- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Why hello there lovely ladies. I’m pretty new within this community but could use a bit of objective advice.
My husband and I have been married for just over 12 months – we have been together 7 years. I am 25 and he is 32 (33 next month) We own our own home and we both work full time in steady jobs. We have a bit in savings and no personal debt other than the mortgage. DH and I had decided to TTC at the end of next year as he is concerned about being a new father in his late 30’s. I know it isn’t that old, but that is easy for me to say while I am still in my 20’s. We plan to have 2 – 3 children.
We had a plan……… And like most plans it has been derailed…… I was up for a HUGE promotion at work (which had been promised to me by the GM, which I thought was good enough) which was supposed to come through this month. Needless to say management decided to go a different way. I was furious. Ready to walk out there and then kind of furious. I took some time and decided that I feel as though I am done with the company. So I started looking around and thought of this a fresh start. I will be able to get out of the coorporate management and get back to project management.
All things are good but then I realized that I am going to have to push back TTC as I will need to be employed for a minium of 12 months to qualify for maternity leave….. Then another thought… I will need to be in a job for 2 – 3 years to get to know it inside and out and feel comfortable leaving for 12 months before heading back in.
Things have calmed down at work and I am able to go to work each day without hating myself. I don’t want to work there forever but I do have alot of flexibility plus I have 6 months personal sick leave (pretty good for working while pregnant).
Before I get to the options I have I just want to quickly go over the Australian maternity leave as I know most of you are in the US.
We are elegible for 12 months unpaid leave in which your employer is required to have a position available for you when you return. At the moment our government will pay us for18 weeks of that at our minium wage (which I think is about $570 a week). We recently have elected a new PM who has put a new scheme forward. This goes into effect for all children born after July 2015 and will allow for 6 months leave at full pay (they will match your salary up to $150,000 per year).
So the options….
1) I can find a new job and put of TTC until I am able to in the new position which would be 2 years minimum. This would allow me to take advantage of the 6 months paid leave but make my husband at least 35 before his first child. I also will miss out on the sick leave associated with my current job.
2) We can start TTC now and I just stick it out at work until the baby is born, take the lesser paid leave option and head back after 12 months and look for a new job then. The down side with this option is that I miss out on alot of money from the maternity leave as I earn well above minium wage, the mortgage isn’t exactly where we wanted it and for a purely selfish reason, I have a huge backpacking trip through South America planned with my best friend
I’m not really sure on what decision to make. I don’t think that there is a right or a wrong one. I’m just hoping for some impartial views.
Thanks in advance