Post # 1
So I am keeping ttc hush hush right now. I was asked to be a bridesmaid in someones wedding in August. I am not super super close and would prefer to not share. Do you think I should let the cat outta the bag?
If I do get preggo I will be at most 24ish weeks but with all the medical problems we are facing ttc there is a good chance i will be a member of the 1yr + ttc club 🙁
Post # 3
No need to share. It is your personal business and you have no idea how long it’s going to take. Keep her in the dark just like everyone else until you’re ready to share.
Post # 4
I would keep it to yourself until you’re actually KU. Being 24 (or less) weeks pg shouldn’t stand in the way of you being able to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 5
Agreed. I also voted say nothing. I think your answer to your friend should be based on what you WANT to do rather than the TTC process. Much easier said than done and I should defiinitely practice what I preach!
Post # 6
@EverAfterBegins: Let’s say you get knocked up, when it is safe to tell (before it is on facebook or through word of mouth) call (not text or email) her and say: “I have something important to tell you and I hope you will be happy for us. After a far from easy journey, I am pregnant. I am really happy and hope to be part of your day. If you would prefer not to have me stand up at the alter with you, I will happily be in the audience”
Post # 7
I agree, no need to share at all. Even f you’re 24 weeks pregnant, you should still be able to serve as a Bridesmaid or Best Man unless you’re on bed rest or something.
I had a friend ask me to be in her wedding, and then a few days later asked me, “So what’s your baby schedule?” We were trying to get pregnant then, so I told her, but it ended up taking us over a year, and I was still not pregnant at her wedding. My point is, if you tell her you may regret it (as I did!).
Post # 8
Thanks guys! I really didn’t want to say anything I was just feeling a little guilty.
@Pollywog: I think this is exactly what I plan on doing.
Post # 9
@EverAfterBegins: I agree with everyone else. I use to plan my life around TTC. Well we can’t plan that trip, I might be X amount of months pregnant. Well here we are 9 cycles later and no pregnancy! Sounds like you have a good plan. Good luck!!! FX for you!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t say anything yet. When you get pregnant and its time to do dress fitting and stuff, then share it, but for now that you are not pregnant just keep it to yourself, especially if you are not that close to this person. GL
Post # 11
No need to share. When I asked my bridemaids, no one was pregnant. On my wedding day, 3 were. It all works out. 🙂
Post # 12
Share when you’re ready! When I asked mine, 0/4 were pregnant, later one got pregnant and had the baby 1 month before the wedding. It didn’t end up impacting anything. Even if you need to back out later for some reason, things happen and you can’t plan everything around being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.