(Closed) TTC Dilemma

posted 5 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What Should I do?
    Tell her now : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Say nothing : (66 votes)
    94 %
    other, see below : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    No need to share. It is your personal business and you have no idea how long it’s going to take. Keep her in the dark just like everyone else until you’re ready to share. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would keep it to yourself until you’re actually KU.  Being 24 (or less) weeks pg shouldn’t stand in the way of you being able to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

     

    Agreed. I also voted say nothing. I think your answer to your friend should be based on what you WANT to do rather than the TTC process.  Much easier said than done and I should defiinitely practice what I preach!

    Post # 6
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    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @EverAfterBegins:  Let’s say you get knocked up, when it is safe to tell (before it is on facebook or through word of mouth) call (not text or email) her and say: “I have something important to tell you and I hope you will be happy for us. After a far from easy journey, I am pregnant. I am really happy and hope to be part of your day. If you would prefer not to have me stand up at the alter with you, I will happily be in the audience”

    Post # 7
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    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree, no need to share at all. Even f you’re 24 weeks pregnant, you should still be able to serve as a Bridesmaid or Best Man unless you’re on bed rest or something. 

    I had a friend ask me to be in her wedding, and then a few days later asked me, “So what’s your baby schedule?” We were trying to get pregnant then, so I told her, but it ended up taking us over a year, and I was still not pregnant at her wedding. My point is, if you tell her you may regret it (as I did!).

    Post # 9
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    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @EverAfterBegins:  I agree with everyone else. I use to plan my life around TTC. Well we can’t plan that trip, I might be X amount of months pregnant. Well here we are 9 cycles later and no pregnancy! Sounds like you have a good plan. Good luck!!! FX for you!

    Post # 10
    Member
    4574 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wouldn’t say anything yet.  When you get pregnant and its time to do dress fitting and stuff, then share it, but for now that you are not pregnant just keep it to yourself, especially if you are not that close to this person. GL

    Post # 11
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    No need to share.  When I asked my bridemaids, no one was pregnant.  On my wedding day, 3 were.  It all works out. 🙂

    Post # 12
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    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Share when you’re ready! When I asked mine, 0/4 were pregnant, later one got pregnant and had the baby 1 month before the wedding. It didn’t end up impacting anything. Even if you need to back out later for some reason, things happen and you can’t plan everything around being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

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