Post # 1
before we go to the doctor and make a big deal of ttc. i was just wondering if any of you bees have any hints for me. time of day, position, what to eat, what not to eat or do. i heard the morning is better for sperm. we have only been tryin for a little bit but i do not want to go to the doctor yet. hints ?
Post # 3
BUMP. Wanna see people’s responses too.
Post # 4
You should check out The Great Sperm Race, it’s available on YouTube, super interesting and has some helpful hints in there.
Post # 5
I read the book, “What the expect before your expecting.” I borrowed it from the library. I thought it was a good book.
Post # 6
are you charting at all? that will help you know when you’re ovulating. my doctor said every other day, boxers, exercise for both of us, positions where you’re laying down or on your side, etc. oh and laying still for a little while after.
Post # 7
@mrshersch74: Can you tell us how long you’ve been trying?
I can highly recommend charting as a way of knowing when you ovulate and the rhythm of your cycles, the more you know about your body, the better you can plan your TTC.
Another couple of hints:
- Take a good multi-vitamn or prenatal that includes folic acid
- Avoid using any kind of lubricant if you can, or try Pre-Seed
- Try propping your legs up for 20 minutes after BD’ing
- I know we all hate to hear it, but relax! Sex should still be fun and not just about reproducing 🙂
Post # 8
Read the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility!
Post # 10
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I second this!! i just watched it this week and while some parts are quite humerous (and slightly over-dramatic) i actually found it very educational and really gave a great perspective of the journey those poor sperm have to reach the egg!! Its a great watch if you have about an hour, its broken down into 10 min segments if you want to watch it on and off.
I also read what to expect before you’re expecting and found it to be relatively helpful.
Post # 11
@KoiKove: triple this
This will give you almost all of the tips you need
Post # 12
@Kemma: we have not been really trying, more like not preventing. i just dont want to have to go to the doctor for this, i just want it to happen. but it was been about four months, i just dont want to give up hope. i have baby fever like crazy. he says it will happen with time, i just really want to be a younger mom, not fifty and having kids. just kinda in need of support and helpful hints.
Post # 13
@mrshersch74: I agree with all of the above advice, particularly about reading the book.
Unfortunately, it can take a normal, healthy couple up to a year to conceive, and most specialists won’t see you until you’ve been trying at least that long unless you’re over 30 or 35 (I don’t know the exact age) or have a pre-existing fertility problem. Charting is a fantastic way to be able to see that your body is doing what it needs to be doing…ovulating…and using your temperatures and other fertility signs (cervical mucus is a big one) to tell when your body is gearing up to ovulate, which is really important in being able to time intercourse. Taking Control of Your Fertility is hands down the absolute best book about learning what your body is doing every month and helping you optimize your chances of pregnancy.
Post # 14
@mrshersch74: Don’t be alarmed or worried if it does take some time to fall pregnant, there are so many variables that can effect fertility and sometimes it just a little longer for all those variables to click in to place. Give your body (and his) a chance to do its thing and try to enjoy the process 🙂
Post # 15
I also would recommend Taking Charge or Your Fertility– even if you aren’t ready to start temping and stuff like that, it sounds like there are some obvious signs that would help you figure out when to try.
Or for a super, super basic tip, my now pregnant friend’s midwife told her, from her period until about 11 days in, no sex and no anything else for her husband, then from day 12-16, sex every day or every other day. That would very roughly cover when most women ovulate so should increase your chances without having to focus on it too much.
Post # 16
If you have not been really “trying” but more like not preventing then yes the chances of you getting lucky are slim. I think you need to be more aware of your cycles, when you’re ovulating. Unless you are literally having sex every single day you are likely missing your ovulation date. There’s only a 15% chance of us getting pregnant every cycle. 24-48 hours (depending on which source you read) where conception happens. Those are pretty small windows. I was tracking my cycles and temping and it took my husband & I 9 long cycles to conceive.
And those recommended days are based on a average 28 day cycle. I’ve yet to meet someone who actually has a 28 day cycle! Mine are closer to 36 days on average so I don’t ovulate typically till day 27ish.
You really need to know YOUR body.