TTC Guilt (Drinking a beer, eating some delicious high-nitrate foods)

posted 7 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Unless you’ve been told otherwise by your doctor, there’s no reason to eliminate those things in the TWW. They don’t affect implantation, and your baby won’t share a blood supply with you until 6 weeks. Obviously you don’t want to drink to the point where you’re vomiting and hungover, just for your general health.

Post # 3
342 posts
Helper bee

I did in the beginning but after being careful on what I ate for 6 months and nothing happening I stopped caring. 

Post # 4
622 posts
Busy bee

Yes, totally know what you mean!  Even though I know logically that having a drink or two won’t hurt anything that early on, I’ve still stressed over this.  I’ve also worried about caffeine.  Been TTC for 4-5 months.  The TWW is not fun!

Post # 7
2993 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

MargaritaVille :  the only thing I felt bad about was when I got really drunk (oops- don’t go to a scotch tasting with free champagne….) at 4 DPO, on the month I ended up pregnant. Otherwise I actually indulged more in “forbidden” things, since I knew after I got pregnant I wouldn’t be able to eat and drink whatever I wanted (although in reality I basically eat normally during pregnancy- just avoiding high Mercury fish and alcohol). None of those things have a negative effect on your fertility so you really don’t need to feel guilty, or even abstain, but that is your choice.

Post # 8
5146 posts
Bee Keeper

MargaritaVille :  Is there any reason you’re avoiding certain things?  When I was TTC both times I didn’t focus on not eating or drinking (not that I drank that much to begin with) things that I liked.  Don’t feel too guilty.

Post # 9
1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I wouldn’t stress over it, the stress and guilt is probably worse for you than the little indulgances you’re having. like PP said, do as you always do until your BFP

Post # 10
1443 posts
Bumble bee

I worried about this at first but as time went on I didn’t worry about it anymore.  Even now that I’m pregnant the only things I really have avoided have been alcohol (I don’t drink anyway) and caffine.  I only stopped the caffine when I got my BFP I drank coffee in the entire TWW up to that point.  Other than that I’ve had some cooked sushi, lunch meat, soft cheese, and have been fine. 

Post # 12
885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Well considering that I worry about everything and my doc told me to go out with girlfriends and have a good time drinking, I would think it’s fine! It makes the process so much easier if you let go a bit (easier said than done though). 

Post # 13
1609 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

MargaritaVille :  I do sometimes feel that guilt, but lately i have said screw it. In the past, I have successfully avoided alcohol, really bad foods… and even sometimes even coffee! I have missed out on fun nights with friends, and have gotten migraines from the lack of caffiene. The owrst part, is the feeling is frustration and regret when I get a bfn, and knowing all of hte things I missed out on for no reason. So now, I just live my life, drinking and eating what I want. If its meant to happen, itll happen!

Post # 14
439 posts
Helper bee

Before I knew I was pregnant, I was on diet pills and I got extremely drunk on tequila shots 2 weekends in a row (New Years was crazy this year). Now obviously we weren’t TTC or I wouldn’t have been on the diet pills. But my first ultrasound was good, baby has a healthy heartbeat, and my doctor all but laughed at my concerns from the patron and diet pills. If your doctor hasn’t stressed that you stay away from things, then don’t stress yourself out. For the first month you don’t share a blood supply, but stress can always affect a pregnancy.

Post # 15
1215 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Is there some evidence re: caffeine that I’m unaware of?  Everything I’ve read says that up to 300 mg a day is fine, and that’s what one of my good friends found when she researched the topic while pregnant.  

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