Post # 1
Since I haven’t come across a recent post on the topic, and would like to hear some feedback, I thought it would be helpful to write a post.
It’s been 2 1/2 months since my wedding and DH and I were fortunate enough to concieve immediately (pretty sure it was the wedding night), unfortunately for us we miscarried at 6 wks.
We are approaching 30 and settled comfortably into a home and lifestyle, this was the next big “thing” for us. We both want a baby, and feel as though this is a good time in our lives to become parents. Obviously we were overjoyed to find out we were pregnant, and just like that all the joy was gone.
Since the miscarriage I have had one full cycle and am currently 3 days away from AF … I tested this morning and it came back negative. I’m disappointed, but still holding out hope that I just tested to early. DH is very supportive, but I cant help but feeling that I’ll disappoint him with a negative result.
Is anyone else going through the same thing ? How are you handling the rollercoaster of emotions ? I swear I feel like a crazy lady sometimes, crying and upset one moment and laughing and hopeful the next.
Post # 2
I’m only 2 cycles in TTC and haven’t been through a miscarriage, so I can’t imagine how much harder it must be to try after a miscarriage. That being said, I’d encourage you to lean on your husband and involve him in the whole TTC process. Take and read the tests with him so that he’s there for support if there’s a BFN and celebration if there’s a BFP. Either way, it helps him know where you are in this process, which helps him to support you. I also got a great idea from a fellow bee that always goes out for a date night when she gets her period. We’re gonig to plan to do this and I think it will take a bit of the sting out of the BFN, will give you something to look forward to and gives you some good couple time if you need support. Plus, guilt free wine!
Post # 3
MrsCook2014: I’m so sorry for your loss. I really encourage you to check out the “TTC after miscarriage” thread. This was a huge source of support for me when I was in the position you are currently in, and it makes a world of difference to be able to talk to people who understand what you’re going through.
Take it one day at a time, and let yourself feel all the various emotions. Let yourself grieve your loss, but also try to find other things to enjoy while you continue to TTC, so it’s not your only focus. Good luck, and I hope you get your rainbow baby very soon!
Post # 4
MrsCook2014: I’m sorry you had to go through that and continue to feel those rollercoaster emotions. They get less frequent with time but still hurt. I agree with Magpie86:. Check out that thread, it was a shoulder to lean on and a great group of ladies to listen and comiserate with you. They all know what you’re feeling. My MC was in June at 6 weeks too and we’re only now starting our first cycle of TTC. I’m still afraid, but trying to start fresh and be excited and hopeful again. Good luck to you!
Post # 5
MrsCook2014: I will third the TTC after miscarriage thread. I’ve had two MC’s and that board has been literally the only place where I can talk to people who know exactly what I’m going through.
Also, check out Circle+Bloom. They have a free meditation for relaxation and recovery after miscarriage. I listened to it at night before bed and I would wake up feeling better than I had in a long time. I ended up buying their package for natural fertility cycles, 28 recordings for each day of your cycle. I seriously have been feeling better and more positive than I have since I was pregnant the second time. I know I sound like an ad, but I just really got a lot out of it.
Last thing I’ll say is let yourself go through the roller coaster and don’t beat yourself up over it. As time passes, it will get easier and less rocky. You’ll still have days where for some reason you can’t shake the grief- and that’s OK. Those days will just happen fewer and further apart as you gain some distance from the loss.