(Closed) TTC Hiatus (Miscarriage or otherwise)

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
Member
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@knittylady:  I’m so sorry for your loss. We miscarried at 8 1/2 weeks back in March. We also had to wait for AF to come, which for me took a whopping 10 weeks. It’s been almost 4 months and things have gotten easier. I just wanted to lend my support, and feel free to pm me if you need to talk!!

Post # 5
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217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@knittylady:  I’m not handling it very well actually! It’s tough, emotionally. We’re on our second cycle post miscarriage, and we had gotten pregnant on our first cycle of trying in February. It’s hard accepting that it might take a bit longer. Also, I get pissed off that I even have to think about all of this TTC stuff!!!! Ack. BUT I swear the pain does lessen a bit with time. I still think about our mc every single day, but I haven’t cried in a while and can openly talk about it with my husband and parents without getting too upset. 

Post # 6
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@knittylady:  I’m so sorry! We miscarried at 20 wks. We went in for our anatomy scan and found out that there was no heartbeat. We had to induce and actually deliver since we were so far along. We had to wait for AF to come and then wait 2 cycles. AF came a month after our miscarriage. By the time I went in for 6 wks PP check-up, my doctor was pleased with how I was healing and how my uterus felt, he told us we needed to wait 1 more cycle and we could start trying again. We ended up waiting an additional cycle because of how we felt and we also had timing issues (hubby works out of town). Initially, I was dealing better than hubby was with our loss. My pain and anger came about a week later and it was very hard for me to get over it. I ended up taking days moment by moment and that seemed to help. If I had a bad moment, I tried to think of something good or focus on smething good to help me.

Right now, we just had our first cycle where we tried and are in the TWW. Hubby and I have already talked about some things that we would like to do differently this next pregnancy. Hopefull, we will be pregnant soon, but if not, we are happy that we are closer than ever and our marriage has come out on the positive side of this whole thing.

Hugs and PM me if you have any questions or want to talk about anything!

Post # 7
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1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’m so, so sorry. That is so difficult to deal with. I’ll be on a TTC break in the next few days – we think this cycle was annovulatory, so I’m just waiting for blood test results to decide what to do next. I haven’t dealt with a miscarriage, but I was just diagnosed with PCOS, and we’ll be taking a break from actively trying until I can get my weight and my hormones under control.

I’ll be your buddy for venting/encouragement/etc.

Post # 8
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@redsmarties:  google Katie Humphrey. I think she has a book and a website with a lot of stuff that helps with PCOS by dealing with weight loss, etc. I’m pretty sure that’s her name. πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@Mrs. Bonnie Blue:  Thanks! I was diagnosed YESTERDAY, so I really don’t have a whole lot of information yet. That’s helpful, thank you.

Post # 10
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

@knittylady:  First up, I’m so sorry for your loss. πŸ™ 

We have had a lot of waiting around during our 18 months of TTC. Waiting for ovulation (which rarely came), waiting for long cycles to end, waiting for AF. 

Now that we are doing our second IVF, I’m almost used to the waiting. But it still sucks. πŸ™

Post # 12
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2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just read all of your posts and teared up reading about the heartache some of you are going through, or have gone through. I just wanted to say I’m so sorry for your losses, I can’t imagine the pain you have each gone through. I hope you find some peace within during your break and that when you are ready to move on, you can do so with courage, positive energy and the stregnth to know you can do it again. Big, big hugs and all my very best to each of you. You are all so strong for sharing your stories. πŸ™

Post # 13
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4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I’ll come on over here and share my story, since I don’t know what to do with the emotions that come along with the situation. 

Back in December, I unexpectedly got pregnant, but after a day of taking in the information, was really happy about it. Not long after that, a doctor’s appointment was in order, and I had an out of control thyroid disease at that point, and the doctor strongly urged me to terminate to get me under control. Despite wanting to keep baby, I had to say goodbye, and medically miscarried at home on Christmas Eve. 

The months following that have been awful. I resented Darling Husband for a little while because he felt relief, since he “wasn’t ready,” as he said, even though the reason we went the way we did was on doctor’s orders. I cried for so long. I was due on August 10, was about 7 weeks along. Knowing that my due date is fast approaching is giving me anxiety again, although I have forgiven my husband for not sharing the grief. But unlike you ladies, my reaction is entirely different.

I am now disgusted with children, and don’t find myself ever wanting to try for kids. I think my contempt comes from not being a healthy, safe environment for the first baby. I feel guilt in not being able to see it through, to know if my baby was a boy or a girl, to know who it looked most like, and all that. I also don’t want to minimize that baby by trying for another one. It’s not fair to the one that couldn’t survive. 

I find myself now preventing babies like the plague, even though my hashimoto’s disease is now under control. I don’t know if I’ll ever be ready, but I know it won’t be any time soon.

Post # 14
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5107 posts
Bee Keeper

@StuporDuck:  Wow, what a struggle… I am so sorry. You are so strong to go through that =/ Big hugs.

Post # 15
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

@StuporDuck:  I am so sorry, hon. I’ll be thinking of you this August. xx

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