from now). Another continent, another climate, totally new life. We have been thinking about when to TTC and our only concern is this:
We have very large close knit families and I always looked forward to having their support during the pregnancy and early moths after childbirth. Our move is expected to last anywhere between 4 and 8 years. The question now is, should we TTC now so that we can have the family support here, and I can get a hang of being a mom during the first few months with help from our families? Or should we move next year, settle in, and then TTC. I am 27 and he is 26. Waiting til we move and settle in may mean having our first child close to or after 30. I know 30 is a pretty average age to begin trying, but I feel that the pregnancy might be smoother now rather than at 30 (age and all these other factors that tend to play a part). Also, we both want a large family (at least 4 children) and for this reason as well would prefer to begin sooner rather than later.
What are your thoughts? I have included a poll but please feel free to share your advice in detail. Thanks!
Post # 3
@glitter86: I would totally have a child before moving. I won’t be moving 2500 miles (At least I hope not) but I am hoping we’ll be in a good position to TTC before moving. We don’t have so much family support here as I am familiar with the community, my friends and neighbors, and feel comfortable with the medical options available for pre and post care.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
@glitter86: If there are no other reasons to wait, I would say start now especially since you mentioned your desire to have a large family. I think having your family support here is great. Go for it!
Post # 5
Thanks @love108 and @candy11. That’s exactly how I feel.
A friend was suggesting that we may have to resettle in a husband/wife relationship after we move and including a baby in that mix would be complicated. I don’t see it that way – I see that once we are a family we adjust as a complete unit, always reaffirming my rship with my husband. But I just want to make sure i’m thinking about this objectively and it’s not the baby fever talking!
Post # 6
I’d TTC now. I’d want the support of my family and would rather have my first child somewhere I’m familiar with. Besides, the move just really doesn’t seem like a good reason to put the rest of your life on hold, IMO.
Post # 7
Moving is very stressful, I’d say get the stress out of the way first, and once you are settled and comfortable then ttc!