TTC bridesmaid

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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miss_s :  can we see a pic of the dress? I was in the same situation and I’m still trying to get pregnant.  Maybe buy the dress in two sizes and see what their return policy is? Depending on how it’s made, there could be a bit of give to let it out.

Post # 3
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Worker bee

Do you know what store it is? I would check their return policy. Bloomingdale’s for instance has a year long policy, and I think Nordstrom might as well? If that’s the case I would consider orderjor your normal size and one much larger that could get tailored down. And then return the one you won’t need closer to the date.

You could also (if it has a good return policy) order your normal size and talk to her about finding a maternity dress/something easier to tailor if you do end up pregnant and far along.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Yes, you’re TTC, but unless you’re Miss Cleo you can’t predict the future and can’t always postpone living in the present for every future possibility. 

Either buy the dress knowing that maybe 8 months from now you might have to buy a new dress that doesnt match but will coordinate at least and cross that bridge when you come to it.

Or ask her if it is possible to pick a more forgiving or more readily available dress just in case or just ask her what she would want you to do if it turns out you can’t fit in the dress.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

This happened to my friend who was in my wedding-we had to go bridesmaid dress shopping knowing she could be anywhere from 0-8 months pregnant by the time of the wedding! She ended up being about 6 months along. We picked a dress for her that would be easy to accomodate a belly and ordered it two sizes up so it could be taken in if necessary. Is it possible for you to get a coordinating (but not matching) dress with this in mind? It actually ended up being a very easy process for both of us, the dress fit great, and there was no stress involved at all!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just ask her to order you an extra bolt of the fabric the dresses are made from. The dress shop can get it from the manufacturer. If it’s from the same dye lot as the dessert, it’ll match perfectly, and you can have a seamstress add an expansion panel if you have a bump to accommodate.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I say this  as someone who took years to get pregnant. Go ahead and get the dress. If you’re not pregnant by the wedding the last thing you want is a reminder of that fact. 

 

If if you do get pregnant you can sort an alternative as you also have no idea wat 6 month pregnant you might be like 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

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miss_s :  I’m getting married in September and one of my bridesmaids is pregnant, by the time of the wedding she will be about 7-8 months, so what I did was I allowed her to pick a maternity dress that she felt she would be comfortable in instead of trying to wear what the others are as it won’t be physically possible since the dress is rather fitted. My only requirement was that it be in the color Plum, as that is the color my other bridesmaids will be in. It’s called compromise and being understanding, hopefully the bride in your case will be willing to do the same. The only issue I see here is that you aren’t actually pregnant and may not be by the time of the wedding, so the accomodation may seem odd. 

Good luck.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I think depending on the return policy I’d just buy the dress in your normal size. If you are under 4 months along at the time of the wedding, you’ll probably be able to wear it (maybe letting it out just a bit). If you get pregnant sooner and are really showing by december, then hopefully the bride will be accommodating and let you wear something else.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

If it is like most typical bridesmaid dresses, ie flowy with some extra fabric then just order it in one or two sizes up and it can always be altered if it is too big. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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miss_s :  If she’s truly that good of a friend, I’d give her my size now and ask what she thinks you should do if you’re pregnant by that time and the dress doesn’t fit. Is she willing to consider letting you get a different, more forgiving dress if that’s the case? Again, who knows what will happen. You could get pregnant right away or it could take a while. That’s why I’d still order the dress in your current size right now. What store is it? Do you know the return policy?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Get the dress. There is no guarantee you’ll be pregnant. 

It took us years.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Twizbe :  this. And probably by getting a larger dress the OP is guaranteed to not get pregnant. The universe is a jerk – order your current size to up your chances of needing a new one hahahaha

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Yeah I mean you aren’t pregnant just hoping you will be. So I say order the dress and don’t worry about it until your actually pregnant. The bride most likely also took your conversation similarly, she probably thought, ok….well but she isn’t pregnant so im just gonna keep my planning moving along normally and when/if that happens we can deal with it then kinda thing. 

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