Post # 1
Ok so I know this sounds really backward… Now that we are ttc I am getting a bit anxious. Now whenever we do the BD afterward I am thinking “OH MY GOD WHAT IF WE JUST MADE A PERSON!?!?!” And it’s funny because that is the point… but my entire adult life I have been dedicated to preventing getting pregnant that it feels so weird! Did anyone else feel that way? It’s almost like when I quit smoking but sometimes would still reach into my purse for cigarettes when I got in the car. Only to remember that I don’t smoke anymore. Did that feeling ever go away? At lunch today with DH (omg first time I have used that abbreviation lol) and I was like “WHAT IF WE ARE MAKING A HUMAN RIGHT NOW?!?!?” It does freak me out a bit to know that all that stuff could be happening inside my body and I won’t even know for awhile. lol
Post # 2
I’m 31w and that thought still crosses my mind along with “omg – what did we do”. I think it’s normal!
Post # 3
I had those panic feelings until I delivered DD. Lol
We are TTC #2 right now and all those feelings are coming back.
Post # 4
I didn’t stop freaking out until after she was born. My husband and I still look at her and go “OMG HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?!”
Post # 5
Yes! I totally feel this way, I am in my TWW right now, cycle 1 but omg everytime we BD I get nervous and think.. Crap, no backing out now! 🙂 I’m hoping it’ll subside once we get our BFP!!
Post # 6
I wanted to get pregnant long before we started trying and then when I finally got a BFP, I freaked a little. Currently 7wks.
Post # 7
Haha ok good! Glad to know this is normal. It’s not like a regretful feeling it’s just the gravity of the choice to make a person. I think it is just so permanent and there’s so many things that could not go as planned. Ahhhhh!!!
Also this is probably a question for another thread but I have yet to get a positive opk this month?? I started taking them 7 days after my period ended almost 2 weeks ago. Anyone else not get a positive opk ever?
Post # 8
I just got my BFP. (Very early days at 5 weeks but yay). I’m 41 and I think I would have felt like that 10 years ago but at this point I have nothing else in life left I could possibly want to do but be a mum, I think it’s probably your age. Wait until you’re old and bored and cynical like me haha.
And yes I never got a positive OPK. I got one that was almost there but wasn’t. I stopped doing them after month 2 as they were a waste of time and money. I still got pregnant at the not exactly young age of 41 on cycle 5 and I saw zero EWCM that cycle either. I went by the way I felt and it obviously worked. So don’t get too hung up on what you’re told you have to do/see. It just stresses you out.
Post # 9
Ummm I was panicking walking the hallways of the hospital during my induction. There was a lady feeding her baby a bottle in the nursery and I was like “WTF have we done?! We don’t know how to take care of a baby! This was a horrible idea!”
But after she was born everything was awesome. Sometimes we still look at her and are like, can you believe we made a tiny human?! lol
Post # 10
Completely, completely normal. I look at my 2-year-old sometimes and go “Who thought THIS was a good idea to make me responsible for a human?” You’re bound to have some very natural fears and worries going into this experience. Obviously if it escalates into panic attacks or depression, then go talk to a professional to help you sort out those fears and anxieties. And just keep in mind your hormones will mess with you on that front from time to time.
And while it seems very frightening, you’ll learn fast and you’ll be surprised how quickly everything goes from “OMG!” to “No big deal.”
Post # 11
Well I’m glad to have read this post… as I am very prone to anxiety and since we decided to TTC next summer and i am currently losing weight for it…every few days I get “holly crap so we really are going to do to this in 8 months AHHHH!!!…” so I can totally see how I will be feeling the exact same way when we actually TTC and after BFP and most likely forever lol
Post # 12
The 2nd month we were TTC I saw an evap line on the stick and freaked! I was like, ahhhh this is all happening too fast! I wasn’t serious I take it back!!
But by the time I did get my BFP at month 5 I was SO ready for it! It’s such a fun and exciting/scary time, enjoy it! Good luck 🙂
Post # 13
Yup seems normal. I spend half the month going ‘crikey how will we manage/omg what if I’m pregnant/I don’t know if we’re ready’… and the other half thinking ‘c’mon fertile days/where’s my temp spike’… and a bit in between when I feel sad after peeing on a stick and getting a neg or seeing AF has arrived.
And to to answer your question about opks. I find them really sensitive on the time of day and random in them showing a positive when I’m clearly ovulating according to chart and temping. They are the avocados of the ttc world…”no, no, no, no (don’t test for 2 seconds), too late now”
Post # 14
Definitely normal. I had a baby almost 4 months ago and I still get those pangs, lol. Good luck, sending lots of baby dust your way! 🙂
Post # 15
UK-bee : They are the avocados of the ttc world…”no, no, no, no (don’t test for 2 seconds), too late now”
LMAO! YES!!! I have messed around with them before and I feel like the only time I have gotten close to a positive on them is in the afternoon. Mostly I am temp charting and checking for other symptoms. And sorry to be a little tgross but it’s hard for me to figure out if something is ewcm or semen they are kinda similar. lol Where as when we were preventing I could tell because we weren’t having sex during that time of the month.
I am so glad to know that I am not alone in all of this. I love the bee. I love knowing that these are normal feelings and that it doesn’t mean that I am not ready to give this a go or that I would be a bad mom or something. I almost feel like it’s a sign that I care a lot about what kind of parent I will be because this feels like such a massive step. So hopefully it’s good to be scared! But I couldn’t ask for a better partner. Thank you all for your comments! And to those of you TTC good luck!